Co-Sleeping...and the partner who is less than happy with it.

[SassyMummy]

I'm not an attachment parent...but there are some aspects of it which I like (baby-wearing and co-sleeping for example).

DD currently sleeps in her cot, and has for quite some time...but that's only because DP didn't like co-sleeping...and so, to make him happy, I moved DD into her cot (and eventually into her own bedroom).

I'm not pregnant, but when I eventually have another baby, I'd like to attempt co-sleeping again.

I'm wondering how others have coped with co-sleeping...when your partner is less than thrilled about the idea of it.

[*~alegna~*]

I'd love some advice there aswell....My DS is 2.5mth & DH doesn't want him in bed with us either. He says that is the only time we get alone, which I can understand but it is so lovely having my bubba in bed with us!:hugs:

[shed]

I am not sure what my label is yet in regard to Attachment Parenting - must still be coming in the mail!!

But... last night I learned to breastfeed while lying down and at the 2am feed I didn't put bubby back in the bassinette, I just left him in our bed and at the 4am feed I just put the boob in his mouth and he fed and then we both nodded off again.

DP would be all for co-sleeping. On bubby's first night DP slept with bubby on his chest and he said how cool it would be if bubby could just sleep with us. I told him it was called co-sleeping and that I would look it up.

So this is me looking it up, LOL.

I just need to know what the "rules" are. My baby is only two weeks old so I am a bit worried I will smother him or he will overheat or something.

[Niki]

well my parner found it hard with the space issue so wen isaw on here that ppl side car i tried that and it works great for us he loves it now

[Percy]

DH said right from the start that there wasnt going to be any co-sleepimg.

However, i was really sick for the first three months, and couldnt get up to DS for night feeds. He ended up in our bed and is till there.

We are in the process of moving him now, but only because of the space issue.

[bekkyboo]

we have co-slept pretty much since birth. During the pregnancy both me and DH were againist it. But having a chi.ld with severe reflux and that at times was a little difficult sleep unless he was on our chests (and a mother who loved her sleep) - we were more than happy for him to sleep with us.

Dh got over his fear of it when DS slept so well... As for rules here;s what i go by.

I have the covers lower than him - so on me thats below my chest.

Im not really concerned about overheating as the guide is bub to have 1 more layer than you. He has a jumpsuit to sleep in, and then he just goes under our covers....

We go like this - GDS sleeps in his cot from put down to 2am feed, then into bed withus until i get up. DH gets up around 5, so then its just me and ds.

I had a fear of rolling on him, but after my first night with him, i lost that. Its an instinct you have, i dont move an inch with out waking up when heis in bed with us.

[our little treasures]

I fully co sleep with my lil man and did with our dd 16mnths... My hubby loves it but sometimes he says it's time to get his room done. next day he is back to wanting him in our bed.

[pickles]

I have seen in some baby shops this mini basinette that is designed for baby to sleep in between parents at the top of the bed with your pillows on either side. baby is on own mattress and has its own bedding and you are unable to roll on top. I am not sure of the brand but looks like a really good idea for those worried. Would possibly also make it easier if you wanted to transfer the baby out into its own bed because it would already be used to that sleep environment.
Good Luck
Pickles
DD 02/03
DS 03/05

[*Chels*]

Go Shed!!The day I mastered the art of feeding lying down was the best day of my life LOL!
We co-sleep,I like it better than my df does.He complains that we dont get to cuddle in bed etc.
I said to him the we have the rest of our lives to cuddle in bed,and Riley will only be a baby for a short time.It sounds brutal,but I dont really care if DF has a problem with it.Im not going to sacrafice my snuggle time with my baby for anyone.Pretty soon Riley will be too big to have in bed and probably wont even want to sleep with us,so Im going to enjoy it while it lasts!!
Also Im still breastfeeding,and he wakes a few times a night for boobie,so its the easiest way for us to have a good sleep

[alicesmum]

I said to him the we have the rest of our lives to cuddle in bed,and Riley will only be a baby for a short time.It sounds brutal,but I dont really care if DF has a problem with it.Im not going to sacrafice my snuggle time with my baby for anyone.Pretty soon Riley will be too big to have in bed and probably wont even want to sleep with us,so Im going to enjoy it while it lasts!!
Also Im still breastfeeding,and he wakes a few times a night for boobie,so its the easiest way for us to have a good sleep

I am with you. We cosleep. Did it with DD from Day 1 for 2 months (and then sometimes from her 3am sleep onwards) and from Day 1 with DS who is now nearly 10 weeks. I think I will go for longer with DS now that I am not so sensitive to people's stares and comments about rolling on your baby. Codswallop.:laughing: We have a bed rail and he sleeps on the outside of me. It's fantastic and so practical and lovely too!

[Rainbowbrite]

DH was against the idea when i was pg, then as we started to do it occasionally he loves it as much as i do.

Now he wouldnt have it any other way. I'm so lucky to have a dh who is so supportive of the way i want to parent. We've discussed having another & if we do there is no way we'd waste money on a cot. We'd just go out & get a king size bed. We even now are contemplating having mattresses wall to wall :smiliedance:

[Niki]

We'd just go out & get a king size bed. We even now are contemplating having mattresses wall to wall :smiliedance:


that is such a good idea, how comfy

[Little_Toad]

I wouldn't dare co sleep when the toadlet is born,

If my dp puts his arm on me, I seriously I can't breath cause he's so huge and muscly. If his arm went on a baby it would die.

I think its nice to get alone time too. Be a couple still.

[shed]

Bubby sleeps on the other side of me, not on the side DP is on so DP can't roll on him anyway. The bassinette is beside the bed so bubby can't fall out (at least the bassinette of of some use! - he sleeps in it during the day as well though). He doesn't roll yet anyway.

DP is worried that bubby will still want to sleep with us when he's older, but I doubt it. When he goes into his own room he can come with us and pick out his bed and sheets and doona and then he will probably want to sleep in his own bed. Either way, I can't imagine him in there when he's 18 anyway, LOL.

[belinda]

this is my co sleeping story hehe.

Well Hubby really really hated the idea so he was born and he still hated the idea so in to the bassinet he went then in to his cot. But then at 6 months of age he was sick and teething was troubling him so in to our bed he came and i loved everyminute of it so now still he is 16 month oldand he goes in to his cot first then around 12am he is in our bed and i LOVE it. Well hubby on the other hand still hates it but half the time he is the one bringing our ds to our bed ha ha ha so i think deep deep down he loves it too.

I Just had to put my foot down and he doesnt say a word much about it anymore he said i am much more happier now hehe..

He is worried now as we have number 2 on the way what we are going to do he said to me the other day i think we have to buy a king size bed as we only have a queen now, so he is the one thinking ahead about having 2 kids in the bed :laughing:

[Funkychicken]

Bubby sleeps on the other side of me, not on the side DP is on so DP can't roll on him anyway. The bassinette is beside the bed so bubby can't fall out (at least the bassinette of of some use! - he sleeps in it during the day as well though). He doesn't roll yet anyway.

DP is worried that bubby will still want to sleep with us when he's older, but I doubt it. When he goes into his own room he can come with us and pick out his bed and sheets and doona and then he will probably want to sleep in his own bed. Either way, I can't imagine him in there when he's 18 anyway, LOL.
I found with all three of my bubba's that until they are about 3 months they are still quite unaware of their surroundings. Meaning that keeping bub in bed before this time will have zero impact on them 'wanting' to be in bed with you when they are older. You could keep doing what you are doing for a couple more months and just see how it pans out. If you then (or DP) want to move him out, you can do so. For the next two months though, at least, I would just follow my heart when it comes to co-sleeping and try hard not to be too concerned about 1. other peoples opinions, 2. that you will end up with an 18 yo in your bed and 3.that you are doing things right or wrong. Do what feels comfortable for you.:thumbsup:

Oh, and remember to soak up every little bit of that beautiful little boy of yours!:D

[Pippi Longstocking]

Heh, my husband said that if i put the baby in her own room, he'd just go get her and tuck her back into bed with us. He said he doesn't want her to be frightened and lonely. He does often sneak out to the couch to sleep if princess starfish has decided to stretch herself out and take up all of the room but he doesn't resent it.
Heh, I guess that is why she is such a bl00dy daddy's girl :barf: . I carried her, I birthed her, I feed her and who does she constantly want? Dadadadadadada!

[Rainbowbrite]

Norah are you me??? :p Your DH sounds like mine, so does your DD :laughing: