Decision to get information about my birth parents

[Alekay]

I have at last made the decision that I will put in the forms to retrieve my birth information.

At 31 I feel it is time to do this, I have thought about this a lot. It is a hard decision to make though I am hoping it is the right one.

My worst fear is that my birth mother or family have a contact veto meaning they do not want contact.

I am not sure what I want to do once I have the information but at least I will have the information for when that time comes.

Ahh well just wanted to see what it felt like to write it down.

[Sadaussiemum]

good luck to u. Just because u get the info doesn't mean u have to do a thing with it. eg u can get the info then research and find out about ur "birth family" and see if u really want to know them. u have made a huge huge choice :hugs:

[Alekay]

Thank you :hugs: I agree about not having to do something with the information. At least I have it for if or when I do decide. I will get my original birth cert so maybe i will have a clue to who I am or something

[MummaFug]

What a brave thing you are doing.

Good Luck on your search. I wish you all the best :hugs:

[moozle]

Maybe you can help... my DH is adopted and says he never wants to know. I don't get that. I mean I really want to know medical history for our children. Do you think he really doens't want to know or he's just scared to know?

[Mama24Crazies]

You are a brave little soul.

Congrats on making your big decision in taking your first step.:yelclap:

The subject of revealing the biological parents details, came up when I was an egg donor. I have donated three times and all have been completely anonymously.

I felt very strongly about going on a register that allowed the future child, to be able to obtain contact details should they require it. I do not see myself as the biological 'parent', but I can understand that it would be important to some people to see where they came from, and to find answers to their biological makeup.

Please keep us posted.

Wishing you all the very best

Love

Kazbo :wave:

[Alekay]

Maybe you can help... my DH is adopted and says he never wants to know. I don't get that. I mean I really want to know medical history for our children. Do you think he really doens't want to know or he's just scared to know?

My brother is also adopted and he has no interest in finding his birth family. So it could be a male thing. I have always wanted to find mine especially as I know she had a daughter who she was bring up who was 2 when I was born.

So he may just really not want to know. I would not push it as it is rather emotional and a hard thing to come to terms with. It really is something you have to come to terms with yourself. Even getting the information there is no guarantees you can get medical info especially if there is a contact veto on his file, which can be a feeling of being rejected all over again. As for wanting the medical info you can get genetic testing and see what comes up.


You are a brave little soul.

Congrats on making your big decision in taking your first step.:yelclap:

The subject of revealing the biological parents details, came up when I was an egg donor. I have donated three times and all have been completely anonymously.

I felt very strongly about going on a register that allowed the future child, to be able to obtain contact details should they require it. I do not see myself as the biological 'parent', but I can understand that it would be important to some people to see where they came from, and to find answers to their biological makeup.

Please keep us posted.

Wishing you all the very best

Love

Kazbo :wave:

Thank you!


What a brave thing you are doing.

Good Luck on your search. I wish you all the best :hugs:

Thank you! I hope it turns out how I would like it, that said I have no idea how I want it to turn out :rolleyes:

[moozle]

Thanks Alekay, I guess it makes sense. I think I'd be like you though. All the best. I hope you find what you are after :) Keep us posted!

[waterlily]

I wish you all the luck. A friend of mine whom is adopted never wanted to meet her birth mother then she found our her mother didn't want her to have any contact with her period and it was really heart breaking for my friend even though she didn't want to meet her either IYKWIM.
I hope you get the answers your looking for.