dilemma

[blessedmummy]

if anyone is interested im in a dilemma atm.. id really would love to have another baby someday and now i dont know if DH feels the same anymore about it, cause i knew that he wanted another one someday, i just dont know what he feels anymore.. ive tried to talk to him but i dont know what to say.. i know that we are already blessed with two beautiful girls aged 3 and 22months. i just dunno what to do really.. any ideas?

me25
DH25:wave:
Emily3:smiliedance:
Clare22months:smiliedance:

[Alatariel]

How about you start a 'Wow, I cent believe they are growing up so quickly! remember when they were just tiny babies?' conversation. You can have a lovely reminice with DH about the girls then slip in, 'I'd love to have another baby'. Make sure to say 'oh not right now, of course! but sometime in the future! what do you think?'
Just let it happen 'naturally' in an unforced conversation. He hasnt said flat out no, so its always been a possibility so he shouldnt be too shocked at you bringing it up!
Good luck!

[blessedmummy]

yeah.. thanks ill try that! hopefully it will work! (i just hope that one day it will happen)

Me25
DH25:kiss:
Emily3:smiliedance:
Clare22months:smiliedance:

[fozzie]

I know just how you feel I have been wanting another child for about 1 year but we only moved to Australia last year and I really didn't know how to bring it up with DH as he wasn't really interested in having any more. I know if I had mentioned it before we had moved into our house and settled a bit that he would have said NO :shame: but I did what the pp said and started reminising about when they boys where babes etc.. I must admit he was very shocked but I think I may have talked him around now, he's just mainly worried about going back to having a baby again as our youngest DS is 4 now and will start Prep next year, we will also have to start from scratch with buying all the baby stuff as we sold everything we had before we emigrated. Very scary for me too as I worry what everyone back home will say.:no: DS#2 has been very full on since he was 8 mths old.

Anyway sorry I'm wittering again:ecomcity: what I meant to say was I agree with the PP.

:fingerscrossed: Good luck.

[blessedmummy]

good news is in order... i had a talk with DH and YES!!! he does want another baby someday!!!!!!!!!!YAY!!!!!!!!! but..ill have to wait till the girls are at school, so it wont be for a few years yet! um...eldest is 3 and youngest is almost 2 so... that would be about 3yrs or so... not as long as i thought..which is good!

Me25
DH25:kiss:
Emily3:smiliedance:
Clare22months:smiliedance:

another bub someday..... :smiliedance:

[Indigosmum]

Thats great news! I think keeping the lines of communication between your partner and yourself open is vital as a relationship is a two way street. And there is nothing like secretly brooding about something to kill a perfectly happy relationship. You both have to be happy and often people worry about nothing.

Good luck for the future!
Danielle & Indigo

Danielle - 25 :yelclap:
Damien - 25 :(
Indigo - 18 months :laughing:

[spiritedfamily]

mimssbg777 - thats great news!:smiliedance:

fozzie - good luck, I hope you are able to broach subject with DH.....keep in mind that its likely the next bub won't be like your last....as he/she will have his own personality and will bring his/her own surprises which won't necessarily be like your youngest DS. My 3rd and 4th babies were great sleepers and feeders... you gain more confidence too and the bubs thrive on that:thumbsup:

[fozzie]

mimssbg777 - thats great news!:smiliedance:

fozzie - good luck, I hope you are able to broach subject with DH.....keep in mind that its likely the next bub won't be like your last....as he/she will have his own personality and will bring his/her own surprises which won't necessarily be like your youngest DS. My 3rd and 4th babies were great sleepers and feeders... you gain more confidence too and the bubs thrive on that:thumbsup:


Thanks for that Domona, I spoke to DH again last night and he has agreed that we can try for #3 so I'm going to get my IUD out on Tuesday and we'll see how it goes. I know all babies are different it's just always at the back of your mind that you'll get another terror :eek: :D