My DD's Friend Died At School Yesterday

[FOURtunate]

My 12 year old DD saw the death of her Peer Group Leader at school yesterday. I cannot believe that she was a healthy 17 year old, walking with her friends, and laughing. Then just collapsed and died. We don't know what caused it yet, but it sounds like an aneurism or something.

Imagine sending your child to school, and getting a phone call hours later to say that they have died. She wasn't even sick enough to take a day off school. :eek:

My DD and her friend both witnessed the death, and it will stay with them forever.

Does anyone have any hints on dealing with this? DD is devastated. And terrified that it will happen to her.

[M O P]

that's a terrible story, her poor family, friends and school mates

sorry I don't have any suggestions though

[PMS]

That is awful. Her parents must be devastated. Im so sorry your little girl had to witness something like that.
I dont have any advice to offer having never been through it myself. Is the school going to be offering couselling seeing as it happened at school and in front of their students? If they're not you should probably organise couselling for DD yourself.
Best of luck in helping your DD deal with this. I would give her lots of :hugs: and :kiss: and let her know she can talk to you any time.

Take care, Peta xox

[jkate]

That is so sad, the poor family. Sending out hugs for you and your daughter :hugs: . The only suggestion I can make is talk and talk with your daughter, is the school offering any counselling - usually they do when a student passes away even when doesnt happen at school.

[~EmsMum~]

oh wow how horrible :crying:

:hugs:

[Bubble*Crazy]

How distressing for your daughter to witness something like that. Normally schools try and offer counselling when things like this occur.

I don't have any advice, but my cousin passed away in a similar situation when I was around 8 - it was completely devastating. I don't remember much about it now, but it was definately hard to get through.

Sending heaps of :hugs: for her and the girls family.

[brooke]

:hugs: what an awful thing to happen.. every parents worst nightmare...

im thinking of your dd too... big big hugs for her :hugs:

[FOURtunate]

Thankyou Bubhubbers. The school is offering counselling for all students and staff.

I'd be worried if they didn't.

[caz]

That's awful. Sending lots of :hugs: to your daughter and the girls family.

I'm glad the school is offering counselling

[whatwasithinking]

I am so osorry to hear that. My thoughts are with the family and you and your daughter.

May she get the councelling that she so despeartly will need.

Once they find out what happened maybe that might help your daughter with her grief and the issue that she feels it could happen to her.

Hug her tightly and let her know that we are truly sorry.

[subaruforestermum]

I haven't been in this situation, and the one I'm about to tell you is a bit different, but my Dp's brothers friend committed suicide, the next day it was all over the school, and kids were devestated...the school offered councelling, but not a very good standard of it.....

I tihnk just make sure she talks about how she is feeling, and even try to get her into personal councelling, away from the school, with someone who she feels wont see her often, it's sometimes easy to talk to someone, who is out of the situation........

But as long as she knows she is allowed to feel sad, angry, etc, and that you are the great mum you are and she is able to talk to you anytime she needs.....big :hugs: to you and your DD, and anyone else who needs them...

[Niki]

that poor girl and her family!

and also ur poor dd :hugs: :hugs:

[Missus S]

Oh :hugs: to you, your DD & the poor girl's family.

The sudden death of a young person like that is particularly sad & shocking. And it's understandable that your daughter is traumatised.

You can reassure her that death from an anuerism like that at that age is extremely rare. However, if she still needs help after counselling from the school..........perhaps consult your GP about what other steps you can take to help her.

That really is so sad................everyone give your babies an extra kiss & hug today :kiss:

[Mum&bubs]

How horrible :gloomy: Such a sad story.
I dont have any advice on what to tell your DD though, just hold her tight & let her talk about it? Give her a big :hugs: from me as well.

[Ana Gram]

Do you have a family doctor? Maybe the doctor could talk to her and explain why these occurances are rare. Might mean more coming from a doctor?

[JnA]

Good point Chellegoth.




When I was 14 I was holding my dads hand the moment he died. I literally felt the life slip from him. It was, as you can imagine, an incredibly huge event in my life and mind. At the time (20 years ago) I wasn't offered any sort of council, and no-one talked about it with me. I wish that someone had, it would have saved a whole lot of pain later in my relationships with other people.


I'm sorry your little girl had to see this. Get her to council, talk to her, allow her to talk to you about whatever she is feeling and be her sounding board. Let her explore her emotions on this issue, let her accept that they are ok emotions to have. Lots of cuddle and understanding.

All the best to you both. :hugs: