Feeling left out...again

[mum2ryan]

I don't know if i'm over reacting, but I always feel like I get left out of things that my DH goes to do on the weekends or whenever we have spare time. I missed out on so much when I was pregnant with Ryan while we had a jetski, I never got to use it before DH blew up the engine and sold it to a wrecker.
Today he was invited to go out on a friends boat with him and his father to show him the best spots to cruise the waterways, which is boring if you ask me and I wouldn't risk going in choppy water so close to my delivery.
But when his friend pulled up to get him, his whole family ( wife and 4 kids) were in the car along with some other people and they got DH to go and get his knee board and skis. I think they were setting up on a beach somewhere or along the river.
DH grabbed them and got in the car, not even finding out if I could meet up with them somewhere. To me it feels liks he'd rather spend his time with his friend and their kids, rather than his wife and his own son.

If any Gold Coast mummies see this today and want to catch up at a park or something, let me know.

Thanks for the vent....still feel horrible though

[rynosmum]

Sometimes men get get too overexcited and forget to even ask.... Mine does it all the time until he gets a polite kick up the backside from me.:laughing:

Don't worry - it's too hot out there today, they will probably have a horrible time:hugs: Just keep thinking that:D

[InSaneOne]

i know the feeling.

dh takes the older girls to their youth group meetings. i used to be quite active and help out lots until i had bubs. it was ok to bring her to a meeting when she was little but now she wriggles to get down and wants to run around and chatters through the meeting. it would be nice if i could go for once without bubs (but all my babysitters go to the meetings).

the only thing to do is to go out during the week while he is at work. i love going to the shops for a few hours just to get out of the house. even having my friends and their children over gives me something to do. helps beth socialize and gives me some adult conversation.

it is hard but i suppose it is something that we give up (to a degree) when we have children. maybe that is something your dh needs to remember.

[Mum&bubs]

Aww I dont have any advice for you nor do I live on the gold coast I just wanted to give you some big hugs your way :hugs: :hugs: I know what its like to feel left out of things so i hope you cheer up soon! How about organizing next weekend for just you, your hubby & son?

[heymamma]

Awww hun...you poor thing...I could have met you to...DH went to golf...what a bugga i didnt see this earlier.:thumbsdown:

[louiseward]

Sorry to hear you have had a bad day :hugs: - If I had seen this earlier I could have gone as DH was making kitchen today instead of yesterday - so was on my own with kids.

[suemp]

yeah i too saw this too late. i know what you mean . dp is totally into fishing, boating, skurfing etc, normally i try to go along but sometimes its not viable. he keeps telling ds that we will go camping in a few weeks. with 8 weeks left of my preg i tell him the only camping i will do is in a cabin!!! our neighbours and friends just bought a ski boat so i can see being left out. they have a 5 month old but also parents around willing to babysit. i have my kid/s 24/7.
pm me anytime he does it again cause as a fishing widow i fully understand

[JorBai]

Oh Leonie, you poor thing. I know what you mean, its probably worse because you have raging pregnancy hormones as well.

Hope your all better now.PM me or text me if you need to chat:hugs:

[anita_fairy]

you know what... dont sit around and wait for him to come home, go out, go shopping or just window shopping if you're strapped for cash and dont be there when he gets home and when he asks where you were make up something exciting. Next time you know he's going out, go and do something before he leaves and keep doing this until he think 'hold on, what is she up to, she's out there having fun and i'm not part of it'. Make yourself unavailable to him. But when he comes home dont nag him about where he's been or if he had fun without you, just pay attention to him then go on and tell him all about your plans for tomorrow and just seem really busy.