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Harriet
16-08-2006, 07:23 AM
We always planned for two, he even wanted three! We met when I was 34, he 27. It was love at first sight and we started trying to conceive after a few months. I had never even considered children until I met him. Nothing happened, and we just got on with our lives having faith that because we were both so healthy and fit, it would happen. No investigations, big mistake.

Fast forward to 40! Desperation finally kicking in, we did IVF and were blessed with our gorgeous son, now 2. I loved being a mummy so much - I wanted to breastfeed him for as long as possible, worried all the while that my precious fertility years were flashing by, but not wanting to miss that experience in case it never happened again. I decided on a year and stopped when he was 13 months to start trying for Number 2.

I was now 42 and we did a frozen cycle, BFN. Another frozen cycle, BFP! We felt like the luckiest couple in the world and were so grateful, but that baby was not for this world and we lost him at 12 weeks.

6 weeks later, to our amazement I conceived naturally (first time EVER), at age 43 but sadly the pregnancy was ectopic and had to be terminated at 7 weeks. Ever optimistic, we have done two more IVF cycles this year, but both failed due to the age of my eggs.

We feel such a yearning to have another baby, and dream of my son and his little brother or sister sharing the wonder and excitement of childhood; getting up early at Christmas, sharing a bedroom and giggling together at night, running around and riding bikes together. This is how I grew up and I wish the same for him and our next child. Try as I might, I cannot imagine him as an only child, and my grief at the idea of this is overwhelming, especially when I see him playing with other children.

A bit about us - we live in Northern NSW, in a small country town near the coast. We have 2 old dogs who we brought up as our children prior to the birth of our son. They no longer sleep in our bed or play dressups, but are still much loved. He is a quirky designer and I am a happy SAHM, who loves singing and reading. We are financially secure and have loving supportive families.

We are seeking a special person to donate her eggs so that we may have the chance to love another child. Ideally, you will be under 36 years of age. We are seeking a known donor, but we are open to limited contact if you'd be more comfortable with that.

We live about halfway between Sydney and Brisbane, and have family in Melbourne so cycling in any of these places would work. Logistically, I don’t have a clue how this will happen, but I believe strongly in fate bringing people together in amazing ways.

Payment for eggs is illegal in Australia and is therefore not possible or appropriate so this would be a purely altruistic act on your part. Your reward would be a spiritual one, bringing joy and completion to a family who long for another child. All costs and out of pocket expenses will be covered and we would endeavour to make the donation as easy as possible for you.

If you think you may be able to help us, please either PM me or email pitterpat2@hotmail.com

mauve
16-08-2006, 08:41 AM
What a beautiful ad Harriet.
I have a feeling your donor angel is just around the corner.
Good luck!

Harriet
20-08-2006, 05:17 PM
:wave:Hi Mauve

I have a feeling she is too:)

Thanks for checking in on me

K

Roxy
20-08-2006, 05:52 PM
Tis a beautiful ad, hon. Straight from the heart, no holes barred.

I am sure you wont have to wait long for your donor!

Harriet
20-08-2006, 07:33 PM
Thanks for the reply Roxy - it's just great to have responses and not feel this ad has fallen in a big hole:yes: :wave:

Roxy
20-08-2006, 07:59 PM
That's what we are all here for...we flit around, making sure that they dont!

(And yes, I have read your ad before...I have a different name elsewhere!) :rolleyes:

Harriet
20-08-2006, 08:43 PM
Well I'm intrigued:) Whoever you are, :smiliedance:

:yes: I LOVE this little green noddy head!

Roxy
20-08-2006, 08:50 PM
:yes: he is cute!

There are a few clues that will give me away....but this is the only site that I use this alias at!

In any respect, this banter keeps your thread at the top!

Oh - and for any interested donors-to-be...whilst I havent met this lady in person (maybe one day!), she is a lovely, warm and very caring soul....certainly worth getting to know better!

mauve
21-08-2006, 06:30 AM
Oh - and for any interested donors-to-be...whilst I havent met this lady in person (maybe one day!), she is a lovely, warm and very caring soul....certainly worth getting to know better!
I can second that Roxy.

:p Oh, Harriet..... I know who Roxy is...... hmmmmm, hint...... if I say 'snake hips'...... it might get you thinking.....

Harriet
21-08-2006, 10:51 AM
:oYou girls! I just love youse:D

See - I never really worked out who snakehips is.....I thought I knew but now I'm confused again. I'd play Yes, No, Maybe but I know some users like to remain a mystery. Not so me - Harriet's my username everywhere hehehe.

I've got a clue though........Hmmm

mauve
21-08-2006, 05:30 PM
:D Our roxy isn't snake hips.... but they do know each other......

Roxy
21-08-2006, 06:42 PM
We know each other quite well! :yes:

I also frequent your other ED home Harriet.....

mauve
21-08-2006, 06:48 PM
:yes: me too, but I don't have as much blue in me in there....but you know that Harriet....

Harriet
21-08-2006, 07:06 PM
:detective::yes:

Got it:D

natchar
26-08-2006, 02:48 PM
Hi Harriet,

I do feel for every word you had in your ad as i did go through similar things as you. I am also looking for a donor to give my little girl a sibling. Good luck to both of us.

jo-anne.36
26-08-2006, 03:33 PM
hi harriet i wish i could help you but iam in the some boat as you and your hubby well good luck in you seach for egg donor jo-anne

Harriet
26-08-2006, 03:45 PM
:wave: Thanks for your posts Jo-anne and Natchar. Nice to hear from people who are in the same boat. Hear's hoping we all find our donors soon! Good luck to both of you.

xxx:yes:

Mash
29-08-2006, 04:11 PM
Good luck Harriet:) .. you will find someone lovely soon i'm sure hon...
..xoxo Snakehips;)

Harriet
29-08-2006, 07:42 PM
LOL Snakey! Thanks :fingerscrossed: This username surprise business is just too much fun! I love it:yes:

Harriet
18-09-2006, 01:41 PM
Just got an email from the lady who was going to donate for us - she has decided it is not right for her for various reasons. So......we are still looking for a donor:yes: Much better to find out now than a couple of months down the track!!

jo-anne.36
18-09-2006, 07:48 PM
hi there harrit thats no good to here your bad news i hope you do'nt have to wait to long again chain up and lots of :hugs: to you hon jo-anne