Hyperemesis - Dh doesnt want #2 because of it

[Spoodge]

Hi Ladies

Just wondering if anyone else has had this discussion with DH? I spoke to DH about trying for #2 when Miss R turns 1. He said 'I dont think I can go through you being so sick again, especially with a little one to look after.'

To be honest I was gutted, we had always spoken about having at least 2 and now its like - you get too sick so no.

I was sick from 4 weeks on and even threw up the day after I had my baby, was hospitalised twice. But the zofran did help, I still threw up every morning and most nights before bed but worked up to 38 weeks.

Sorry for the long post, I am just at a bit of a loss. Hoping to hear from others who have had to face this hurdle with their DH's.

Spoo

[Ruby Sneakers]

:hugs: Im so sorry!!

Youre a very brave lady for wanting to go through all of that again...

Im hoping my attitude will change too but im currently in the same mind set of ur DH, its too hard.... im still sick too with Hyperemesis and on Zofran but there are days i cant get out of bed and i couldnt imagine trying to do this with a little one at home (i live 2 states away from my family and DH is in the army so little joy there)

Im sorry i know its not the same thing but its a terrible terrible situation and i get very jealous of those preggy ladies who blissfully go through without one :barf:

I hope for your sake ur DH changes his mind and u have a lovely easy 2nd pregnancy xoxo

[mummajugs]

Hey.

first of all big big :hugs:


I didnt have hypermesis with my 1st. but did had severe M/S and am now pregnant with number 2, and this time I do have hypermesis. :(
Im going to be flat out honest with you, cause im sure thats what you want. Its bloody hard. DD is 2. so she understands a bit better that mummy isnt well, and shes been pretty good. But there are other days where she doesnt want to be good, and just mucks up cause she knows if mummy isnt well, i wont chase her around and she will just be very 'testing' to say the least.
At 10-12 weeks, i was throwing up anything from 20-30 times a day. it is easing up now. and im very lucky the past few days its only been 1-2 times a day. which im cheering about, but not counting my chickens.
I practically lay on the couch and play with DD all day. very hard to get up without wanting to :barf:

my only advice is, to wait until your little one understands a bit more and isnt so dependant on you. this is what has saved me.
maybe you can reason with your hubby and see what he thinks about trying a little later? i know its hard for us to come to an agreement. but sometimes we have to think about what we already have in our lives and how much it will effect them.

If the Zofran helps. thats wonderful. but not cheap. so make sure you have the funds available for it too :)

hugs, you are very brave for considering having another.

[Spoodge]

Thanks for the responses ladies!

Ohh I do feel for you both going through the horrible experience of the morning sickness from hell. At my worst I threw up every 20 mins for 3 days and in the end I couldnt get out of bed and ended up in the hospy for 2 days on a drip.

That said yes I can see DH's reasons and reading about you mummajugs I can see it would be a struggle with a little one.

I guess I wanted to try and get pregnant sooner rather than later as with IVF you never know when you will get pregnant and even though I was lucky and got my BFP the 1st time it could take me longer the next. My age is creeping up as is DH's.

But I know I should be greatful for what I have and yes I dont want to make our lives hell for 8 months again.

Mummajugs (love the name) I guess as you said I could reason with him about waiting a little longer so Miss R is older when/if I get pregnant again. And it did hit home when you said I should think about what I already have and how it would affect them.

Oh as for the cost of Zofran, I was getting Ondansten (hmm Spelling?) and it was $35 a box vs the $99 for Zofran. But yes it does add up!

I was just really upset before thinking that I might not be able to have another baby and to be honest I still am (close to tears actually). But if I think about it longer and get over the shock I might be able to rationalise it.

Thanks for your prompt responses though I really appreciate it.

Spoo

[overitand36]

i am also a zofran and meds mum

but I know this will be the last baby here

the first I had no morning sickness or problems at all

i think if you are ok with the potential of being sick again then go for it, all pgs are different maybe next time not sick at all

[teenie]

Hi,

Lots of :hugs: to you.

I have never had hyperemesis but have suffered with awful morning sickness (24 hours a day). With DS it was bad. With DD it was horrid and i really struggled to look after DS (he was 2 when I fell pg). All i wanted to do was lie on the bed beside the ensuite for at least 50% of the day. I lived for his daytime sleeptime!! That being said, we got there. The ms eased at about 22 weeks yet I never stopped feeling nauseous.

Do you have support around you? Family etc? That really helped me. My inlaws looked after DS if I was having an especially bad day or would just take him to the shops for a few hours to give me a break.

I truly understand your longing to have another bub - but I can see your DHs point of view. We always thought we might have 3 kids, but my DH has said he can't stand the thought of me going through that again. He had to do so much and was truly amazing - it hurts a bit to hear him say it but I know it's just his true feelings - it was tough. Maybe if you organise a support system in advance that might help your DH come to terms with the idea.

With any luck you will have a different pregnancy. Mine were totally different - so I hope this happens for you:yes::goodvibes: