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So I'm here listening out to DS who has been napping for 50 minutes, i just tried to re-settle and he went down for another 10, and then he woke again and had a little grizzle for about 1 minute and since i've typed this he's stopped and gone back to sleep :rolleyes:
How long do you leave yours for before you go and intervene? I'm not talking about crying, just grizzly noises? I generally go in if he "calls out" He's only 4 months, but he does a little yell which i interpret as "Mum, come help me sleep!" BUT... sometimes he does it and I physically can't get there (on the loo, doing dishes whatever) for another minute or so, and he puts himself to sleep OR he gets really distressed and is really difficult to get to sleep again. What do i do? What do YOU do? I'd like him to know i'm there when he needs me BUT i also don't want to run everytime he peeps, cuz i know he can get himself back down.
My little one is 15 weeks and like yours wakes often from a sleep cycle. Sometimes he wakes and cries straight away but other times he has a little play like you described.
Lewis has never woken, cried and put himself back to sleep before I have intervened. He has woken, played for 30 minutes and then dozed back off.
I have found that less is more with him. The sooner I get to him, the more likely he is to resettle. He self settles beautifully with no aides but I do use a dummy to get him back to sleep. Sometimes I go in 3 or 4 times in the first 5 minutes to replace it. After that I start timing and will stay out for 2 minutes before returning and replacing dummy and giving a little rock on the tummy.
In the coming weeks I plan on leaving him to cry a bit more from when he first wakes up.
Hope that helps.
I leave DD grizzle until it turns into a cry, then I go straight to her. She's very vocal so half the time I don't know if it is a grumpy grizzle or a talking grizzle.
if my little one wakes up and is grizzly, i usually go in there. if she wakes up and is talking a little (what i think is talking) then i leave her if she hasnt slept enough. and if she wakes up crying, then i know she hasnt had a good enough sleep so i go to re-settle her back to sleep. It really depends on how long she has slept. BUT i heard that if they wake up happy and talking then they have slept enough and if they wake up crying, then need to sleep more.
Hope that helps
Till it turned into a cry, yell or scream.
I recently did sleep school with my 8 month old and the nurse said to only go in when they 'wind up'. Here's what i had to do:
Put her to bed, pat, rock, sing do what ever to get bubs calm. Then say 'time for sleep', kiss and walk out. If bubs is 'winding down', leave them be. Give them the opportunity to fall asleep on their own.
If bubs starts to wind up, wait for a quieter patch of volume (if you go in when the're screaming, this will them them that mum comes in when they scream) and go in to resettle. When calm again, say 'time for sleep' then walk out again. If bubs is still wound up, only wait the required amount of time for their age (mine was 5-7 mins) then go in, get them calm again, say 'time for sleep' then walk out again. Screaming or not! Repeat this cycle until asleep but no longer than an 45 mins for day sleeps and 60 mins for nigh time.
If bubs is 'winding down' and has been for over 10 mins during the day and 30 or so mins during the night, go in and remind them that its sleep time.
I know ive gone into a lot more than what your question asked, but a little insight (if you needed it) into how long to let them cry whether its winding up or down, may help. Some people may not agree with this, but it worked for me. Especially, undersanding what the cries mean and how long before i should intervene.
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