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onelasttime
13-07-2010, 20:22
My ds who is almost 5 wont stand to pee. He always wants to sit. I try to get him to stand and he has but only wants to sit.

Should i be concerned?? Should i be a bit more forceful?? Or should i not care??
overitand36
13-07-2010, 20:24
this may want to be sorted out before school

or atleast school friends will sort it out but the process of this happening may not be a nice one

where is the male role model?
NonnyMouse
13-07-2010, 20:24
I wouldn't make an issue of it. Peer pressure will soon sort him out when he sees all the other boys standing up to pee.
onelasttime
13-07-2010, 20:28
My husband tries to show him but he doesnt understand. He has high functioning autism so not sure if he will understand peer pressure.
When i first toilet train i was sitting him now thats all he does.
How or what can i do to make him stand??
NonnyMouse
13-07-2010, 20:37
My husband tries to show him but he doesnt understand. He has high functioning autism so not sure if he will understand peer pressure.
When i first toilet train i was sitting him now thats all he does.
How or what can i do to make him stand??

I'm not knowledgeable on autism so this might not be relevant at all, but I would expect you don't need to "understand" peer pressure to be swayed by it. I was thinking more along the lines of him seeing the other boys do it, and wanting to try and copy them.

There are toys etc that help little boys use the loo standing up... one I've seen recently is a ping pong ball suspended in the bowl that they aim for. You could also let him pee outside in the yard from time to time to get him used to the machanics of it without the pressure to get it in the bowl.
kar
13-07-2010, 20:40
I don't really understand why it's an issue. So I would say don't worry about it. And I agree he will stand if he wants to when he sees the other boys and if he's not susceptible to peer pressure, good!
1CrazyMoose
13-07-2010, 20:40
Yes my friends son has autism and the ping pong ball thing does work! Best of luck!!
onelasttime
13-07-2010, 21:02
Yes i agree with the copying thing but he goes to school now and will ask his teacher to help encourage him.
I will try the ping pong idea thats a good one. I think the hard part is changing his routine.
NonnyMouse
13-07-2010, 21:04
You could also go for the "see how much noise you can make" approach, to make it fun. Standing up he would get to make the splashing noise as he goes, rather than it hitting the side of the bowl.

Or, if it doesn't gross you out too much, peeing in the shower.
supa_star323
13-07-2010, 21:06
I don't really see that it's a big deal if he is happy to sit.
My ds will be tt to sit when we start soon as I am the one teaching him and we don't live with a male.
overitand36
13-07-2010, 21:21
I don't really see that it's a big deal if he is happy to sit..

It is a big deal when no one else is doing it, males stand

also until what age is it not a problem then how to change behavior better not creating a problem in the first place