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nicoleE
04-08-2010, 23:01
DD is 3 in October and in the last few weeks has been toilet trained (she was trained in under a week and since has only had 3 accidents due to holding on too long!) I still put her in pullups when going out to most places like to shops, dancing class etc but she is in knickers at home. I put her either in a nappy or pull up for her nap in the day, although she is always dry and I put her in a nappy at night, some nights she is dry in the morning, some wet.

Now... I get her to sit on the toilet before she gets ready for bed, even if she has recently gone. Once changed in nappy and PJs we read books for almost 30mins before 'sleep time'. She normally goes to sleep ok but most nights will call out a few times 'cant sleep' or something like that, purely attention seeking, we ignore some calls and go in to others and make little fuss but tell her its sleep time etc, etc. The problem is the last 5 nights she has started calling out 'i need to go to the toilet'... now i feel guilty denying her to use the toilet but she just went 30mins before! I must say 3 out of the 5 nights she has done something on the toilet but I still think its just attention and she doesnt really have a real need to go IYKWIM. This needs to stop as most nights hubby isnt home until late and I read books in her bed with my 8month old and he falls asleep while we are reading so I end up saying goodnight and leaving her room with him asleep in my arms heading to his room to feed him and put him down so I cant be taking her to the toilet again straight away.
I thought about putting her in a pull up and a potty in her room (we close her door when she goes to bed as we have cats I dont want in there while she is asleep) but I dont really want to go back to the potty if I dont have to, but I thought this might give her the option of going, but by herself so no attention from me...

Has anyone else had a similar problem? What did you do? What should I do - ignore and refuse her - let her go - something else????

Myztiks#1Fan
04-08-2010, 23:08
if she has only just started TT and she says she needs to go, let her go as you dont want her to feel like she isnt allowed to. yes, its a PITA but i know i would rather let my child go to the toilet then to have accidents when they are so proud of themselves for being in undies over nappies esp as we praise them so much for doing so well.

JJAZ
04-08-2010, 23:24
DD1 does this for attention, She has been toilet trained for a loooong time though and i can often tell when she really needs to go and when she is pretending.

We just ignore the behaviour now, but we know for sure its attentiong seeking... Sorry not really any help just wanted to let you no you are not alone and we have the same problem.

all the best

veve
04-08-2010, 23:39
we have no issues with toilet use at any stage of the day or night - even on the time out mat, we put the potty right there, so they couldn't get OFF the time out mat, but could go :laughing:

I would just go with the flow babe - do the toilet thing ... and tuck her straight back it. She IS probably trying it back on ... but if you dont turn all the lights on ... or keep your back to her while she is on the toilet, she will probably move onto a different approach soon enough .. lol