When the in laws don agree

[Jessandmeltrappel]

Well my partner and I want to start a family soon. We hve been together a while and feel as though we are ready. My partners sister already has two children with her husband they got pregnant and engadged with in a year of dating. So I can't see why everyone else in her family is like " Jess and Mel shouldn't do that ".
They think were too young and don't have enough money but I see it as. Even though my partner is older then me and I'm 20 why should we even have to listen.
They don't believe in ivf so they pretty much told my parter who is 25 by the way ( way grown up enough ) that she can only have iv if she had a medical condition. It drives me nuts.
We live at home with her mum so I think that it's a control thing.
I am so ready to move out. I'm dealing with it day by day and I am getting more like " I just want to leave all together " every moment. I just lost my job and everyone makes me feele bad any chance they get.
I need someone to tell me what I should do because some
times I just get so angry the past few nights I hvent even been able to sit in the shared loungeroom cuz I get so furious.
I feel like we both walk around on ice at home in regards to things like babies and family , to when we can eat and who paid for what. We both pay our way. And pay 2/3 of the rent here.
Can anyone.
Any one see where I am ???

[Green Mum to be]

Honestly, why justify yourself?

You're an adult and completely capable of making your own decisions.

Ignore them and just do it, once there is a baby on the way they will say less because they feel that they no longer have an impact.

Our friends and in laws haven't always agreed and we have lost friends over it. However, in the end it is our decision and we are going after what we want.

I hope that helps?

[Jessandmeltrappel]

hi thanks heaps for that
it's really made me happier. Your so right.

Anyway. Thanks again

Jess

Honestly, why justify yourself?

You're an adult and completely capable of making your own decisions.

Ignore them and just do it, once there is a baby on the way they will say less because they feel that they no longer have an impact.

Our friends and in laws haven't always agreed and we have lost friends over it. However, in the end it is our decision and we are going after what we want.

I hope that helps?

[Rainbow Mum]

I do think if your parents or your partners parents are still providing a roof over your head , then having a baby would be irresponsible.

If you haven't yet stood on your own four feet as an independent adult coupe then no you are not ready to be parenting a child.

Sorry it has nothing to do with your age or your sexuality and everything to do with your level of responsibility.

[lulululu]

I see you say you're ready to move out. How does your partner feel about that? Is it really an option? Because if you're gonna raise a family of your own it might be nice (and less stress) to have your own place...