Am i being too overprotective.

[catch 22]

My mums birthday is coming up soon and she wants to take her grandchildren to playschool in concert. I have said she can take dd to the concert. I suggested that we meet for a picnic before the concert so she can spend time ds too. I have been told that i am being over protective and i should let him go. I have a few reasons why i just cant let him go. My reasons are-

he gets stressed out when there are too many people.
He gets stressed at loud noises and becomes aggressive.
He cant talk so cant say he is getting stressed.
My mum doesnt beleive he has autism and she beleives in smacking when kids are naughty.

Should i just suck it up and let my mum take ds and dd or not let ds go?

[MimiGrace]

if you're mother is going to smack him for behaving like himself...then ***** no do i think you're being over protective.

listen to your instincts :hugs::hugs:
i'm sorry your mother isn't very helpful in regards to his ASD :(

[Bell & Bug]

Not a SN mum, but I think that you should stand your ground.
You are not being overprotective, you are looking out for your DSs needs based on what you know he can and can't tolerate. If your mum can't understand and accept that, its not your problem and she will need to deal with it.
:hugs:

[trishalishous]

I dont think that you are being overprotective, you are looking out for your sons best interests. If your mum can't understand and accept your sons ASD and respect your parenting choices (ie not smacking) then she has a problem, not you.

[Nowhere]

no your not being over pretective your mum is being a mean nanna, To be a good nanna to a SN child or any child for that matter they have to learn and respect the childs needs, If she is unwilling to educate her self on his autism, and chossed to bury her head in the sand then she is only hurthing him.

This may sound harsh but its true, They need to learn if they want to take him out simple as that

Stand your ground :hugs:

[catch 22]

Thankyou everyone. I have tried explaining to my brother and mum but she keeps saying that it is only a 30 minute concert. If she has all 3 children with her how is she going to hold him still with 2 other children under 2 with her. He is a big boy and gets very aggressive when he is tantruming. Add lots of noise, lights, children, i know he will react.

I am just being made to feel like it is in my head and i should let him go because all 3 yr olds love playschool.

[smileygirl]

i don't think you are being overprotective....i think you are being very realistic!!

My only suggestion is to go with them...that way if he reacts, you can be there to tkae him out for some quiet time.

I guess the only downside is that if he does not react....you'll prob never here the end of it

it's tricky...you are damned either way as they don't "believe" there is an issue:hugs:

[boysrgr8]

I have been to Playschool in concert. I found it quite calm really. We were around the back and had a seat that wasn't in the thick of people. My son has Down Syndrome he doesn't have the reactions that your son may have but I completely understand your concerns. There isn't really any lights and it is just the singers and a piano.

My mum has a lot of problems relating with my son and instead of putting him in environments that he would have problems with, she doesn't take him anywhere.
I do like the idea of you going to so that you are able to discern how he is going. Oh and I don't think you are being overprotective, just understanding of your son. HTH

[MissSookyLaLa]

Can you go with her? Then she can look after the other two and you can be with your DS in case he isn't a fan of the show?