Things you said you would "NEVER" do.....

[Mischief]

Hmmm....isnt it funny how you revise your expectations of your parenting skills once you become a parent?!

I said I would NEVER use the TV as a baby sitter...and guess where my little son is? In front of the TV, watching Cinderella....lol :o He's gone to sleep though....so I guess it doesnt really count!

What stuff do you do that you said you would NEVER EVER do? :)

[RedPanda]

This is a great idea for a post!!! I used to be so idealistic! The rules I've already broken are...

I will not use dummies
I will not have bubs in bed with me
I will not use baby wipes when I'm at home (I planned to use warm face washers)
I will not let him sleep in his bouncer for longer than an hour (I was worried about his spine, now if he's asleep, I LEAVE him be!)

And I've only been a parent for eight weeks!!

[LittleBoysRock]

Use dummies.
Bottle feed! I BF for only 5 days!!

[~EmsMum~]

i said id never use a dummy (i have)

I said id always make my dd self settle (yeah right)

i said id never put her infront of the telly (ive done it several times)

i said she would never sleep in my arms for long periods of time (another yeah right)

[~EmsMum~]

Use dummies.
Bottle feed! I BF for only 5 days!!

i also swore id never bottle feed but I was down at the shops buying bottles when she was 7 days old

[Mischief]

Yep, I said I wouldnt let a drop of formula touch my babies lips....BF all the way!

I bottle feed (EBM) since 6 weeks old....LOL and he got formula from a couple of weeks ago! :O

Also said I would never rock him to sleep....LOL

[~EmsMum~]

Yep, I said I wouldnt let a drop of formula touch my babies lips....BF all the way!

I bottle feed (EBM) since 6 weeks old....LOL and he got formula from a couple of weeks ago! :O

Also said I would never rock him to sleep....LOL

i said id never rock DD to sleep either!!! that went out the window

[Melo]

Oh my goodness, I was thinking this EXACT same thing this morning, and was going to start a thread on it my-self! And then I got distracted! Wow.

What I had thought of was:
1. No dummies - DS hasnt got one now though, but did use one for the first 6 months.
2. Self settling - I would never rock / pat my child to sleep - Still doing this now!
3. Co-sleeping - DS ends up in our bed most nights! But I love him being so close and wouldnt change it for the world! :)


Oooh and so much more, cant think of them now!!

[jaimie]

I said no child of mine would ever have white bread! She has a few times(brumbys and bakers delight so no nasties)
And that she will never have fast food..she has hot chippes most weekends..
That i would never lose my cool in fornt of her..There has been a couple of times she has pushed my buttons and i have probably *spoken* to her a bit louder than i should..
Geez im the worst by far!

[jessgray]

i said no junkfood for ds which i have stuck to as the only junkfood is hot chips that he eats as every thing pretty much has dairy or soy in it or he is too young to eat it lol
i said i wouldnt use a dummy-ds has one attached to his clothes its on a NUK chain lol
i said i wouldnt use a tv as a baby sitter...ds is watching a simpsons dvd right now and drinking his bottle lol

[zenifa]

I said I would never
1. Use dummies
2. Commercial baby food
3. Use disposable nappies
4. Co-sleep
5. Bottle-feed
6. Let DD watch tv

Suffice to say, that my DD does have a dummy, does eat organic baby food sometimes, wear disposables, cosleep, has EBM in bottles and had formula a couple of times and yes she does watch tv!!

[Mmm Dessert]

This is soooo funny. Every day I think of the things that I vowed I would never do. My hit parade, in order of stubbornness, then shamefully backing down:

1. The dreaded dummy. I always hated seeing babies, and then older kiddies, with dummies hanging out of their mouths, and told anyone who would listen that my baby wouldn't have one. DP and I fought it for eight weeks, but then finally backed down after a particularly loud screaming session (by DS, not me ;)) in the supermarket. It took another two weeks before DP and I told anyone about it, we were so embarrassed.
2. Co-sleeping. We did it the first night we brought DS home!
3. Rocking/patting/feeding to sleep.
4. Caring about what other people think. I know I shouldn't, but I'm always thinking: can the neighbours hear him crying? do the in-laws think I'm doing a good job?
5. Stressing about breast-feeding. I had a take it as it comes attitude, but then after DS was born, and I struggled to feed him, I refused to back down and switch to formula. Luckily we both got there in the end!

[red crayon]

i was another no dummy person. it started slowly...i started using a dummy to settle spencer and would take the dummy out once he was asleep. then i gave in and let him sleep with it. then we started using it when he was cranky. and before we knew it, he was addicted to it! he's now dummy free but it certainly got us through some rough patches.

[Starlet]

Oh gosh I said:

No dummies
No Bottles
No tinned/jarred baby food
No Wiggles(ugh, they annoy me!)
No co-sleeping
No juice/cordial/soft drink
No sharing rooms with each other(they now have bunk beds and have shared a room for the past 2 years!)
No smacking
No shouting
No potty(I wanted them to go straight to the 'big toilet'

I have to say I have done all of those things. Oops. I really had no idea before I had kids!!

[Percy]

Let baby sleep in the bed ( he is still in our bed at 15 months)

Thats probably the only thing i swore i wouldnt do. Anything for a good nights sleep though!

[cheezelkat]

I said no commercial baby food and no disposables. Oops :cool:

[2 Cherubs]

Oh gee...Dont ya just love listening to pregnant mummies and hearing the things you once said you were never gonna do....:laughing:

* No Dummy (well it wasnt a big NO but I didnt want him to)
* No Yelling in front of bubba
* Said i would vaccum everyday :laughing:


There are more but I have brain block...Hmm How unusual !

I always said I was NEVER rocking or patting my child too sleep.....Yahhh Thats one thing I accomplished....(Dont get me wrong I do give cuddles when he's sleepy but thats not they way he goes to sleep IYKWIM)

[Niki]

i said i would never co-sleep, and i do and i love it, before i had only heard horror stories and not the real facts

[Mischief]

I said:

No disposables - I used them for the first two weeks...couldnt have done without them! (cloth now)

No dummy - Must admit I tried to give him one though...however he didnt take it...so that one has stuck....

No jumping every time he cries - HAHAHAAAAA Clueless!

I'll never be late - Well I'm never late...but I'm often VERY early...LOL So thats probably just as bad!

[arthursmum]

'no TV for at least the first year' but now he has s few little dvds. teletubbies, maisy, bananas in pyjamas & wiggles (btw, does anyone else think that captain feathersword is d%&khead?)

[meme]

i said,
only educational tv
no eating in the car
no smacking
no coke a cola
i don't know why these were the area's i was so concerned about.:detective:
i also promised myself that my lo would have a fisher price dream doll house just coz i saw an ad for it while i was pregnant. :laughing:

well, they watch the simpsons now against my better judgement and eat in the car and i have smacked on occasion, but my eldest who is 10 has only tasted coke a cola about three times in her life!:rolleyes: so that's something!:laughing:

oh yeah, we got the dollhouse too.

[reAllytee]

Yep i was another one for the "no dummy" rule pfffft that lasted about a week from memory !!! Luckily he only uses it to go to bed so then i set myself another rule that he wouldnt have it past 6mths :rolleyes: :laughing: 17mths & he still has it to get off to sleep when he is ready he will let it go !

No rocking to sleep that lasted something like a few days lol when i got home because i was finally able to sit on something comfy i found myself automatically doing it !!! Still do it now too !

Bubs would learn to self settle yeah right like i was going to let him cry !!! I still dont let him cry unless i can help it.

Bubs would never have a dirty face :rolleyes: little did i realise how much cleaning a face can cause to ones blood pressure to rise.

No commercial baby food hahaha i was sooooo dreaming on that one especially with my tiny freezer ! Its so nice not to have to worry about their food every now & then !

My house will stay perfectly tidy & clean at all times ... Laugh with me now girls ! :laughing:

[Foxy]

No child of mine would be allowed to eat the car or anywhere in the house but the highchair or table. DS now walks around the house with cruskets, milk arrowroots, rice crackers and boxes of sultanas... I had to buy a dustbuster to constantly clean out the car-seat....:rolleyes:

[JATS]

I said I'd never give in to a tantrum.....:laughing: :banghead:

I said I'd use cloth nappies.....lasted 5 days before I bought sposies!!!

I said I'd make my own baby food.....I do 70% of the time

[reAllytee]

Oh yes !!!
I said my child would never throw a tantrum let alone would i give in to one :laughing: :laughing:
We are lucky to have a day where he only throws one !!!!! :rolleyes: :banghead:
And mama is lucky if she has passed out from stress !!!

[Pixie]

I was adamant NO CHILDREN IN THE BED
For 10 weeks she only slept in our bed I realised this was the only way I would get sleep!!

[neeky]

lol i wasnt too strict on most things but these are a few that i can think of that i was crazy to think would actually happen lol

was going to breast feed, lasted 5days, went straight to the supermarket when we got outta the hospital, would changed ealrier but the hospital were so anti bottle feeding i was scared lol

was going to use cloth nappies, although i gave myself a month to settle in to the new life b4 i would be serious to start. 9mths on im still predominately using disposables, but i am lookin at getting some good cloths coz i want to use them!!!

wouldnt give into a tantrum..... everyday i give into a few, but im getting better!!!:banghead::laughing:

wouldnt worry about what others think. unfortunately i constantly worry that the neighbours must think im a terrible mum, when ds gets upset he goes straight to the incredibly loud screaming, no crying anymore lol.

no tv for at least the first year of his life!!! lets see now..... we have bugs bunny and porky pig dvds, wiggles (which at one stage was being watched a couple times a day every day!), and he likes fairys and raggs which ever is on!

oh and i was very adimant that my son would not be a spoilt brat.... hes heading down that path :banghead:

[pookiesossige]

4. Caring about what other people think. I know I shouldn't, but I'm always thinking: can the neighbours hear him crying? do the in-laws think I'm doing a good job?


This is a good one, Kath Day-Knight!

I was always going to:

1. Use cloth nappies (only lasted 5 months with DS, didn't even attempt with DD :shame: )
2. Never formula feed (I feel that way sometimes now with DD, but back when DS was a bub I had to stop breastfeeding at 4.5 months)
3. Co-sleep (I've tried many times with both bubs but no-one got any rest, including bubs. DH tosses and turns so much that the matteress starts moving off the base somehow!)
4. Walk everywhere with my baby :cool: (Did with DS, now I don't know how to get out of the house with the two of them!)

And the big one...

5. Lose weight ASAP after the birth. Yeah Right. Like it's that easy. I eat like a horse! A very fat, lactating horse! :laughing:

[EskimoMumma]

I said I would never feel DP feel left out..

Oops :rolleyes:

[Mischief]

I said

I would listen to advice from people who had kids...including our mums (hehe)

I refused to even think that I might get the baby blues or PND... (LOL CLUELESS)

I said, I would NEVER let my baby wear grow suits bigger than 000....LOL Oliver almost LIVES in grow suits, I only dress him up if we are going somewhere special....and he's now a 0....I was getting sad looking at the back of the Bonds pack and realising that htey only go up to size 2... :o

I also said that I would not neglect our dogs.... :(

And I said that "I dont belive that getting up 3 times a night to feed can be harder than getting up 8 times a night to pee (while pregnant)...." Oh hoooow naive was that?! :D

[shanz]

I was never too strict before bub, there was 2 golden rules,
NO sleeping in our bed,only cos we both toss and turn and i didnt think i'd trust hubby not to roll on him!!
And NO patting to sleep!!
Well both are out the window. After his morning feed i will cuddle him in bed....although if DH is still in bed it is right over my side:D til he is asleep then when i wake up with a dead arm i will put him back down in his bassinette!!
And the last few days he has been a terror with his day sleeps so it is either in our arms of i will pat him while he is in the cot.

[ozzysmum]

i would never be one of those boring mums who talks constantly about her baby and its feeding/sleeping/pooing or its astonishing ability to clap hands/wave goodbye/say dad/stand up etc.

:laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:

did i mention ozzy learned how to wave goodbye today! and did an amazing poo containing undigested carrots and peas - it was technicolour!

[Grizabella]

Great thread!!:yelclap:

After every convo with my SIL involving poo, I swore I would never do the same. HAHAHA!!!! Lasted right until the meconium (sp?) came! LOL

No Dummies - he still uses one. After I caved, I would never suck/brush off a dummy clean and stick it back in baby's mouth. Yeah right.

No dirty clothes or face - HAH!

I swore no TV. I now own 4 Wiggles DVD's and have all of their repotoire memorised! Also ABC for kids is my life-saviour.

No singing/dancing around like an idiot or making stupid faces in public. ROFL. Wish I could see security camera footage sometimes! I could be my own Funniest Videos show!

[Little Gorilla]

I said I would never:-

* be a stay at home mum
* use tinned baby food
* use the microwave to heat up bottles
* let myself get overweight after bubs was born
* leave bubs in the car while I get petrol...I've done it once :o
* smack my child...:gloomy:
* let my child watch TV everyday


oh, gees the list could go on...I think I'm on a bad mum alert tonight..the list aint lookin too good at this point

[damien's mum]

I have done just about everything i said i would never do...
Such as locked the door and run in to pay for petrol, use the tellie as a babysitter, give my ds a sip of coke because it will make him stop crying. Lol.. oh and the list goes on...
:thumbsdown:

[the_queen]

I always said that I would never EVER tell my child to stop talking; to me, vocabulary and talkativeness are really important characteristics. So, from the day Vallerie was born, I talked to her, non-stop some days, using long words and lots of synonyms (is that the right word? LOL) ie That was strange, wasn't it? Very odd! A bit eerie!! etc etc, to teach her about our wonderful language. I have always allowed her to speak her piece before it's my turn to talk, always encouraged her to debate with me instead of whinge, always insisted that she explain herself with words.


Now, she's 5. And some days I just feel like screaming SHUT UP SHUT UP STOP TALKING JUST GIVE ME 5 FRICKEN MINUTES SILENCE!! :o Although, she is at school now, so I do get the daytime peace and quiet.

Oh and I also always said I'd never bribe my children.


A few months ago, I told Vallerie that I'd take her for a drive to buy an ice-cream, but only if she didn't talk for the whole drive there.

(it worked, and I got 10 minutes of silence on the way there, and 10 minutes of silence on the way back LOL)

[chloes_mum]

1. No dummies - lasted bout 1 month, used to get to sleep at first but then became addicted to it. Only uses it to go to sleep now but I am trying to rid of that too. I take it off her as soon as she is asleep.

2. No TV - this also went ou t the window. As soon as she saw her first (dare i say it) Hooley Dooleys dvd that was another addiction. Now she only watches it once a day and New Mc Donalds Farm at 3:30.

3. No giving in - Now that she has reached the age of tantrum throwing (i think its the red hair) I always give into her when others are around (ie, in public) Some people are very judgemental.

4. No bottles - That lasted all of about 6 days. She used to suck so hard that I stated to bleed so couldn't even express and had to put her on to formula for 1 week. After that I guess I just got lazy and never looked back. Cost me and arm and a leg though.

5. No spoiling - I can't help it. I get in trouble for shopping so much. It may explain the tantrums so I am trying to hold back.

[Reidymac]

I hated seeing people do the old 'lift baby in the air and smell/ sniff at their bottom trying to determine if the nappy is pooey' trick. I swore I would NEVER do that, surely their is a better, easier more dignified way???? :o There isn't and I find myself doing this all the time but I pathetically try to hide it by faking a cuddle or blowing a raspberry on baby's tummy *hangs head in shame*:laughing:


I always said that I would never EVER tell my child to stop talking; to me, vocabulary and talkativeness are really important characteristics............I talked to her, non-stop some days, using long words and lots of synonyms ...............I have always allowed her to speak her piece before it's my turn to talk, always encouraged her to debate with me instead of whinge, always insisted that she explain herself with words.
..............Now, she's 5. And some days I just feel like screaming SHUT UP SHUT UP STOP TALKING JUST GIVE ME 5 FRICKEN MINUTES SILENCE!!

:laughing: This is exactly how I feel with my almost 3 year old DD. I said I would never limit her curiosity or language but she never stops talking or constantly asking questions (genuinely interesting but relentless questions) . The first 500 times she sang the alphabet I was so proud but now I just want to scream SHUT UP, SHUT UP, SHUT UP!!!! Today in the car I begged her to play a game to see who could be quiet the longest (:rolleyes: I won, grrrrrrrrrr)

[Mylittleboy]

Well, I also said no disposables (who on earth was I trying to kid??), no cosleeping (I only do it during the day to get DS to have a nap), no jarred/tinned food (I still do make most of it, only because he is now so fussy he won't eat jar or tinned food, lol), no formula (I BF for about 6 weeks)
I guess i'll add my name to the list of bad mums, shall I?? :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:

[Mischief]

OH MY GOODNESS! You guys reminded me of soooooo many other things I said I would never do!


i would never be one of those boring mums who talks constantly about her baby and its feeding/sleeping/pooing or its astonishing ability to clap hands/wave goodbye/say dad/stand up etc.

Yep, I do this too.....I'm one of those boring mums! LOL



always said that I would never EVER tell my child to stop talking; to me, vocabulary and talkativeness are really important characteristics. So, from the day Vallerie was born, I talked to her, non-stop some days, using long words and lots of synonyms (is that the right word? LOL) ie That was strange, wasn't it? Very odd! A bit eerie!! etc etc, to teach her about our wonderful language. I have always allowed her to speak her piece before it's my turn to talk, always encouraged her to debate with me instead of whinge, always insisted that she explain herself with words.


Now, she's 5. And some days I just feel like screaming SHUT UP SHUT UP STOP TALKING JUST GIVE ME 5 FRICKEN MINUTES SILENCE!! :o Although, she is at school now, so I do get the daytime peace and quiet.

Oh and I also always said I'd never bribe my children.


A few months ago, I told Vallerie that I'd take her for a drive to buy an ice-cream, but only if she didn't talk for the whole drive there.

(it worked, and I got 10 minutes of silence on the way there, and 10 minutes of silence on the way back LOL)


Queenie, you are just tooo funny! :D



I hated seeing people do the old 'lift baby in the air and smell/ sniff at their bottom trying to determine if the nappy is pooey' trick. I swore I would NEVER do that, surely their is a better, easier more dignified way???? :o There isn't and I find myself doing this all the time but I pathetically try to hide it by faking a cuddle or blowing a raspberry on baby's tummy *hangs head in shame*


Oh my god, I do the same thing! LOL I said I would NEVER EVER sniff the babe's butt! But I roll Oliver UP in my arms and snuggle his belly...and have a good sniff!

I also said i would never stick my finger in a nappy....LOL Ive done this a couple of times. :barf: LOL

[SassyMummy]

I didn't have too many rules...I was fine to use a dummy and let her watch TV...there was no rule there.

I did say I'd...

- Breastfeed. I understood that women had difficulty doing it, but I never thought it'd be me. After 3 weeks I was bottle-feeding AND formula feeding...and at 9 weeks I switched to the bottle full-time. (Which I felt bad about...but have recently discovered that DD was tongue-tied...and perhaps THAT was the reason we had troubles...).

- Spend only what I needed to. Yeah whatever. My DD gets clothes at least once a fortnight...and even then, it's usually more than 1 item of clothing. She dresses better than I do.

- Have a vaginal birth using only gas and perhaps pethadine if needed. I didn't have a VB at all...I ended up having a c-section because DD was 2 weeks late and after 3 failed inductions, I was told it was my only option left.

- Never swear infront of DD. I can't seem to break this bad habit...I don't swear THAT much...but I certainly still do it. I'm so scared she's going to be one of those little bratty kids who swear...

- Still have a life of my own. I have had 3 haircuts in hte past 13 months...all of which have just been basic trims. I've bought myself hardly ANY clothing either... and I have slowly lost my friends...and I'm down to about 1...:eek: As a result, I'm going to the August Brissy BubHub Dinner in hopes of finding more people I can befriend...lol.

[Blairsmummy]

What a great thread!!!

Some things I said I would never do are:

1. Use a dummy - Lasted 4 days until he had to go back to hospital under lights for jaundice and we weren't allowed to get him out to settle him all the time

2. EBF for at least 6 months until I went back to work. (Lasted 7 extremely painful weeks - I suffered very badly with a condition called vasospasm)

3. Dress him in puffy sailor suit type outfits - OK, that one I stuck to!!! :D

4. Compare him to other bubs his age - I can't help it! I need help :p I am always interested in what other bubs his age are doing and am as proud as can be when he gets a new skill (sometimes ahead of others we know!).

5. Blabbing constantly about bub - *blows dust off pom poms* give me a B, give me an L, give me an A, give me an I, give me an R. What does it spell??? BLAIR! *finishes with a flourish and huge smile* Not apologising for that one. He is my world! :kiss:

6. Feel guilty for being a SAHM for a couple of months - Can't help it when the finances are stretched so tight we have to visit our parents a night each a week for dinner to save money. *frowns* am now casually working again.

All in all though, we are not doing too bad. *high 5's DH* Yaaaaaaay Teeeeeeeam Blair!!!! :smiliedance:

[faery]

i swore there would be NO TV!!! :laughing: lasted half a day.
then it was okay if it was educational TV :laughing: :laughing:
deal or no deal IS educational, it is all about counting!!