new bub coming soon worried about toddler

[littleleos]

hey girls... I have pretty much done natural attachment parenting with my little... well nearly 2 year old.

I have only been away from him for 8 hrs to attend a calm birth class and it was really hard we both cried when we reunited.

I am expecting to have a baby in the new 2 - 4 weeks and I am really worried about leaving him with my parents. My hubby is not really switched on and I am also worried that he is not going to be looked after well :( but I guess he wont have me looking over his shoulder... so he will have to think for him self.

how did you little one cope when your where away. I am hoping to get out asap but am worried I may be in hospy for days :(

thanks

[Bell & Bug]

What I found helped immensly was having my 2yo spend time with MIL before I went into labour, so that DD1 would get used to spending time with MIL and it wasn't a new thing to happen when we had to drop her off at MILs.

DF is really good with her care, so the night that I was in hospital was ok. I missed her dearly, and she missed me, but we got through it fine.

Maybe 'teach' your husband how to care for your son, so he knows what he likes and how he likes things done for him, and what his routine is etc, so that things aren't completely different while you are away from him. Having your parents and husband spend time with him before the arrival is also a great idea, so he has time to get used to it.

[Purplebird]

I agree with Memie. It would best to start getting your DS used to others in small amounts now if you can. When the baby comes it will be hard for him, as it is for any toddler. He will probably need to rely on your DH a bit more, especially whilst you ate establishing breastfeeding. Can they have some special time or outings together in the next couple of weeks, perhaps including MIL too? I know my DD found it a bit easier to be without me when I gave birth becauseshe had spent a few days with my mum around a lot of the time. Best of luck :)

[littleleos]

thanks for you tips girls ... my mum lives 3ish hrs away and my MIL is in la la land, she isnt really the motherly type if you know what I mean. Aiden really loves my mum, prob wont even know that I am going. so really I think I am the one that needs help :( I get tears in my eyes just thinking about leaving him behind.
part of me is worried about things going wrong.. and the other half is just going to miss him... I just love him to bits.

[Purplebird]

:hugs: I know it's hard. I felt the same about DD too. It will all be fine though, it's just a time of lots of changes :)

[Areca]

You'll still see him when you're in hospital. I'm sure whoever has him will bring him up so it's not like you'll go days without seeing him at all. You'll cope...cause, well you just will :)

[littleleos]

im sure ill be ok. I am just really hormonal and really attached to my little man. he means the world to me. but I am so excited for him... he is going to be the best big brother. going to be the best 2nd birthday pressie ever.