why does he want to hurt me- sorry long vent

[MeeG]

i really cant stand this... hes doing it again, my ex jus called me to make sure i havent had the baby yet and im keeping it from him or something... ( even thu hes a d**k i wouldnt do that ) he jus called me saying " oh we need to work out this visits thing, (thanks captain obvious) he said when can i come see her then... and i said we'll jus wait til mediation to dicuss this okay, then he starts carrying on about him taking her for the day.

he thinks its unfair that i wont leave her with him and his family for the first 6 months, why should i? legally i dont have to and i dnt trust him or his friends and family, he says its not fair i have to be there all the time, and im being a b***h by stopping him and hes family, but its not fair that he tries to make me feel so gulity about all this and says how can you do this to your daughter and makes me feel horrible, hes doing to spite me as well, ive carried her for 9 months and bought her everything and now in the last 3weeks he wants to jump in and take it all... its not fair!

thru the preganancy he hasnt shown any interest in helping and now he wants everything and he wants to take her every weekend and this and that, its not fair and hes bullying me again into thinking ive brought this on myself when all i did for the first 6 months of my PG is try and work things out so it didnt turn into this... but now it has hes blaming me!! i hate him i wish he would jus drop off the en of the earth, i dont want anything from him but he wants to take everything away from me, i know he will try and take her a away from me fulltime and with the help from hes stupid b***h of a mother :devil6:


im so lost, i love my daughter already but i cant fight for ever, i jus wish he would stop trying to ruin my life:crying:

[~ElectricPink~]

:hugs: I know exactly how u feel sweetie...I wish I had some advice but all I can say is to just keep strong :hugs:

[Mum2Bug]

Oh MeeG

:hugs: to you! I feel for you!

It sounds to me like his family is in his ear about it and is telling him what to say and do. I know its hard but you need to just ignore them and stick to your guns. You have already told him that it'll all be sorted in mediation and tell him that until then, back off.

The law is on your side! They are not about to take a newborn child away from its mother just because the father wants to be an idiot and try. As I have too been advised, and have the paperwork sitting in front of me, the Family Courts main concerns are in the interest of the child. They are not going to rule against the mother unless there is any hazardous reasons to. And I cant say I have picked up on any of them coming from your previous posts.

You have done everything up until now, and asked him for nothing at this point, so there is nothing he can use against you in trying to gain custody. You have tried to work it out amicably, but if he decides to try and fight you with this, it'll only look bad on him as he will come across as a disruptive influence. When you do get into mediation with him, make sure it is just the two of you and your legal representation. My guess is, without his family to back him up there, he will eventually end up looking like a blustering fool who is trying to cause trouble.

You will get there eventually and we are all here for you in the meantime.

[MeeG]

. My guess is, without his family to back him up there, he will eventually end up looking like a blustering fool who is trying to cause trouble.



LOL thats what im hoping for, thanks for advice it really does help:o

[Niki]

i think thats its good that u wont let him take her by himself while she is till little, wat if u are breestfeeding? has he eva looked after a baby before...he sound quite selfish to me! stick to your guns thou, my friend was in the same situation and the father couldnt take the baby by himself until she was well ova 1! he is diging himself a grave really doesnt he know the nicer he is to you the more of her he will see! :hugs: :hugs: i hope that he grows up

[Angelmist♥]

Awww:hugs: to you sweetie.Do you know yet when you will be going through mediation?As everyone has said, just stick to your guns!You and bubs are worth fighting for and I know it can seem never-ending but just stick with it.:fingerscrossed: he'll see sense soon!