Wanting a c-section, not sure when to bring it up??

[ladyinwaiting2010]

I hope i dont sound like a broken record, lol, but here goes.

I have had 3 children and currently 13 weeks pregnant with my 4th.

my first girl was born 13 weeks early, very traumatic birth and i have never really gotten over it :( my second girl i was induced with and it was rather painful and complicated. with my third girl it was a very long and painful labor! a lot of tears and it took me ages to recover.

i am absolutely petrified of giving birth again. i know my body can do it, its DONE it three times but i lose sleep over it. im anxious all the time and im pretty sure im depressed. I really want a c-section this time. I dont think i could mentally handle going through labor again.

How early is it to bring up getting a c-section with my Dr??? im not seeing an OB until 20 weeks, do i wait til then or tell me Dr ASAP? :confused:

ALSO- if my Dr declines my request for a c-section how do i go about getting private health cover? ive never had private health cover before and im so confused about it all :o

[BigRedV]

If you are seeing an ob, wouldn't you have private health insurance?

I think previous experience and possible trauma might get you in for a c-section, not sure, but I think it's been done before.

If you don't have private health insurance, it will be too late to join if you are already pregnant as most companies will have a 1 year waiting list for obstetrics.

[ladyinwaiting2010]

aww thats what i thought. damn! :gloomy:

well i dont have private cover BUT the medical centre i go to is private. does that make sense?

[Ruby Sneakers]

Hey
:hugs:about ur previous births.

I am in no way an expert on this at all, but this is what i found out in my travels -

MOST public hospitals wont carry out a csection without a medical reason. This has to be initiated by the dr, not by the patient.In some cases mental reason will be considered as a reason, but i havent heard of very many. On recommendation from a private therapist or someone similar may help with this.

As for going privately without cover, it will be very expensive. And joining a private health fund now will be pointless as there is a 12 month waiting period for obstetrics.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news for you there. Fingers crossed ur Ob is a fan of the c section and may grant ur wish but i wouldnt rely on that happening

[ladyinwaiting2010]

Hmmm in that case i will bring it up at my next appointment but i wont hold my breath :(

[JJAZ]

I would bring it up in conversation at your next appointment! We brought it up at our first appointment, at that time i wanted a VBAC, but the ob gave us all the information for both and we discussed it at each appointment - if there is some trauma there it will probably help you to bring it up sooner, it might just be someone else to talk too about your previous births.

all the best

[Aaliyahsmummy]

I would bring it up as soon as you can.
As you are wanting one for reasons of mental health, maybe see a phycoligist (sp?) or something. I found a lovely lady who specalised in pregnancy related issues- I think there are a few organisations who could reccomend someone.

I think if you have a reccomendation and can show that you have done your homework they will be more likely to do a c-section.

I went private, but had a very pro-natural ob, I did the above and had my c-section on Tuesday. Best decision I could have made for me and my baby in my opinion :)