Did anyone else quit their job due to MS?

[1st for Jess]

Sorry I usually end up babbling so this will prob be long..

I have had pretty bad MS for the last 6 weeks. I'm now 11 weeks and it has gotten worse - even though I didn't think it could! I can eat a little at nights but generally very tired and can't concentrate. Maxalon didn't help.

Anyway, work has been fantastic and said that I can work from home and are being very understanding. Only as I said I can't concentrate so now I'm getting REALLY behind and VERY stressed! I also hate my job, and have since I started there at the beginning of this year. They've said I can go to part-time for a while, but honestly I don't know that I'll want to go back even when I'm feeling better...

I feel like it's a bit of a cop out to quit at only 11 weeks. I'd still work casually a couple of days in hospitality or something (my background) once I'm feeling up to it..

I don't know, what have other people done? Should I just tough it out for another 6 months?
I'm stressed!!!

[bada]

We moved interstate when I was about 8 weeks and the plan was to get a temp job when we moved but severe MS started the week we got here. There is no way I could have worked, I spent all day and night on a mattress on the floor throwing up. At 18 weeks when MS eased I got a temp job for three months.

So I didn't actually quit work because of MS but I would have had to quit had I been employed at that point, that or take leave until it got better.

Hope you're feeling better soon, MS is the pits.

[trishalishous]

I spent a month in hospital with hyperemesis, but went back to work, once it was controlled, until I moved interstate (33weeks)
It was a physical job (hospitality, and over 3 flights of stairs!) so my last week at work I literally was sitting there with my feet up all shift.:laughing:

[Jemima J]

I ended up taking long service leave @5 months as i wasnt getting much work done in between throwing up and also going in late and leaving early also due to vomiting,it just wasnt worth it for me........

[RmumR]

I'm thinking about it seriously at the moment.
I'm 23weeks and am still dreadfully sick with hypermesis.
I only work 2 days a week and feel like such a cop out wanting to stop altogether but i spend all weekend in bed can't physically get up or leave the house after i work on thurs and fri each week. It takes me 3 days to be able to work up to doing my usual things again as working takes so much out of me.
I would stop tomorrow if i could but just got my tax done and have ended up owing almost $500 so will have to keep working till i at least pay that off.
DF is noticing how hard its getting for me too and said we'll have to think about doing something abour you working soon - but i feel so guilty leaving all the money earning to him.

[Ruby Sneakers]

I put my notice in at 11 weeks. I was suffering horridly with hyperemesis, DH was away from 5 weeks until 11 weeks and within a week of being back he pursueded me to quit...

I felt terrible because work had been so great with me but in the end i was only going in 2 out of 5 days and generally knocking off early everyday.

It coinsided with us moving house further away from my job and after having to pull over 3 times on my way in, i was done...

Its been really hard without my wage, fortunately we havent had to start using the credit card yet but its looking like that might have to happen this week.... oh tax will u hurry up!!

[1st for Jess]

Oh wow, you've made me feel like more of a cop out!!

I don't throw up all that much, at least once a day. But generally feel like I'm going to ALL day and now at night as well.

I can eat a little and keep fluids down. So I'm not as bad as you poor things in hospital (I don't know how you do it!)
But I can't stand up for very long (i.e. can't walk to the train) having a shower is traumatic cos it makes me feel worse. And generally concentrating on anything is impossible (especially as I'm not interested in it to start with!) so getting work done from home just isn't happening. I'm unhappy and I hate being unhappy because of work. I don't think it's worth it.

But if I quit now am I going to be kicking myself when it comes to not having any money when baby arrives?!?!

[HurricaneInHeels]

I quit when I was about 12-14 weeks, too much stress, felt like crap, and pretty much hated the job. Never looked back since :D

[London]

I quit work at about 12weeks because of bad morning sickness (which lasted all day). If I wasnt standing over the toilet waiting to spew I was standing somewhere else thinking about going to the toilet to try and spew. Was terrible.

[Pregnor]

Have you been to your GP about different medications, as there are other drug options, zofran is probably the best, but i am told it is quite expensive. I got a few from the hospital for free. The expense would be worth it if it means you keep working i would imagine

I have pretty bad morning sickness, but I have always had enormous will power when it comes to spew, so i havent managed to have a spew here, but generally when I walk through the door when I get home I have to race to the toilet.
I was really run down, so tired and dehydrated. So I went to the hospital and got some IV fluids and some different medication and now I am a million times better. I have even managed to go a day without drugs and not felt sick at all!! Morning sickness is generally worsened by the dehydration and drop in blood sugar from not eating, so it tends to be a downward spiral.

How far along are you? You might be lucky enough that it rights itself in a few weeks, and if your employer is understanding you might be able to make up for your down time at the moment

Good luck, I hope you feel better soon.

[sunshine81]

Hi Jess :)

I had quite bad MS for about 8 weeks, and I felt exhausted ALL the time. I had to call DH on my way home in the afternoons to stop myself falling asleep on the drive home.

My boss was really understanding, and I took about a month of unpaid leave, then went back. Would your bosses consider something like this?

I was fortunate enough that for the rest of my pregnancy I felt great, so managed fine once the first trimester was over. I hope it settles for you soon!

[KatiesMum]

I didnt quit ... but I only was feeling really crap straight away, so arranged to work 4 days a week from 6 weeks and had said I would go back to 5 days when I was feeling better.

Well - in actual fact I did 3 days a week (soemtimes not even that) from 6 - 19 weeks then started to feel a little better, so did 4 days a week for the rest of the pregnancy.

It was hard getting through the days ... I certainly didnt acheive much when I was there - but my work did appreciate the effort that I put in, and have been incredibly super accomodating since having my DD. (I do still work there)

Its a hard one though ...

[HeyMissA]

If you are thinking about quitting but are worried about money, one thing worth looking into may the new paid maternity scheme. I don't think you're eligible if you were not working before hand (you'd need to look into the details). May give you a bit more motivation to keep on going.

My first 3/4 months at work were a blur. No idea how I managed. I just kept pushing through each week, one day at a time. Needed the money and means more leave at the other end with my baby.

[mandypiee]

Quitting seems like a big decision, financially and the fact you don't get maternity leave. I'd had such bad MS that I've had to take leave without pay and thank goodness they have been very understanding about it. I would suggest, speaking to them first and see if they are willing to negotiate something with you. It's the worst feeling ever when you feel nauseous 24/7, I've never experienced anything like it - I just want to cry everyday :(

[1st for Jess]

I've taken unpaid leave and feel much more relaxed already. Nice to have one less thing to stress about! Thanks for the posts

[BornToBe]

I've taken unpaid leave and feel much more relaxed already. Nice to have one less thing to stress about! Thanks for the posts

Good stuff, glad you feel better. Personally I reckon if you can afford it, and you really want to stay home for whatever reason, then you should. Growing a baby is a full-time job, it's just a shame we don't get paid for it... :D

[Blairysmum]

I didn't quit but from 6 weeks (I found out I was pregnant at 5.4weeks, 3 days of bliss!!) I had horrible ms I literally would vomit every 15 minutes mostly just bile as obviously I wasn't really eating!! I was pretty much bed ridden!! In and out of hospital I lost 8kg by 13 weeks it was manageable I woul only vomit if I ate! So when working I wouldn't eat but had a vomit bucket under desk just in case only had to use it once!! By 21 weeks ms was thankfully gone!! Hope yours goes away very soon it's the worst kind of sick:(

[earthangelash]

I had to quit uni. I am now able to do my part time work from home but I only just started that again. The vomitting finally stopped around 14 weeks but I still feel nauseous if I don't eat anything now, and I'm 21 weeks. Still hoping it will go away! I am very grateful the vomitting stopped.

[Ca7hy]

Hey there, I am alost 11 weeks and my MS has settled down a lot, I have been off work since I was 6 weeks, work has been really good and I used up all my leave and even took unpaid leave... however Now I wanna go back maybe next week as part time only as I am still so so exhausted and I know how stressful my job can be, but I don't know that they are happy about that, they want a letter from my GP saying its ok for me to return to work and why I cant return to my full time duties which i think is a bit unfair!! I know my GP will provide the letter no questions asked, but if work is going to get ****ty I am going to hand in my resignation and tell them where to stick it, my health and my baby is more important, finacially might be tough but I will be more happier without the stress from working 40 hours a week!!!
I know people at work will think I am coping out at only 11 weeks but every individual feels different.

Jobs are never forever these days Good Luck!

:thumbsup:

[del79]

I just started a job not too long ago.
I don't think my boss will be happy if I have had to quit. So far, morning sickness hasn't strike yet but I must say, it is hard to concentrate as the job has becomes a second priority now.

I might consider that in a couple of month's time.

[misscongeniality]

Hi, it's been great to read all your posts, it's making me feel less lonely. I've just reached the 26 week mark and have had ms since week 7 without a break. I am about 8kgs lighter than when I fell pregnant, but I was overweight before I started so I'm not likely to fade away yet. I am sick every day, but some days it's down to two / three times a day now that I'm taking 1 Maxolon each morning (the most my ob will let me have).

I'm still working full time in the city, but most days I have to get off the train to be sick. It's sooooo tiring and emotional. Today has been the worst, I almost made it to my stop, but then I panicked in the tunnel and ended up getting off and then fainting at the station (nobody helped me, it was just great - not). Made it back home, but feel bad that I had to call in to work sick. I am in a supervisory position so it's difficult when I'm not there, and very hard to do from home, so I don't know what to do.

My manager has been fantastic though - she was sick all through her pregnancy so she understands how hard it is. I have run out of leave and we have so many bills to pay, we were so counting on all my remaining pays before I went on parental leave.

Most days I'm crying before I get to work - I think it's a sign that this just isn't right.

Good luck to everyone, especially those in the first trimester, I have my fingers crossed that your ms stops when it's supposed to!

J :wave:

[MummyStar]

YES - I had just started working for Clinique at DJs & I had wanted to work for them for quite a while. I started on the Monday, worked Tuesday found out that I was pregnant on the Wednesday at 6wks...started to feel sick at work on the Friday...had my 1st vomit Friday night, didn't stop throwing up for the rest of the night, called in sick Sat & Sun & Monday...resigned on Wednesday!

I was vomiting at least 7 times per day over a 2 week period, I lost 5kg as I didn't know that I could take anything for it, I was so dehydrated & I couldn't even keep water down. I started taking Maxolon & that stopped me throwing up as often but I always felt nauseous at varying degrees, right up until he was born at 37wks. Second PG I wasn't as bad as I was taking Zofran which was much better than Maxolon which did nothing for me the 2nd PG...although Zofran costs a fortune!

Personally I would resign, especially if I hated the job...but I don't know your financial situation.

I hope that it improves for you, MS is really awful isn't it.