How do you cope?

[Am8ler]

my hubby is heading to the army next month 3 months with out him then another 3 months again. im freaking out and really dont know how im gunna cope we have only been away from each other for a few day over 5 years.

we talk at least 5 times aday now when his working 9-5 how am i gunna cope with no calls at all?

[Seacretsquirrel]

You cope on hour at a time then one day at atime then one week then one month.
Take it day by day write to him email him etc even if he isn't getting them until he gets back it doesn't matter it still shows you are thinking about him even when you are apart.

DH is in the Navy so he has email access (when it is working:rolleyes:) but when he started on boats the email was a lt more hit and miss so I started a notebook (nice hard covered one) and kept a bit of a journal of life in general to show hime when he got home.

Record his voice so you can hear it *(and so can the kids if you have any?) If you have kids get him to read a fave story onto a tape or on your phone so you can play it at night so the kids can hear him reding to them. I sometimes spray his pillow with some of his smellies so I can smell him which is nice:cloud9: I lay his pillow sideways next to me s it sort of fills the space whcih helps me sleep.

I find that the longer he is away the easier it gets - so the first night is always the hardest then it gets easier as you get into your routine and the days sort of fly by until the ast week or so which ALWAYS DRAGS like nothing else:hissy:
When we were a couple (no kids) I tried to stay busy went out with friends, to the movies for a coffee etc a few times a week.
HTH You will be fine once you get into a routine :hugs:

[Bellini]

Keep very busy ;) That's how I cope. It makes the time go quicker, IMO.

[EquineMum]

I agree with both PP's - but we're old hands at it now thanks to the Defence Force LOL

When DH was deployed to the Middle East, we had fairly regular email contact (sometimes we actually arranged to be online at the same time!) which was awesome. We basically lived our normal relationship via email - and that technology was a lifesaver. Once your DP gets settled over there and into a routine, he will be able to have a fair idea of when he will get phone calls/internet time and things will settle down. The first week is the hardest - get through that, and you can get through anything!

Also - don't feel as though you have to accept well meaning friend's invitations to go over for dinner or go out and be sociable - I pretty much turn into a hermit when DH is deployed. I hate seeing happy couples and happy families, it makes me sad! Just do whatever you feel comfortable with - and remember, take pride in what he is doing for his country and keep that first and foremost in your mind. :yes:

Good luck! :thumbsup:

[Am8ler]

Thanks girls.

finding it very hard to be back at home with all his stuff (was at the inlaws for 6 weeks)

so im feeling very depressed that i missed a call from him today because i had to go do food shopping :hissy:

[LaraBakes]

That's always the way! :hair:And let me guess - now you are too scared to leave the house in case he rings again??

[Am8ler]

yep lol. his in the hospital part at kapooka at the moment so i know the times he gets his phone. but when his out could be anytime.