Would you have a scan by yourself?

[atts]

This is definantly the last baby for me. I have a 3D scan booked for the 30th, and I am starting to think I should go alone just in case. I never expected to have 3 children, and TBH cried a lot after finding out the sex of my 2nd daughter, and had huge fights with her father because he thought I was being ungrateful etc.


Fell pregnant late last year by surprise while breastfeeding, but lost the baby early January. We decided to try again, but didn't sway. It took 3 cycles after the miscarriage (short time I know) but each cycle I was feeling more depressed because I couldn't figure out why I wasn't falling pregnant or why I had the miscarriage in the first place.

Would you have a scan by yourself?

[Emi]

do you want to find out the sex of the baby?

i dont think i could find out the sex if i had another baby... but if i were to i would definitely want my partner there with me so we could find out together.

this should be a happy time for you both... and perhaps a time for you to reconnect and bond a bit more...

hope that helped a bit

[MummaBear03]

I did all of it by myself. But also didn't have the option of a partner at any time through pregnancy. So to me, yes I could, but it's probably just because it was the only way for me.

[atts]

The scan is to confirm what we have been told we are expecting.

Don't know if I am posting in the wrong section. I couldn't find any section on GD.

[sandy cheeks]

:hugs::hugs::hugs:
Um I dont know how to answer your question but I had my scans alone and I was ok I am much stronger alone iykwim but it would have been nice to have someone there I suppose.
If it will cause tension having him there afterwards then maybe go alone to this one.

[Emi]

have you spoken to you dh???

does he want to be there?
do you want him there?
or do you want to go alone?

[MummaBear03]

Oh ok, there is a part for that somewhere on the hub. Sorry, might be misunderstanding, but is your partner reluctant to go along and not wanting to find out? If you want to go but he doesn't, then you should go if you feel you will be able to handle it. Some of my friends have been glad to have found out before bub came along because they went through the heartache and disappointment during pregnancy and once bub came along they felt much better and had psyched themselves up a little.

[Amara]

I had some of my scans alone due to logistical issues. The only one that I regretted was the 12 week one when they found a high NT measurement. It was really had to deal with that news alone.

[Seacretsquirrel]

I had the 2 early ones alone as DH was at sea.
I agree with Amara the hardest part was finding out news and not having DH there to share it... we found otu at our 8 week scan were were having twind and then at the 12 week one that we had lost one of them so that was really hard to go through alone and esp as I couldn't even ring DH to tell him the news!

But the actual going alone was no worries!

[RmumR]

i went to my dating scans by myself but def wanted DF there for the NT scan (he actually drove 2.5hrs to come and then back as he was working away).

will def want him there for our morph scan too.

[Bunnybella]

I would go alone if I had too.
But so far have had DH at all scans.