People picking up the baby??

[ifoundmyglory]

Does anyone else get really.. whats the word for it.. scared/worried/finicky/angry when people pick up their baby without asking?? .. or even if they have asked but you feel like you have to say yes to letting them hold the baby??
Am i the only one?
Perhaps i am just super over protective.

[*~alegna~*]

You ARE NOT the only one. I am the same. I work at Medical Centre & when I go into see the girls at work there is ALWAYS some old patient i there that insists on holding DS. I worry that they will drop him or he'll get sick.

It actually reminds me of when I was pregnant & ppl insisted on RUBBING MY TUMMY!!!!:banghead: "My Tummy, My Tummy"

[borntobemummy]

there was a thread about this a little while ago here (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=34346&highlight=lady+bandaids)

[my babyemmy]

oh yes i still feel all that and she is 14 months:laughing:

[maddysmama]

Depends on who it is... if it is a stranger then I would expect the courtesy of being asked. And I would prob say no with the fear they might take off with her! Watch too many American midday movies LOL. If it is someone I know I don't mind at all.

[Niki]

the only person i mind is dfs dad as he holds him funny and ds atrts screaming and he wont give him bak

[FourAngelKisses]

It bothered me a little with my first, by the time the 3rd got here, I was handing him out left right and centre. But if it's a stranger.....then I don't like it.

[jessgray]

i dont mind if its a friend or family member but i would say no to a stranger. and ds also will let ppl know if he wants to be held, if he doesnt want to be he cries till they put him down lol :devil6:

[Milliner]

I don't like it at all, I took DS to my work to say hello and My MIL works there too ( don't ask) and I went to say hi to a few people and when I get back some lady I don't know had him I was so angry. I will not be doing that again, he will stay with me, I'm really funny about people holding him.

[jessgray]

its like people think a baby is public domain and so are pregnant bellies

[Mmm Dessert]

I'm really funny about it, and it always makes me feel selfish and spiteful (especially since I can't say no). My nan is in a nursing home and I took DS to see her when he was only two weeks old. One of the visitors asked for a nurse, then next time I looked he was being balanced on the lap of one of the patients who has NO control over his body whatsoever. Needless to say, DS has been firmly strapped into his Baby Bjorn on every visit since!

[~EmsMum~]

Depends on who's holding my DD if its family or close freinds I don't really mind :)

[FourAngelKisses]

I'm really funny about it, and it always makes me feel selfish and spiteful (especially since I can't say no). My nan is in a nursing home and I took DS to see her when he was only two weeks old. One of the visitors asked for a nurse, then next time I looked he was being balanced on the lap of one of the patients who has NO control over his body whatsoever. Needless to say, DS has been firmly strapped into his Baby Bjorn on every visit since!


We were at a house warming party once......one of the guests (who has brain damage after an accident) who was drunk and most likely stoned.........picked Matthew up and almost fell over with him. DH grabbed him just before she hit the ground and told her off. She said she was just protecting him but he had been sitting on the ground happilly playing trucks so didn't need protecting.

[Percy]

Your definately not the only one.

I was exactly the same. I still feel a bit funny about it and DS is 15 months

[SilverStarfish]

Nope, you're not the only one!!

That's yet another reason I LOVE my Hug-a-Bub when i'm out and about. With DD "tied" up close to my chest, no one asks if they can pick her up. :thumbsup:

Though... then you still have to deal with the occasional dimwit who asks "Can she breath in there?" I have to bite back the urge to reply "Well DUH!! What do you think??":banghead:

[ifoundmyglory]

Oh thank goodness ladies, i really really thought i was really super overprotective.
:)

[Little Gorilla]

I always ask the mum/dad "do you mind if I have a little cuddle".....normally I know the people I'm asking so its not like I'd ask a stranger or someone I hardly knew

[moomoosmummy]

Even the whole she is so cute thing gets on my nerves after awhile especially if im in a bad mood and they stop me:mad:
The worst i had though i was waiteing at the counter somewhere and i had her sitting up on the counter this lady came out of nowhere and started going on and then she shoved her face in DD face and started rubbing her nose with her own nose
:no: NOT COOL
The worst thing was that she absolutly stunk of ciggeretes.......
i hate it.... stay away from my baby:mad:

[Funkychicken]

I really believe when they are just wee babes that they only need mummy and/or daddy holding them. It can be so over-stimulating for a new bub to be 'passed around'. When DS#2 was born, I knew I would have many people, especially school parents and their children, wanting to hold or talk to him at drop off and pick up. This is where my Hugabub came into it's own. I could tuck him in all snug with his head tucked in too and this way no-one could 'get in his face' so to speak.

[SassyMummy]

I was pretty scared of people touching DD before she was even born...I had decided, while pregnant, that I didn't actually want ANYONE to hold her after she had been born. But of course, they all did (my family held her before I did...I was too busy vomitting...lol).

I didn't really like people holding her, but I kinda felt selfish and bad if I didn't let them. Especially since they had come to the hospital/my house to see her and to give us presents.

Now, DD is nearly 13 months, and I don't care. She goes to pretty much anyone...she even wanted a cuddle from the lady doing her immunizations (though, AFTER she got the needles, she screamed blue murder if that same lady got too close...lol).

I've never given her to a stranger though (well, not just random person in the street anyway...). If some weird person came up to me, and wanted a cuddle, i'd be thinking, "WHAT?! NO WAY!". I'd never give my baby to someone like that (even if they were really friendly...it's just weird).

People give DD things all the time though...and touch her. It sort of bothers me, but not TOO much. (people give her stickers, and toys and lollies...most of which I take off of her as soon as I can because she's too young for them...lol).