Freaking out for no real reason...(TMI)

[SassyMummy]

Not too long ago, DP and I were being stupid...and, having run out of protection (I'm not on the pill...we use condoms and condoms alone)...decided to use the unreliable "withdrawl method."

At the end of it, he let me know that he was ejaculating...not ABOUT to ejaculate...whilst still in my body. He managed to pull out, but (sorry about TMI) there was only a very small amount of ejaculate fluid that left his body. It's made me scared that some of it may have been left inside of me.

It could be because I'm just worrying that I'm feeling this way...

But yesterday I threw up my dinner. I don't really know why. It can't be due to weak stomach or anything...because I'm just not like that. Even during my first pregnancy, I threw up only once...but still, I can't help but worry that it's the beginning of morning sickness (especially when DP joked about it).

I've also been feeling light-headed and rather sick...and the smell of pizza (we have leftovers in the fridge...) makes me want to VOMIT. I had to leave the room earlier because the smell was so awful.

I don't really WANT to be pregnant...but I mean, if I was, I guess I'd be okay with that (after adjusting to the idea). DP, on the other hand, would be less than thrilled about it.

Is there any reason why I should be concerned...or am I just feeling this way because I'm freaking myself out for no reason?

Editted to add: I also think I was about day 13-14 of my cycle...(a 28 day cycle).

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

hmmm sounds a bit sussed to me.Id be taking a preg test.Good luck :fingerscrossed: ur not :hugs: try not to stress too much

[JnA]

I think we (as women) put too much stress on ourselves.. do a HPT and then you can freak out at the result, if you like.

Best of luck, maybe you have a virus instead.





















(ps, I know it's very easy of me to say 'don't freak out', but if I was in your situation, that's what I would be telling myself too)

[wantagirl]

Take a test and you will know for sure! You didn't mention if you are late yet or just expecting af? I would wait to miss a period before freaking out to much. It only takes once but with just one act of sex, I am sure you are fine.

[Angelmist♥]

Yep I agree, do a test so you know for sure.TBH if that was me, I'd be definitely thinking I was pregnant.There's a lot of 'signs' there IYKWIM...But then again maybe your mind is playing funny tricks because you've been stressing about it.Good luck with it :)

[TJ]

One way to find out - Take a HPT.
What day are you upto now? Is AF late yet?

Very high chances that you could be pregnant!

hope it works out either way

[EskimoMumma]

I felt the same way you feel now when I fell pregnant with this baby. I did want another one but then had my doubts, but at the same time me and DP still had un-protected sex, knowing what the outcome could be. and to be honest, we couldnt be happier :hugs:
Best of luck to you and I hope you get a HPT.

[luckymama]

i hope you get the outcome you want :hugs:
lets us know how you get on :yes:

[Adria]

Hi there don't forget you have the option of the morning after pill. I have never used it before, but i know you have up to 72hrs after sex to use it. might be worth looking into if it's not to late

[luckymama]

oh thats right, its a good idea if now isnt the right time for a baby, and you can just buy it over the counter too from the chemist, i think you have to speak to the chemist tho, and then they take your dets and then you get it, i dont think it costs much

[Mummamoo]

The only suggestion is wait until AF is late and do a test. If you are pregnant then you and your partner have to make a joint decision as to what to do.

What I find frustrating is that you said that DP would less than pleased if you where to be pregnant, but you both chose to have sex without contraception ??!! Does he not realise that he is playing russian roulette ??!!

The withdrawal method is anything but safe. He doesn't have to ejeculate for you to become pregnant. The "pre-ejeculate", which he can't feel leave his body is extremely high in sperm !! That alone could get you pregnant.

If he doesn't want another baby yet, then HE has to make sure that he uses contraception. And if you know that he doesn't want another baby, then you need to make sure he uses contraception.

I hope everything works out for you the way you want it to.

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

The only suggestion is wait until AF is late and do a test. If you are pregnant then you and your partner have to make a joint decision as to what to do.

What I find frustrating is that you said that DP would less than pleased if you where to be pregnant, but you both chose to have sex without contraception ??!! Does he not realise that he is playing russian roulette ??!!

The withdrawal method is anything but safe. He doesn't have to ejeculate for you to become pregnant. The "pre-ejeculate", which he can't feel leave his body is extremely high in sperm !! That alone could get you pregnant.

If he doesn't want another baby yet, then HE has to make sure that he uses contraception. And if you know that he doesn't want another baby, then you need to make sure he uses contraception.

I hope everything works out for you the way you want it to.
Well said Mummamoo

[SassyMummy]

Thanks for the replies.

Yeah, I considered the morning after pill...but by the time I even thought about it, it was too late.

I know what you're saying Mummamoo...we're both idiots. But, I guess...that's what happens in the heat of the moment...you just don't think rationally.

Ryno's Mum...yeah, I kinda want another baby...but at hte moment, I don't. Well, in a clucky kinda way I do...but in a practical way, I'd like to put off TTC until mid 2008. I don't think we could REALLY financially deal with another baby...and I dunno whether I could handle 2 young children.

That said, I don't necessarily want to have an abortion either...and i know that, as soon as reality set in (if I am, indeed, pregnant) I'll be over the moon with joy about it anyway. I want a baby ONE DAY...just not yet...but I guess, if my body has other plans...

Thanks for the advice everyone!

I'll get a pregnancy test when AF is due (which isn't yet) and let you all know!

[Adria]

I read this post to DH this morning.... the first thing he said was " well in the heat of the moment you don't really think or care."
It's very true, im sure there is alot of us out there, that it has happened to. For most i guess we got away with it, others aren't so lucky!

Sassymummy Good luck with it all, and hope it works itself out for the best!:hugs:

[SassyMummy]

Thanks for that Adria. Generally, I'm intelligent and forethinking, but at that very moment, my mind was completely someplace else.

I appreciate that you (and your husband) understand!:hugs: :thumbsup:

[LittleBoysRock]

I dont see the harm in getting a HPT when AF is due. Better to ease your mind than continue to worry.

:fingerscrossed: You get the result you want most. :hugs:

[chubbybubby]

Hmmm I am one who knows ALL ABOUT getting pregnant that way! We didn't even really do anything!! Got a bit excited, put it in, pulled it out, then put a condom on... but it was too late! That one little indiscretion caused DS to be concieved! So if your DP is as fertile as mine, you are in big trouble girly!! :)