DH away for 3 - 4 months while Im pregnant

[Squiggles]

Hi everyone,

I was just interested to hear from anyone who has had their partner away while they were pregnant and how they felt about it.

My DH looks as though he is going to have to work in Melbourne for the next 3 or 4 months and be there for the majority of the working week - eg 5 days, 4 nights every week. We live in country SA and I already spend all day on my own (I work from home) and can feel pretty isolated some days. Our closest neighbour is about 1 km away and they are my inlaws who only spend 6 months of the year down here... so its pretty much an empty house. I have 2 dogs and a cat to keep me company but I have to say I am feeling scared about being here on my own for that long while I am pregnant. DH has been travelling for work for the last few years but never more than 1 or 2 nights at a time and I can handle that, but now he will have his own apartment to live in, and we will barely see eachother :gloomy:

Just wondered if anyone can share theirt similar experiences?

[mythreelittlemonkeys]

my DH was away for 3 weeks at a tiem during pregnancy...and now and before Xmas he was away for 5 weeks...not quite the same as he comes home for a week inbetween shifts...I know it will be hard for you but praps you could plan some trips to Melbourne to see him...and I had to get through it by thinking he doing this to provide best he can for us both and made the most of the time we did get together...plus gave me lots of time to do pregnancy things he wouldnt be interested in (ie shopping) and he didnt have ot put up with my gross morning sickness or mood swings too much and that made us sweeter to each other :)

[ozzysmum]

DP was away month on/month off while i was pregnant and for a few months after ozzy was born. it's hard but it was also good as it was truly the last time to have a chance for time just for myself. i didn't have to worry about my moods or when i wanted a snooze or anything like that and it was really ok :) i was a bit freaked the closer it got to my due date (DP cam back 10 days before) that i might pop early, but it didn't happen. As he was 2 days travel away it was a big concern but i'm sure your DH would make it back in time from melbourne if anything happened!
The hardest part for me was being left on my own with a ten day old baby and knowing it was for a whole month, but my mum was over a lot and very helpful so i got through it
good luck:)

[Squiggles]

I had to get through it by thinking he doing this to provide best he can for us both and made the most of the time we did get together.

I keep trying to remind myself of that... its not like he would choose to spend so much time away if it wasn't for the greater good of our family. I know it will be hard on him too and I am so proud of him for doing his best for us.

I still think it sucks though!!! We are really best mates and so close - especially because being so isolated where we live and me working from home most days he is the only human contact I have. Im a bit scared I will go a bit loopy!

Thanks for the support :)

[EskimoMumma]

Big :hugs: to you.

I dont know how i could cope without DP around as well. But, think of the money that will be saved with the food bill and the likes hehe.

And iw ould suggest that you look around and see if you are on the best plan for std calls :)

And hey, maybe you could save up some money and go down for a visit with him :o

[littleboyblue]

My DH was away for almost all of my pregnancy he went overseas when I was 6 weeks pregnant and got home 3 weeks before I delievered. (husband in army) We decided to try to get pregnant before he went so I would have something to look forward to and keep me occupied while he was gone the only bad bits was he was not there to see our baby at the ultrasound scans and hear it's heart beat although I wish he was here with me I spent most of my pregnancy being sick so it would have been no fun for him watching me vomit every 5 mins.

As long as your partner is home for the birth I say enjoy the time by yourself and RELAX.

If you need to chat PM me as iv'e been through all the up's and downs at least your man is still in Australia and you don't have to stress if he is alive every min.

[mythreelittlemonkeys]

I worry about going loopy too!! I dont know hardly anyone over here (I only emigrated last July) and I have to say was tough as my hubby flew out 1 day after I emigrated...then pregnancy came and went...now I have my hands really full and though some days I do find it pretty hard work I know I have him and when he home it sooooooooooo good! I make apoint of planning stuff for each day - even if it is a room to tidy/clean (though prefer shoopping!!)Perhaps you have something you always planned to do but never had the time...I have just embarked on doing our photos which include hundreds of mine pre marriage, our wedding photos(2 years ago :) ) and all of the new ones!! It will keep me very busy!!

[Squiggles]

Well its official DH leaves for work in Melb on Monday. I have the wonderful job of booking a hotel for him to start with and then looking for a rental apartment :gloomy:

I have my morphology scan next Thurs so he will be coming back for that - so I am lucky.

Lots of bub hubbing and TV watching in store for me from now on!