Return to work.....

[Mischief]

Oh I'm so scared! I spoke to my boss today about my return to work.....

I was originally going to go back 3 days per week....but since having Oliver I cant stand the through of leaving him and after lots and lots of talking Steven and I decided that I will go back 2 days per week.

I'm so scared I'm doing the wrong thing, and we cant afford it...but I just dont want strangers or relatives raising my son if we can help it.

Its funny, for weeks Ive wanted to change to 2 days per week when I go back...but once I actually discussed it with my boss it seems so REAL and now I'm nervous.

Ive asked for a 6 month trial period with the option of going back an extra day after that if needed....but it will depend on if they get someone else in to do the other 3 days in the week....

Please...I am doing the right thing arent I? :confused:

[li'l mac]

I hear your pain!! i've been going through the process of what to do about work so I totally understand how hard it is to think about leaving your LO each week.

Yes, you are doing the right thing as you have discussed with your DH and have come to that decision with lots of consideration. And if things don't feel right, then you can make some changes as you see necessary.

Just think of how much you will enjoy being home with Oliver on the other days, and how refreshed you will feel after some babyfree time. We feel so guilty as mothers don't we?

[Audrey]

Hi,

I worked 2 days per week after my first child and found it to be a really good balance. You get to spend most of your time with your child and just a couple of days at work, so it is not too draining for you and your little one. I call it the best of both worlds.

Audrey

[Issey]

Hi,

I went back full time and ended up resigning as it was way too much. I am about to start a new job that is 2 days :) , I can just survive on it. Look at it this way, when you are at the end of your life you won't be saying 'gee I wish I worked more':rolleyes: . I decided that time was more important than money for me right now, and I am very career minded, however I just can't bear to miss out on my DS. I am now looking forward to taking him to swimming and doing other 'mum and son' things.

I am nervous too but in your heart you are following what your really want to do, I guess the nervous part is the less money factor, but somehow you all manage.

[subaruforestermum]

I'm faced wit hthat, only i have 2 interview this week, and am so scared that i might get them.....

Goodluck....you'll get through...do what feels right for you and bub...

[RedPanda]

It's a tough one. You're doing the right thing. I am dreading the months leading up to my "return to work". I have taken a year, but seem to be chewing through that year rather quickly!!!
Do what feels right for you. You shouldn't force yourself back for three days if you're going to end up depressed and anxious.
All the best!:fingerscrossed:

[Mischief]

Look at it this way, when you are at the end of your life you won't be saying 'gee I wish I worked more':rolleyes: . I decided that time was more important than money for me right now, and I am very career minded, however I just can't bear to miss out on my DS. I am now looking forward to taking him to swimming and doing other 'mum and son' things.

You are so right.....at the end of my life I am not going to be wishing I had worked more, or made more money, or had a better house, car, clothes, ect....I'm going to be wishing I had had longer with my son..... *all emotional and teary now*.

Thank you for putting it in perspective! I guess I knew that all along, but having someone actually say it....:hugs:

Thank you everyone for your advice! I'm glad to know I'm not the only nervous one out there!