I dont know why he does it

[heymamma]

Hi all,

DS(2) has been forever screaming....he starts at somthing so little...then he just doesnt stop for ages!!!
We have tried telling him to stop..or ask him whats wrong etc...even put him in the naughty spot or in his bed...but he just doesnt stop...i dont know what to do..im afraid our neighbours will start complaining soon :eek:
DH cant take as much as i can...he is going crazy from it....I told him maybe its just a phase....he said "Well it may be but i cant turn it off like you do" cause once ive tried everything i just try ignoring him...i was told that helps.
But nothing is working...we just dont know why he is doing it or what to do about it.
I'm going to be in a mental asylum before the weeks out if this keeps going on.:banghead: :crying:

[Chickadee]

Hugs to you and your DH. :hugs:

Is this your son's version of a temper tantrum? If so, I don't think any sort of discipline like a time out is going to work. All I can suggest is to try something completely different to interupt him. How is his language, if he could calm down would he be able to tell you what is wrong? With my DD recently she has been going into huge crying fits, but she has very good speech and if I cuddle her and remind her to use her words then she will tell me what's wrong (through sobs and gulps for air :rolleyes: ).

What would happen if you did something completely unexpected, like start a tickling game with him or started yelling and making funny noises back at him? I know that that is sort of like "rewarding" the bad behaviour, but it may help interrupt the pattern of behaviour and at least shorten the length of time he spends yelling.

[3boyzmum]

Honey I know how you feel, my youngest does this to me all the time, my older boys used to do it too, I think it's just the age. What i find works for me is to put Josh in his room and let him scream it out, I did this with Jays and Tommy and eventually they just stopped throwing their tantrums. It did take a while but we got there in the end!:thumbsup: . My DH can't stand the screaming either but I always tell him that until he comes up with a better plan he can just suck it up.:devil6:

[heymamma]

I have tried asking him what he wants...somtimes i can work it out...but other times he screams because he wants something he cant have.
I have also tried just playing with him trying to make him happy so he stops...but nope that doesnt work either.:rolleyes:
Its so hard because when DD was his age you could have a conversation with her...but him he cant say alot or understand very much.

[Vespera]

They had this on Tiny Tearaways last night. 2 twin boys who would scream and scream and scream.

What they ended up doing was ignoring them while they scream and as soon as they stopped they paid attention to them or played with them so you are rewarding them for the good behaviour not paying attention to them when they are naughty.

I know it would be hard to put into practice (I cant ignore my dog when he whines) but it seemed to work with the little boys.

Good luck :)

[heymamma]

See the thing is..i could ignore it.....its very hard to but i know if i ignore him it will help....but i worry about the neighbours etc....Cause he is very very loud!!