I dont know what to do anymore!!!

[Jaileth]

:gloomy: Is there an emoticon thingy for pulling your hair out???!!! I don't know what to do anymore!

My darling baby was sleeping through, and going so well, and for the last week or so, going to bed has been the biggest battle. I don't know why. We got new curtians in his room two weeks ago, and that's the only thing that's changed. DH is out driving him around so he'll go to sleep now.

I just feel like :banghead: times - well, I can't be bothered to count all the various brick walls around here.

Controlled crying just makes me cry more, and I think that I'm too stressed to give it a proper go anyway. I just want him to go to sleep the way he was - without a fight.

We still had to pat him off to sleep (while holding him), and I still can usually manage that, it's putting him down that's the trouble. He jars his arms out and wakes himself up!!!!

Arug! I just don't know anymore!!!

thank you for reading my rant...had to let it out somehow.

[reAllytee]

:hugs: :hugs:

Its a hard time but this tends to come in stages just try & get through it any way you can. So if that means holding him patting him rocking him off to sleep then do it CC isnt for everyone but has many advantages for some.
Maybe holding him a little longer letting him fall into a deeper sleep before trying to put him down.
You could also put him in bed with you if your able to let him fall asleep then put him into his own cot or even co-sleep if your up for it !
Its hard i know but try anything give it a few days of getting it to work then if it doesnt try something else. You may find just sitting next to his cot patting him may help i know this is the only way i got Boof to sleep for ages & still have to do it every so often.
They just want to know your close by because as they get older they have more of a knowledge of their surroundings etc so they dont want mum too far away.
Your doing a great job dont doubt yourself things will get better soon if you need to talk just PM me anytime.
Take care :hugs:

[Chickadee]

Ah, I see your screaming baby is around 6-7 months old :rolleyes: . For some reason, sleep patterns seem to go haywire at around that age for many bubs. And around the 1 year mark.

A couple thoughts... how are his day sleeps? Many bubs drop to 2 days sleeps sometime between 6 and 9 months of age, and when this starts to happen it can throw out their night time sleeps too.

If patting is working for you, then try patting him in his cot. This avoids that dreaded moment when he finally falls asleep in your arms and then wakes screaming as you try to transfer to his cot. Put him on his side in the cot and pat his bum fairly solidly. If he has an absolute fit then pick him up to calm him and then try again. You may have to do this several times, and it may take a few nights to a week to see progress. But many bubs will settle in the cot to the sound or your voice (be calm and assertive!) and patting. It may help to give him more body contact with you, by holding his arm, back, shoulder, or tuck your forearm along his tummy for him to cuddle to. I've written out the details of this technique I was taught and used, it's on the forum somewhere :o

Good luck.

[motherlylove]

where on the sunshine coast are you read Tizzie Hall Save our sleep

[Jaileth]

Thanks all.

He went to sleep in the car last night, so my lovely DH took care of him.

And the bugger of it is that he settled fine thismorning.

allyoo - we try patting him in his cot and he just screams at us. Will give it another go though - I'm willing to try anything at the moment.

MarthaM - He has three day sleeps at the moment. Before we went away, he was down to two, so I might try dropping the last one. :o Kinda forgot about that. My head is so messed up at the moment. I really hope he doesn't go through this again at a year old!!! :crying: That'll be when DH is doing his exams - and it's hard enough at the moment!!!

ellyshay - do you mean a thread? Cause I can't find it?? :confused:

Thanks again all.

[reAllytee]

Maybe try picking him up when he starts to scream give him a cuddle then put him down facing you then pat him try & settle him this way & keep cuddling him as reassurance when needed this way he can see your not going anywhere & will cuddle him when he needs it .... Does that make sense ?

As Martha said i would take him back to his 2 sleeps it sounds like that could be whats making him cranky. Also maybe try to really wear him out in the evening so lots of play time etc nice big dinner big drink of milk & then a bath this may well help him get off to sleep also try & stick to your routine if possible round the afternoon. I always found if ours went off the rails i had more of a drama getting Boof off to sleep so try & get any chores etc done in the morning so that your afternoons focus solely on your DS.

Hope im making sense !

Take care :hugs:

[kadownie]

I so know what you are going through- my son went through this at 6 months- what I decided to do was follow my instincts - after trying all kinds of things- the easiest and quickest way for me to get him to sleep was to either feed him to sleep in my arms or lying down with him, or rock him to sleep in my arms.

I won't lie and tell you that now that he's nearly two he's easier to get to sleep- the routine is exactly the same- however- I feel good in myself as although it is more work- I feel that he's a more confident boy- bed isn't a scary time- it's nice and cozy time with Mum.

I have twins- and my girl is the exact opposite- she's very happy to go to bed by herself- rarely do I need to attend to her to get to sleep.

I know the way I do things is not the norm, and it is a little more time consuming- but I feel good about my choices and see that both my bubs are different and require different strategies to enable them to feel safe.

I hope you find something that works well for you!

[Jaileth]

THanks again all.

This is his second nap today - I realized that he's been having 4 naps a day, not 3, so we'll see what happens when we go back to two.

The other thing I realized was that we went out every day - and now that DH is at tafe and work, we don't. DS loves going out so much, so we'll have to start that again and see if it helps.

Thanks all - I'm feeling a bit more human now. :o