Advice please

[nikkijean]

My girlfriend (24) and I (21) have been given the opportunity to try to have a baby, thanks to a friend who has offered to be a donor for us. We have discussed this long and hard and have decided that it is the perfect time for us.

The only thing is we both still live at home with our parents. Neither of us feel we can leave home just yet. Her family has just lost her brother to an accident and she doesn't feel she can leave her mum and dad just yet. And my father has in incurable disease and I feel I can't leave my mum at home to look after him, my younger sister and brother and my older sister who's due to have her baby in August on her own.

We sleep at her house Sunday night through Thursday night and at my house Friday night through Saturday night. A lot of our friends have said its bad to move the child around so much, giving it no routine etc.

We don't see how its any different to parents who are separated or who co-parent. We both come from happy healthy homes. The bub would have a room at my girlfriends house and share a room with my sisters baby.

I would just love any comments or suggestions on this. We think we have thought of everything but you can never be too careful.

Nikki

[Leeee]

honestly, i'd move out. that might sound selfish but i wouldn't have a baby while living with my parents. for me that would feel wierd. but if it feels right for you and both sets of parents are okay with it, then go for it. long as you do at some point plan to move into your own place.
congrats on the donor, btw. i thought we were onto one last week but he has yet to reply to my last two emails so i assume we're back to the drawing board now. grr.

[mummyrissa]

I don't see a problem with it as it sounds like you are already in a routine, with living arrangements. Like you said you have thought about it and an oppertunity like this may not happen again.
Bringing a baby into a house is added stress though. But, I'm assuming you have disscussed this with everyone living at both houses?
I live with my parents, my 2 younger sisters and my dd is 3, we have lived here since I was pregnant. It's not ideal but it's what I have to do while I study and pay off debts.
All the best with making your decision!