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muls

28-05-2010, 19:04

I know this is going to sound silly but i got a lady on ebay to pedict my baby's gender and she asked a list of questions and claims she has a 97% success rate. I know it's probably nonsense but it just got me thinking. She predicted a BOY and I was really upset of the thought of having another boy well more - not having a GIRL. It's silly I know but I was just really shocked by how that one word BOY made me feel. I just really want a girl this time I can't help the feeling and I know if I told some of my friends they would judge and say you should just want a healthy baby and I do but I can't shake the feeling of wanting a daughter.
I don't know how I'll react at my 18wk U/S if it's a BOY. I really don't want to feel like this I just want to be happy to have a baby but you can't help how you feel :(.
Wish I could just be happy.........

crazymuma

28-05-2010, 19:07

I was the same with my daughter as I never wanted a girl. To be honest for me as time went on after finding out I got more used to the idea and after she was born it wasn't an issue.

I would get a scan and try and find out what you are having just so you have time to deal with it. If things get too bad then I suggest before the baby is born you see a counsellor.

MyFourCubs

28-05-2010, 19:14

Wow what a way to make money on ebay:laughing:

I was the same with my 2nd pregnancy so I can relate. I did NOT want a boy. I had ïssues with having a boy.:o I went the entire pregnancy not knowing as I was terrified of finding out it was going to be a boy. Every time somebody suggested I was a boy I felt sick. You get the picture!! As it happened I DID have a boy- a beautiful boy and while I adore him now with all my heart NOW, we did have bonding issues and I wish now I had of found out early on to prepare myself so I agree with the other poster.:hugs: It's a HORRIBLE feeling and I am crossing fingers for you it's a GIRL:fingerscrossed: but if it's a boy you WILL cope and you WILL love him just as much as the others- eventually. Good luck.

muls

28-05-2010, 19:36

Thanks guys!

I know I will be fine if it is a boy but just so want a daughter. I want the same relationship I have with my mum and I want to be able to buy girly things for a change. I just wish I didn't feel like this just want the feeling to go away :crying:.

Thanks for the support

28-05-2010, 19:41

She has a 3% fail rate;).

Hugs Hun, it's not an easy feeling. Try not to focus too much on it.

MummyStar

28-05-2010, 22:20

How long is it until your US to find out a more accurate result?
I understand where you are coming from, I have two boys & I really wanted to have 3 boys (not sure if we're going ahead with a 3rd) but when I was PG the first time I was sure that I would have a girl cos I wanted a boy so much, when he was born & the Obs said "It's a Boy" I was so over the moon...I didn't believe him, I said are you sure?
I didn't find out his sex while I was PG but I saw a physic at around 5wks PG & she told me that I was carrying a girl so I think based on that I convinced myself that I would have a girl, it was probably a good thing cos I kind of got used to the idea.
Let us know how you go at the US.

1+1=5

28-05-2010, 22:23

:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs: i know exactly how you feel and you are not alone in desiring a daughter. i'm about to have my third boy.

muls

01-06-2010, 20:38

I'm so glad I have people who don't judge my feelings.
I know it's not acurate but the feeling of thinking I might be having another boy just really highlighted my desire for a girl. I will be finding out at my 18 or 20wk ultrasound in around 8-10wks so not that long to wait I suppose but ahhhhh I'm so impatient LOL!

Iused2bewithit

04-06-2010, 14:30

I totally understand how you feel. We tried for number 2 but DTD right on O (in the end I didint care I just so desperately wanted to be pregnant) so I had it in my head that we were automatically having another boy.
I wanted to find out at our 20 wk scan just like you so I could 'prepare myself' if it was a boy. We ended up getting the sonographer to write down the gender partly cos I wasnt completely ready to find out (scared it would be a boy mostly) and partly cos I didnt want to be disappointed infront of the sonographer incase she thought I was a bad parent. That night DH and I went out to dinner and opened the envelope over dinner. He opened it first cos I couldnt look. We were having a......girl! I cried right there in the resturant.
Good luck but IMO I think you will fall in love with your baby pink or blue.

The Girls Only Club

04-06-2010, 15:16

I was devastated at my ultrasound and they told me I was having a girl.I already had two girls and really wanted a boy.
I gave birth to my new princess a week ago and I love her more than anything(except her sisters)I cried when she was placed on my belly but they were tears of joy.
There are a lot of women who have experienced gender disappointment,be kind to yourself,And good luck at your ultrasound

muls

04-06-2010, 15:49

I'm definetely ok with the fact I may be having a boy but just still a little heartbroken if I might not get a girl :idea:.....

We're pretty sure we'll be using Nate finally as we've been going to use it each time for the boys but haven't yet!!

Still in the waiting game so we'll just wait and see what is to be. At least 8wks left to wait...........................................

Thanks for all the support

muls

06-06-2010, 08:46

Um sounds a bit dumb but asked another lady who did these calculation gender things to re-calculate as I thought that maybe my information may need to be reviewed since I didn't factor in that all my siblings are half brothers and sisters. Once reviewed she said with my information she believes I am for sure having a girl and gave me a 93% chance. I am not falling for this just fun but thought that the slim hope will keep me going till the 18-20wk ultrasound. I really am happy either way just would love the surprise of a little pink bundle.
Will keep you guys updated!!

faroutbrusselsprout

06-06-2010, 09:01

Well I'm not sure if we used the same lady but after reading your post I got a gender reading done off ebay as well!
I have two boys already and although I'd love a girl one day and I am becoming more and more at peace with the fact that this may be another boy.

I thought it was a very sweet reading but in no way am I convinced she is right....although a couple of things were really quite accurate.
She said this baby I was having is the same sex as the baby we lost (girl) and a few other things.

.......But just remember it's a bit of fun!
I'm not finding out the sex and I'm not due till January! So I have a long time to wait to see if she's right.

Let us know which one was right for you.

Gender disappoinment is very real and alot of us know what you are going through.
xx

muls

10-06-2010, 11:50

Mmmmm still so impatient!!!

Can anyone tell me whether they got told the sex of a baby at their 12wk US. I was wondering whether I should ask and know that it may still be wrong but just for curiosity. Has anyone got told the gender from 12wks?

Punky81

10-06-2010, 21:02

With my son, I was told he was a girl at the NT scan and I was 13 wks 4 days.

This time I was also told girl at 13 wks 5 days and they were right.; Each time I was told there was a big chance of it being incorrect. Sometimes the 'nub' they lok for changes and isn't in it's correct or final position, eg: hasn't grown into boy bits yet. So this time I took it with a grain of salt until the next scan at 18 wks.

deux bleus

11-06-2010, 11:18

This thread caught my attention immediately as I am going through a very similar situation!

I always wanted a girl but knew that my DS was a boy. I wasnt very happy about the idea the whole way through, but as you know, once he arrived I never thought about it again!
I adore having a boy and have actually found a liking in having a son, doing boy things and think that girly things are tacky.

I fell pg unexpectedly recently (am actually due only a few days before you) and I was always CONVINCED I'd have a girl next.
Im not sure what Im having this time as I really cant be sure either way but I also did that same test you did on Ebay.
She told me I have a 93% chance of having a boy and I was devastated :(
Ive done the Chinese charts and most say boy also.

Although Im not convinced, I have told myself that it is another boy as it more than likely will be and Im starting to be ok with the idea.
The fact that my sons will be so close in age is cute and they'll have each other and be like twins.
It mostly doesnt bother me until I find out someone has a girl and then I feel a little 'ripped off' because Ill never know the feeling of having a daughter.
Another issue that bugs me is that if I tell people I think its a boy, their response isnt happy and excited, its pity. They respond with; "Oh, you can always try again!"
Why cant ppl accept that you are happy with the same gender and does it make this child less important because it's a He?
What if I do go again and then have another boy?

I hate that feeling of pity from everyone and feel that he will always be in DS1's shadow.

Ultimately i want a healthy baby, obviously, and will get used to what ever he/she decides to be but I totally understand your desire/need for a mini you.

Hopefully we both get our wish in our next scan!! Let me know :fingerscrossed:

muls

11-06-2010, 13:50

Hey Jenka!

I didn't even think about it till you brought it up but it is really hard to be happy with another boy when everyone gets all pitiful that it's another boy. I wanted my 2 boys and had them close because I wanted them to be friends and love the relationship they have. Now it's my third bub and I would just love to even up the score and have someone in the house who likes dressess and wants to wear my makeup and I'd also love to be one of the first people my daughter told when she was having her own baby :rolleyes:
I hope I'm not wanting too much LOL!

I really hope that both you and I Jenka are able to realise our dreams of a pink bundle!!

By the way I did 2 and 1 lady said boy the other said girl I like her answers better - her store name is bath*body*baby!!

deux bleus

11-06-2010, 16:11

Thats the one that gave me 93% boy :o

who did your 1st one??

muls

11-06-2010, 16:15

sindym2518 - good luck LOL!

I had given this lady the wrong info though as included half brothers and sisters so should get her to re-do it.....

deux bleus

11-06-2010, 21:08

and she was also on ebay??

I just thought up a brilliant idea, not sure if it applies to you as Im not sure what area you live in...

In my local area we have a day spa that does pregnancy treatments, massage etc. They have a sonographer in there that does 3d scanning for you (so non medical and without a referral).

I was thinking I could ask him to book me in for around 3 or 4 weeks time and see if he can tell me the gender. Im SO impatient hahaha!

I just bought the test with sindym2518, so Ill let you know what she says.
If she 'predicts' boy then Ill just be more convinced. If she says girl, ill get confused and then loose faith in both of them haha!
ATM, Im back to saying 'she', yet still picture another blue one?? Hrmmmmm.....

muls

12-06-2010, 09:12

I wish I had one of those here, I'm in Young which is in country NSW. I think Canberra would be my closest option for one of those, but I am highly considering it LOL!

I'm getting her to re-do mine too now and see if I get a different result since my placenta brain should've told me not to include half brothers and sisters.

Hope she gets back to you asap!!
Fingers, toes, arms and legs crossed :yelclap:

muls

12-06-2010, 18:42

Jenka - got that lady to do it again and it still says boy. Definetly hope the other lady is right he he!!

Did you book you 3d gender scan?

deux bleus

12-06-2010, 21:46

Ok, so the bath*body lady says boy!
The other lady you suggested said GIRL?

We prob cant trust either one and they are prob just guessing as much as we are.

I called the 3d scan today and he said he'd do it
@ 16wks for me :yelclap:

Today I had girl vibes all day... who knows :confused:

muls

12-06-2010, 21:59

Yeh now I'm confused :confused:

I've found another one and ordered that guess LOL! Hopefully 2/3 :D

Oh you lucky thing, I might try and convince DH to take me to Canberra for one at 16-17wks.

Send me some of your pink vibes please, I'm feeling all blue again :(

GraceUnhearing

12-06-2010, 22:08

you sweet heart
i know exactly how you feel
i have 2 boys and was so hoping for a girl this time
gender disappointment is a real thing so dont let anyone disregard your feelings!!

its not about not wanting the baby you have its about grieving the loss of the child you wont have
you will love your new little man (if he is a little man) just like you others
but it doesn't mean you wont grieve the loss of your little girl

hugs to you

muls

13-06-2010, 09:47

GraceUnhearing - Ohhh you give me hope that I may have a little girl. It's so hard having to wait to find out. I really hope to have some pink so send me some pink vibes please :goodvibes:

Jemma87

14-06-2010, 12:10

i know exactly how u feel, i have 2 girls and am desperatly hoping for a boy this time.... i was told in u/s that my DD2 was infact a boy which i was so happy about, u can imagine my disappointment when HE was born a SHE.... but i love her more than naything and loving having 2 girls. I dont really want to find out the sex this time as its going to be my last child and wanted a suprise. DP wants to know, its only early stagesas of yet so we might comparamise. But i think to find out im having another girl i would be devastated... my sisters parnters mum is kinda physic and told my sister that she thinks 3rd time lucky i will get my little man :) praying she is right..

muls

14-06-2010, 14:49

Well I got my new gender prediction and it says girl so 2 out of 3 :smiliedance:!!
I know it doesn't mean anything but gives me extra hope till the 20wk ultrasound.

Jemma I have lots of blue vibes so sending them your way and fingers crossed :goodvibes:

Thanks again everyone for all the support it really has made the world of difference :hugs:

muls

18-06-2010, 21:04

Had an ultrasound only 12wk one and got some shots but no body seems to be able to guess the gender......please be pink.

Also purchased another gender prediction off ebay and it said girl so that's 3/4 now so keeping my hopes up!!!

deux bleus

19-06-2010, 07:40

I also bought another off ebay, trying to get a best out of 3 result.
I bought a 'psychic reading' this time.

She told me the cards say its a boy (as I guessed) although she then said that I would be happy with this result after having 2 girls????

HAHA.. I only have one child, a boy!!

Im actually really starting to like the idea of having 2 boys, and we picked a name if its a him so I feel good about it now!!!

Ill let you know my result in 2.5wks.

Sending pink your way ! :goodvibes:

muls

19-06-2010, 17:43

I just got another prediction and she had a 99% rating LOL! Anyway she said girl so YAY!

A friend also said she had a dream about me having a girl and I'm liking the idea he he

Either way I will be happy but we'll wait and see...

Thanks :goodvibes: pink your way too just in case

Merla

19-06-2010, 18:18

Another here who experienced gender disappointment. Growing up with 2 baby brothers I always thought I would have 2 boys, I have always cared for boys and knew how to raise boys. I was sure I was pregnant with a little boy until my 19 week scan told me it was a girl, I cried (tried to disguise them as tears of happiness as DH wanted a girl). It took me several weeks to come around to the idea, I hated everything pink and pretty and started grieving my son (DH only wanted 1 child). Sure enough by the time she was born I was so ready to meet my daughter and she is just the most perfect little girl, I could not imagine not having HER.

That said next time around if we have another girl I will most likely go through the same process again as I will never have a son (2 children is our limit), but by the time the bub is born I know I will be completely inlove despite its sex.

I do hope for you that you get your little pink bundle as I know what its like to crave a certain gender.

nyss86

19-06-2010, 20:49

Hi,

I felt GD with this bub when I found out that it was another DD I felt a little crushed inside as I had desperately hoped for a boy.
My DF only wants 2 kids and I have always wanted 3.
I can't wait to have this little one and I know that once she is born I will be over the moon that she is just healthy and happy!
We are talking about having a third in a couple of years so we will see how we go. Don't want to rush into it & I love that my little miss will have a big sister as I love having a sister :)

Sharai

20-06-2010, 11:37

Hi Muls - When I went for my morph scan the girl there said it looked like a girl then by the end of the ultrasound changed her mind and said boy. I was very disappointed and felt shattered at the time. So went to get a 3D scan to be sure. And sure enough it was going to be our 3rd boy. It took me a few weeks to get my head around it but I was thrilled by the time I met him. Now suprised that I'm pregnant again. I do hope for a girl as I too would like the relationship with a DD like I have with my mum. But I'm not putting my hopes up too high as I know it will be disappointing again. There is already 5 grandsons on my MIL's side so a DD would be lovely to break the trend.

I'm due around the same time as you in Dec and will have another 3D scan after morph just to make sure.

jennababe

20-06-2010, 11:48

i will be in the same boat my 3rd and final pregnancy. and yes a boy is ok. but i really want a girl to complete our family. and 3 is our most!! so if its a boy i will have 3 boys!!

i found out the sex both pregnancies with my first 2, and have kinda thought id like to have a suprise with the 3rd but im thinking for my emotions i should probably find out at 20 weeks, so i can get used to the idea that im not going to have a girl and bond with him while preg, because being in the labour room and them saying its a boy, i dont wanna be like oh great another boy haha:rolleyes:

but i guess its just luck of the draw, and some people are just meant to have boys and some people just girls.

:goodvibes:HUGE PINK VIBES ANYWAY!!!!:goodvibes:

muls

20-06-2010, 13:44

Thanks so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and
pink vibes your way too:goodvibes:

Let's hope we both get pink YAY!!!!

jennababe

20-06-2010, 16:08

Thanks so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and
pink vibes your way too:goodvibes:

Let's hope we both get pink YAY!!!!

hehe, im not even pregnant yet!! but ill take them as future Pink Vibes!!:p have u got a girl name picked?

muls

20-06-2010, 17:08

Good luck though!!

We have a few names, Ella, Charlee, Isabella, Imogen or Asha. DH and I find it so hard to agree LOL!

We had Ella picked before a friend stole the name so we'll see whether we decide to use it!!

beckythommo

21-06-2010, 14:52

I am right there too! I am pregnant with no. 3 (first 2 were beautiful boys) and have my scan tomorrow. I didn't find out the sex for the first 2 but this time am desperate to find out because i have always wanted a daughter. I really feel like knowing beforehand is going to help me deal with the situation which ever way it falls! Wish me luck!:)

muls

21-06-2010, 17:30

BIG PINK VIBES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BEC

Hopefully we'll both be getting what we want!!
Are you having an early scan or just your 18-20wk morph scan? I don't think I can wait....:p

beckythommo

21-06-2010, 18:50

Thanks so much!! I'm glad I found this thread right when I have been feeling so anxious! I was feeling quite ridiculous before, knowing that there are much worse things to be told at your scan than you are not having a child of the desired sex - but we'll wait and see. This will be my 19 week morphology scan. I did ask at my nuchal (12 weeks) but the sonographer was not able to tell (apparently they all look like little boys then, it just depends whether the thingy points north or south!)

I am so relieved that by this time tomorrow night I will know one way or the other!!

muls

21-06-2010, 20:45

Oh that's so exciting, I'll be cheering for you all day!! Let me know asap x

Go pink, go pink, go pink he he :bee:

muls

22-06-2010, 18:21

Thinking of you Becky and wondering he he :fingerscrossed:

beckythommo

22-06-2010, 18:45

This is the first chance i have had to get on -
Its' a GIRL!!!!!
I think I had managed to talk myself out of the idea (just in case!) so it was a fantastic surprise. And while I am very excited, I have to admit I am mainly just relieved that I know now and can go on and enjoy the remainder of my pregnancy without the 'not knowing' hanging over me.
Yay Yay Yay!!!
I am suddenly finding myself wondering what on earth I will do with a little girl??????
:yelclap:

muls

23-06-2010, 16:40

YAY YAY YAY YAY YAY YAY
Congrats!!! send pink dust my way.........

beckythommo

23-06-2010, 19:24

Thanks so much! Best of luck with your scan. LOTS of Pink Dust to you and your family!

muls

23-06-2010, 19:36

YAY I'm coughing with PINK DUST LOL!
Now to book an early scan as I can't wait. Will book a scan for inbetween the 15-18th of July when I'll be 16wks. Now just to get a price mmmm.....

Good luck with it all, I'll post on here either my disappointment or cheers of joy LOL!

Nuckysmum

23-06-2010, 22:04

Congrats Beckythommo! Did you sway at all this time?

jennababe

24-06-2010, 08:52

muls- when is your scan?:flowerz:

muls

24-06-2010, 16:38

I've just gotta double check with hubby about when he can come but I'm thinking the 17th of July as that's my late sister's b'day and that might be a lucky day....

jennababe

24-06-2010, 17:45

I've just gotta double check with hubby about when he can come but I'm thinking the 17th of July as that's my late sister's b'day and that might be a lucky day....

not to long to go then, and yes that might make a sad day a little bit nicer:angel:

beckythommo

29-06-2010, 20:59

Hey Nuckysmum, haven't been on for a while and not quite sure what you mean by sway, but if you meant did we do anything 3rd time round to try for a girl, then yes. We did the whole sex selection thing that a girlfriend had done with success and was backed up by info from a fertility centre on the Gold Coast that another friend works at. We did some of the less adventurous things, and happy to give details if anyone is actually interested!!! It worked for us though, and it was all put in perspective when my obstetrician congratulated me today and said that we had managed to beat the odds - apparently 80% chance that you will have the same sex if you have already had 2 of the same previously. Don't mean to freak anyone out!

Muls - GOOD LUCK with your scan!!! Not much longer to wait. I was a mess the morning of mine, a ball of nerves and when spoke to my Mum (who had 4 girls, no boys) couldn't help but burst into tears. I am sure you will feel the same once you find out, more relieved to know rather than actually excited or disappointed either way.

Nuckysmum

30-06-2010, 16:32

beckythommo that's exactly what I meant. :)
I'd love to know what you did if you could send me the details. I have two boys aswell and would love a little girl.
Thanks

beckythommo

30-06-2010, 18:29

Like I said we did some of the less adventurous things, but mainly we tried to time the day of conception to a couple of days before I ovulated. This is because apparently the 'girl' sperm are slow moving, large and hardy and survive longer in the female body. So in effect, you have sex early so that the less hardy, fast moving male sperm have all died before the egg is release and the slow moving, hardy female sperm are still around. We probably wouldn't have mucked around with the conception except that we knew we were very fertile and I could pin point easily when I was ovulating. Female sperm apparently also can survive an acidic environment in the body whereas male sperm can't so some methods say you should douche with vinegar and water prior to sex (we definately didn't go this far!) but I did take Magnesium and Caltrate supplements for a few months before we started trying and I naturally eat a lot of yohgurt which can encourage an acidic bodily enviroment.
Sounds a bit full on, I know!! I reckon the timing of conception seems the most realistic so thats what we did and who knows, maybe it made a difference or maybe it was just the luck of the draw! Either way, I am very excited by the result!
Funny point - this time round had very little morning sickness compared to my two boys. I have heard a theory saying that girls cause less M/S because the XX chromosome is not foreign to the female body like the XY is. Weird?????
GOOD LUCK.

deux bleus

01-07-2010, 10:43

I just booked in my early scan (16wks) and will be having that done on the 10/07!
CANT WAIT to find out what my second little bub is :yelclap:.

Did you decide to do an early scan or are you going to wait until 19wks?

Ill have to let you know how I go. Im thinking its pink again now, I keep changing!

Im getting lots of pink vibes from you too Muls, so who knows :fingerscrossed:

muls

01-07-2010, 11:14

hey Jenka!!

Yep booked a scan for the 17th of July so only 16 more sleeps LOL! I'm so eager to find out. I have a feeling pink but don't wanna jinx myself which I probably have for saying that ....
Anyway we'll just wait and see. I'm taking note on the pink vibes you saw and hoping and praying and wishing and dreaming that maybe pink might come my way...
Thinking of you too and can't can't to hear what your having!!

Oh and DH said even if we have a girl he may be swayed to have another just in case we could sway and give the little girl a sister... so I might have 4 babies either way LOL!

GraceUnhearing

01-07-2010, 14:06

sending you a heap of pink vibes!
i have another scan next week and im double checking she hasnt grown a penis since 20 weeks!
haha

muls

01-07-2010, 14:17

Oh YAY! more pink vibes :smiliedance:
Hope your scan is amazing and so happy you get to see your little girl again!!!!

Sharai

01-07-2010, 14:20

Sending you lots of pink vibes. I have my 3D gender scan next thurs.

muls

01-07-2010, 15:10

Sharai - GOOD LUCK!!!! sending you pink vibes :goodvibes:
Next Thursday you lucky thing not long now!!!

muls

01-07-2010, 15:49

Just did the ring test for fun and it went boy boy girl - maybe it was mind over matter LOL!

muls

04-07-2010, 12:22

Well I have 13 more sleeps and I am in limbo... I wanna feel like it doesn't matter but I'm not sure how much it will matter. I saw a boys name that I really like so that was nice (Zander) but then I keep looking at girls things and even have a lucky pink jacket hanging up now. I just want to know for sure so I can get my head around it. I thought I was doing fine when I saw the boys name but it just jumped out at me in a magazine and then I thought it that a sign, then a lady put a link for a chinese gender chart and the other one's say girl and this one says boy and that got me a bit moody again - ahhh the joys. Just wish I knew for sure I know it's not long but it seems like an eternity and then if they can't tell me I think I'll lose it....
Thanks for letting me vent :goodvibes:

jennababe

04-07-2010, 12:27

muls

04-07-2010, 12:42

jennababe

04-07-2010, 15:14

Hey Jennababe!!

Thanks for thinking pink I really do hope so and then if we do decide to have another there will be no pressure!!

We do have girls names...
Isabelle, Ella, Zali, Charlee, Imogen & Asha!!
We're finding it hard to limit the list until we know if we have too!! Fingers crossed!

Hunter is a great name, it's cute for both a boy and a man!!

:goodvibes: :baby: :goodvibes:

ooooooo i love those girl names. so gorgeous.. Especially Asha!! and none of them are to out there, or to common.:flowerz:

muls

04-07-2010, 15:54

Thanks I love those names and hope I get to use them asap!!!!

Hurry up 13 sleeps LOL!

MissWinter

05-07-2010, 10:25

Hey Jennababe!!

Thanks for thinking pink I really do hope so and then if we do decide to have another there will be no pressure!!

We do have girls names...
Isabelle, Ella, Zali, Charlee, Imogen & Asha!!
We're finding it hard to limit the list until we know if we have too!! Fingers crossed!

Hunter is a great name, it's cute for both a boy and a man!!

:goodvibes: :baby: :goodvibes:

Hehe hi :)

I know it doesn't really mean anything, but I had a dream that I had bubs last night, and instead of the name we have picked (Autumn) we called her Isabelle....

Maybe it's a sign that your bub is a girl and you'll call her Isabelle :) Hehe.

At least we can think so, right?

krisne

05-07-2010, 16:32

Hi Gals - I had my scan my 3rd BOY!!!

Totally had a break down - I feel bad as I really wanted to yell at DH this is all your fault! I restrained my self though.
I said in a loud voice when I saw his penis - "God I am so sick of seeing penis in my house"

I feel so guilty as he is wonderful and was so cute and he is healthy and yet all I can think of is BOY BOY BOY!

..........

Muls - My Biggest is Alexander and we call him Xander - he refuses to be call anything else.

I will be thinking girl had for you in the next 12 days.

I am also wishing girl for you. One of us has to get a PINK one. xx

muls

05-07-2010, 19:45

Thanks Krisne & Sarahkristine!!! I love the support from here I feel more at ease already!

Sarahkristine - I'm loving your idea about Isabelle, I'm taking it and running with it LOL!

Krisne - Not sorry that you are having a boy but :hugs: as I'm sure it wasn't the nicest experience when you have your heart set on a girl. Funny what you said though LOL!
I am the same though really don't need any more penises in my house. :hugs: again I just don't know what to say as some people just don't get it but hey I know where your coming from and feel your sadness at not getting your princess!!

I'm thinking girl but don't know whether I'm talking myself into it. I worry that if I think girl I'll jinx myself arhhhh not long I suppose but I hate waiting!!

MissWinter

06-07-2010, 11:24

How long until your scan Muls?

Hopefully your bubba doesn't keep you in limbo for any longer than necessary!

With me and DP, it was opposite, I didn't mind what sex bub is, but DP did. He got a bit of gender disappointment when we found out she is infact a she. I almost felt guilty that she wasn't the little boy he wanted!

Needless to say, he's so excited now and can't wait to meet his little girl. Although I have the feeling when she grows up she's gonna be his little tomboy (he rides motorbikes, so we're gonna get her into it as well :)) Although she'll definately still be a mummy's girl (I hope!!!).

Can't wait to hear your results! I'm sending lots of girly vibes your way!!!

GraceUnhearing

06-07-2010, 17:37

had our scan today and shes still a girl
100% as girl

so sending you all the left over pink vibes i have!!
goodluck at your scan!

GraceUnhearing

06-07-2010, 17:41

I feel so guilty as he is wonderful and was so cute and he is healthy and yet all I can think of is BOY BOY BOY!

hugs to you sweet
its not that you resent the boy you are carrying at all
its just grieving the loss of the little girl you want

muls

06-07-2010, 19:54

YAY and CONGRATS AGAIN!!!!

I'm loving the pink vibes :goodvibes:

muls

08-07-2010, 07:45

jennababe

08-07-2010, 13:30

well we're into single digits.....9 more sleeps!!!
Can't wait! We're taking DS1 into the 4d scan as he's really into the baby and has been looking at the pics of what baby looks like each week so that will be nice and might help me cope better if I find out we're having another boy!! Fingers crossed DS1 and all of us get the little girl we're hoping for! Hope my sister sends some luck for me xx

i cant wait to hear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! pink pink pink

and i am just so friggin clucky. been talking to DF and i wanna start trying soooooon:D i had that depo needle and the 12 weeks of that is up on the 20th of August, but ive heared that it can play around with your cycles a bit, which it has. they have completely stopped. so just have to wait and let my body get back to normal after the 20th and then let nature take its course!!

im just not sure if its worth reading up about shettles method or gender swaying tips cos i really do think its luck of the draw.

muls

08-07-2010, 14:07

I would read up it doesn't hurt to try and sway the odds!!! If we go again I will be for sure!!

I had a nap on the lounge this morning and dreamt of a baby girl that was just as beautiful as my boys so fingers crossed it's a sign!!

I can't wait to scream pink, pink, pink LOL!

Oh and I had that needle after my first and only took 2mths of trying to get DS2!!!! :smiliedance:

I'm hoping you get your pink too!!!!!

smog

08-07-2010, 14:15

good luck muls i hope you get your pink one:goodvibes:

im desperately hoping for a pink one too but ive got ages to wait till finding out:hair:. did u see anything at the 12 weeks scan at all? have u tried intelligender or anything similar?

muls

08-07-2010, 14:45

supermumof3 - I tried to get an inbetween the leg shot and nub shot at 12 wks but no such luck. I haven't tried intelligender as it's too expensive I'd rather pay for the scan and know it's more acurate.

Hope you get your pink too!!

I just heard of a test called the red cabbage test and you cut up and boil red cabbage for 10 mins and then add 1 part or the cabbage water to 1 part of your urine and if it turns pink then boy if it turns purple then girl so might give that one a try for fun hehe!!

jennababe

08-07-2010, 19:21

lmao off that definately sounds like an old wives tale!!:p

beckythommo

09-07-2010, 07:12

Jennababe - Go the gender swaying!!! I wasn't convinced until i found out no. 3 was a girl (after 2 boys) and my Obgyn congratulated me on beating the 80/20 odds of having another boy!! It was different hearing it from the horse's mouth! Also have heard lots of similar success stories now that i have started talking about it. If its not difficult for you to conceive, and if you don't mind it possibly taking a bit longer, then what do you have to lose?
Muls - have been thinking heaps of you - GOOD LUCK for your scan. I have a good (PINK!) feeling for you, just like i did for myself.

Mrs Molly Coddle

09-07-2010, 07:52

Muls you can use red cabbage water as a ph tester/universal indicator so it'd probably work the same as the intelligender though maybe a little less accurate. :) Wont hurt if it's for fun! Just take the results with a grain of salt (though not literally .. Ew)

deux bleus

12-07-2010, 08:55

Refresh

12-07-2010, 12:47

So I had my 16wk gender scan on saturday and I was right..

Its a boy, number 2!!

Although I did kind of want to have another boy for a few reasons, I now feel kind of disappointed and let down.
I hate this feeling. I cant stop crying about it and now when I see girls or pink things, I just cry.
I feel so guilty to this little bub bc its not his fault, but I cant shake this feeling of loss :(

Will this go away? Im not even looking forward to this birth now, Ive lost my excitement and my attachment.
Another thing is, DH and i arent telling anyone what gender this time bc I cant stand to hear people's pity and comments: "Dont worry, you'll have a girl next!"

SAD :crying:

I felt a bit like that after our third DS - but it only lasted a couple of days. I had to realise that I wasn't upset at having him, just sad at not having a sister for DD. Once we chose the name and got him a few things, I was really excited! He is the most gorgeous little man and I would never change him.

I am feeling VERY nervous about our scan tomorrow for bubby number 5. I am pretty convinved I am having a girl but very scared at how I will feel if it is another boy. I am HAPPY to have another boy, it is just that I want a sister for DD so badly. I am also wishing I didn't feel this way Muls :hugs:

smog

12-07-2010, 12:53

Refresh

12-07-2010, 13:00

good luck tomorrow refresh. ive only not long worked out who u are;)
think im a bit the same, i want a sister for my dd and i want a dd for my dh as my dd is not his. we have two boys together and a little girl would just make everything lovely and complete:cloud9:
im secretly hoping i get two for the price of one and get one of each this time:laughing:

Hehe, yep, I am in disguise ;)

Thanks and good luck to you too! Funny you mention twins - 2 people I know SWEAR that I am having boy/girl twins!! My belly is only small though so I am SURE that I am not!!

beckythommo

13-07-2010, 08:14

From 1 mum with 2 boys to another that soon will have 2 beautiful boys - it is such a wonderful thing to see my 2 boys interacting together. They really are best buddies, they look out for each other, enjoy the same things (namely cars!!), share clothes and play constantly taking a lot of pressure off me! I had a moment of disappointment when no 2 turned out a boy (we hadn't found out) but i wouldn't trade my boys for the world. I am sure you have so much joy to look forward to that you will look back at this time and have a bit of a laugh at how you are feeling right now.

deux bleus

13-07-2010, 08:35

thank you beccythommo :hugs:

Im sure I will.. well I hope so! The funny thing is, I obv wouldnt have minded having a pink bundle this time, but I was kind of looking forward to another boy to complete DS1 and for all the reasons you mentioned.
When I found out it was another blue one, it just kind of made me feel like I lost the little girl that Ive never had and made me realise that I may never get a mini me. It just makes me sad when I see little girls and pink things, but other than that, I am excited to meet my new little guy!!

muls

15-07-2010, 09:50

Oh I missed out on a few things...haven't been on here for a while

Jenka - :hugs: for the loss of the daughter you wanted and CONGRATS!!!! on your new little man. I wanted another boy when I had DS2 so I was pretty stoked and the relationship they have (most of the time LOL) is amazing!! Oh and DS2 is an angel baby lets hope baby #3 is just as placid hehe

Refresh - congrats on your little princess!!!

Well 2 more sleeps for me, It's hard to miagine exactly how I'm going to feel until they say the words boy or girl.... I'm going to cry out of happiness either way I always do at my U/S's just to see the HB! Wishing for a girl but we'll wait and see I just wish DS1 would stop calling the baby a girl baby as he might be disappointed too who knows.....
My appointment is at 10.15 in Canberra and we live 2hrs away from Canberra so I won't have to wait long once I wake up on Sat.
DS2 is staying with nanny and poppy while we go so we can take DS1 to toy story 3 so fingers crossed our day ends up amazing not just ok.....

MissWinter

15-07-2010, 13:33

Good luck Muls, I've been stalking this thread to find out what you're having too!

***PINK VIBES***

muls

15-07-2010, 14:10

Stalk away LOL! I can't wait to share the news either way.

I'm grabbing your pink vibes though!!!

Haven't told my DH's family were going to have the scan so fingers crossed we have some news that a bit different for a change!!

Oh and all that shopping I could do..... Hurry up Sat!!!!

DoneAndDusted

15-07-2010, 16:03

I am another stalker of this thread Muls :o... I actually thought I had replied to you somewhere along the journey but may have been distracted and not hit 'reply'.

We have two little boys and were surprised with a third pregnancy (not planned obviously) and were very excited to find out we were expecting a little girl!

Funnily enough though I was also a little sad not to be having another little boy (however thankful and complete to be having a little girl) as my boys like yours have a beautiful (most times) relationship and are such good 'mates' and another little one of them would be amazing too... iykwim??'

DS1 was also calling our baby a girl... and was very adament about it, and would get very upset and infact angry if we were to say it might be a little boy... maybe intuitively somehow they know, i don't know.

So all my PINK VIBES are now coming your way also!!
Thinking of you and GL!

muls

15-07-2010, 17:35

Yay more pink vibes!!

I think you replied on another thread, well I seem to remember your name etc unless your telepathic LOL!

Can't wait now and you guys really have helped get me excited and enjoy this waiting time!!!

beckythommo

16-07-2010, 08:46

I was a nervous wreck before my scan so I know how you are feeling - enjoy the ride, no matter the outcome

ALL MY PINK THOUGHTS ARE GOING YOUR WAY!

Can't wait to hear the news....

The Fox

16-07-2010, 08:56

sending you some Pink Vibes

muls

16-07-2010, 09:57

More pink vibes yeh!!!!!!

It's pink it is, we know it is right? LOL!
Yep pink all the way hurry up tomorrow......

Bit emotional now as have to drop DS2 at nanny's for the weekend so we can travel to Canberra and because we won't be home till late tomorrow and have to get up too early tomorrow he'll stay there tonight too. Mum and dad live an hour away so too hard to drop him off in the morning....2 nights away from my baby arhhhh I miss already and he's on my lap :(

Refresh

16-07-2010, 09:59

Good luck tomorrow!!

DoneAndDusted

16-07-2010, 10:18

Awwww :hugs:

All my best wishes for tomorrow, I will be thinking of you :goodvibes:

Can't wait to hear the update!

jennababe

16-07-2010, 12:56

Goodluck tommorow, so excited for you!!!! what time can you let us know??

PS:

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PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK
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PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK PINK

:p ;)

Refresh

16-07-2010, 13:16

Hahaha. :)

smog

16-07-2010, 15:20

good luck! what times your scan tomorrow so i know when to start stalking from:p:laughing:

muls

16-07-2010, 20:49

Oh gosh I feel blessed!!!!

Thanks for all the pink wishes guys and I'm getting nervous excited now...

Ha Jenna babe your hilarious!!

I have just set up the bubhub page on my phone so will let you guys know about 11.00ish when I know k!!

YAY YAY YAY YAY YAY YAY YAY

:goodvibes::smiliedance::goodvibes::smiliedance::g oodvibes::smiliedance::goodvibes:

deux bleus

16-07-2010, 21:05

Good luck for tomorrow!

Hopefully you get your pink bundle, and if not, another beautiful blue to add to the clan :yelclap:

Ill be stalking this page till you reply tomorrow!!!

muls

17-07-2010, 10:50

Good luck for tomorrow!

Hopefully you get your pink bundle, and if not, another beautiful blue to add to the clan :yelclap:

Ill be stalking this page till you reply tomorrow!!!
More blue but honestly so excited once i saw bub in 4d! Now 2 work on a name n plan #4! Thought id feel different but couldnt b happier! X

jennababe

17-07-2010, 12:08

Oh hunni congrats on your blue bundle ;-) xx

Nuckysmum

17-07-2010, 14:03

I have been stalking this thread for a while now, and was excited to see your news. :) Congratulations on your blue bundle, I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well for you.
:)

smog

17-07-2010, 14:10

oh congratulations:yelclap: u sound so happy and excited:goodvibes:

MyFourCubs

17-07-2010, 16:59

Congrats Miss MUlS on the BLUE BUNDLE!!!!!!! I am relieved that you sound so happy. It must have been lovely seeing bub today :yelclap:

1+1=5

17-07-2010, 17:06

congrats on your blue! i have been stalking this thread for a while too :o

MissWinter

17-07-2010, 19:54

Huge congrats on a beautiful, healthy, blue little bundle!! :) Sooo glad you feel better than you thought you would! xx

beckythommo

17-07-2010, 19:58

Congrats Muls! What a wonderful, crazy, boisterous family you are going to have. You're 3 boys are going to grow up with their best mates. So glad you are excited and happy.

deux bleus

18-07-2010, 07:34

Congratulations on your new addition! (Sorry for not getting the pink, but you def seem excited and now we can plan our #3 and #4 to be pinks :laughing:)

Your boys will be the best of mates and that will be awesome.

So what names are you thinking. DH and I are kinda stuck again this time. :confused:

muls

18-07-2010, 08:52

Thanks again everyone!!

4D makes you see your bub so differently, it really wouldn't matter what they are when you see them so real and precious.
Was slighly disappointed to not be able to buy pink but found a jumpsuit that said little brother and one that said my dad says boys rule LOL! At least I get to have another baby and best be more careful this time and try and plan rather than already be pregnant LOL!

Jenka - mmm names we like Nate, Zander, Jett and I'm stuck...... arhhhhhhh
Help anyone?

:smiliedance::goodvibes::smiliedance:

Darlene888

19-07-2010, 12:43

DoneAndDusted

19-07-2010, 20:45

Thanks again everyone!!

4D makes you see your bub so differently, it really wouldn't matter what they are when you see them so real and precious.
Was slighly disappointed to not be able to buy pink but found a jumpsuit that said little brother and one that said my dad says boys rule LOL! At least I get to have another baby and best be more careful this time and try and plan rather than already be pregnant LOL!

Awww, I've just caught up on the news! Congrats on your new little blue bundle hun! How lovely to have a beautiful 4d scan, the outfits sound so cute!

oleander

19-07-2010, 21:22

Congratulations Muls!

I also had a 4D gender scan just because and I agree it helps to bond with the baby so much once you find out the gender and can see it moving around in there! :D

GraceUnhearing

20-07-2010, 15:08

congrats on the blue bundle!
i bet he looked just beautiful!

muls

20-07-2010, 18:38

Well we're thinking of names and planning #4 already LOL!

I really wish someone could give me some info on swaying so I could increase my odds as #4 will definetely be the last.
I think reading up this far in advance should make me an expert LOL!

We're thinking Zander, Nate, Jett or Jesse.....

I feel bub all the time now, he's loving the attention he got on the weekend from our scan I think!!!

uptheduff

20-07-2010, 23:36

Congratulations on another boy Muls. As i said in another thread, i dont usually come around this forum, but i thought about you today for some reason, and had to come on and see what you are having.

I obviously don't know what i'm having yet, but a psychic told me at the weekend it's another boy, and i've pretty much convinced i'll be having another blue one! God only knows what we're going to call it!

muls

21-07-2010, 16:16

uptheduff - thinking of you and hoping pink!!!
The names thing is hard and I'm only up to 3 LOL! Don't worry I got heaps of gender predcitors to tell me mine and they said girl 4 out of 5 so it's probably pink for you!!!!
Did you do anything to try and get a girl or are you just going with luck?

uptheduff

21-07-2010, 20:19

All the chinese gender predictors seem to say girl for me (but they haven't been the most reliable for me so far....one has given me 4/5 correct so far i think, so not bad i guess lol). I do the ring test and it always says boy, then girl :eek: Hope that's not the case LOL. BUt i really do feel like this one is blue now. Not a strong feeling, but it's there. We'll see.

We tried the o+12 method to concieve this baby, i altered my diet, used different positions, no big O for me, and we used sylk lubricant....so overall i think we had a reasonable attempt at swaying, and i have added hope because we have obviously concieved a girl before (without swaying).

muls

21-07-2010, 20:37

Everything crossed for your little girl uptheduff and I will have to start looking seriously into swaying and see what people suggest works.

My DH has seriously starting looking at new cars and nearly finished the shed that has taken months to get up so we can work out whether we extend or sell etc. I'm enjoying this pregnancy and looking forward to the next pregnancy!!

beckythommo

22-07-2010, 07:19

Hi Muls,
I'm happy to send on the info I found while researching the whole gender selection thingy. I researched on the internet and used some info that is handed out (but not necessarily endorsed) by a fertility centre here on the Gold Coast. Didn't know whether I should post it here or not????
And who knows, it worked for us......

muls

22-07-2010, 10:36

Beckythommo - I would love that info you can either private message me the info or I could private message you my email address????

beckythommo

23-07-2010, 17:27

Hey Muls,
Private Msg me you email because one of the files is a .pfd that i can attach for you and you can check out the website it's from. I would always take any info like this with a grain of salt and nothing is ever 100%. I'm sure you will, but when going for no.4 have the attitude of wanting a child, not a gender (just in case!)

muls

23-07-2010, 17:44

Yep just reading as much as I can over the next 12mths for fun and we'll just see what we get for #4 but i'll be fun trying to get a pink one anyway!
Thanks I'll send email now!

Darrietta

27-07-2010, 11:48

Hi Muls - I was so relieved to see your post because I'm in the same situation as you right now! Baby 3 is due Dec 29 and I'm finding out boy or girl in two days.

I have two adorable little boys, and always thought that when we tried for number 3 we could try the whole diet theory, etc. Alas, Baby 3 was a suprise and I'm slightly disappointed we didnt get the opportunity to try for a girl.

I know that we're probably going to have another boy and I also know that I'll feel disappointed that it's not a girl. I also know that when I'm holding a little baby boy in my arms, that I'll love his precious little baby self, regardless, with his little soft baby fingers and toes and little sleepy eyes and little wrinkly arms and legs. So I'm preparing myself that I will feel some disappointment that I won't be having the little girl I desperately want, but I take comfort in knowing that I'll love my little boy as much as anything else :)

I'm glad I read your post, it's made me feel so much better knowing I'm not the only one feeling this way :)

muls

28-07-2010, 18:24

Darrietta - I hope you get your girl!!
It is disappointing knowing that I won't yet get the girl I long for but seeing bub in 4d really did help. The closeness you feel when seeing the 4d was unlike any other ultrasound I've ever had. I still desperately want my girl and still having wishful thinking that they were wrong but what ever happens this bub is one lucky surprise!!
When are you going to find out or are you going to wait? If you are going to wait you are way more patient than me LOL!

Darrietta

29-07-2010, 08:15

I know I'll be feeling like that too!! This bub will definitely be our last, and although we weren't even planning a third, I always thought if we did we could try for a girl. I've got a lot of people saying to me that they hope it's a girl too, including my husband so now I'm feeling a bit bad that if it's a boy I'm letting everyone down!!! How silly is that?!

Today is the day!! I totally can't wait for things like these. (If they can't tell me today, I'll be booking in for another appointment). I'm finding out at 10:30 this morning. I'm SO nervous because my friend had her ultrasound and her's was a girl. The thing was, the sonographer zoomed in between the baby's legs at the beginning and I recognised the lack of the round boy bits immediately, so I hope that they don't do that first up for me or I'll spend the whole time hoping that I got it wrong!!! Such little worries in the scheme of things, really, but they're persistent!

What was the 4D like? Could you actually see your baby completely? Isn't that amazing? I just love knowing what I'm having. It's lovely to know your baby's name, and to have a coloured room set up, with new baby clothes in the right colour. I think you feel like you know your baby before it's born then too. We held out with our first, because we wanted it to be a surprise, but with the second I really felt I could connect quicker because I knew what to expect :)

I'll stop babbling now! I'm nervous about this scan and so excited and my head is swimming with the possibilities! I'll let you know what it turns out to be :)

muls

29-07-2010, 08:56

Ohhh how exciting and scary all at once. Good luck - thinking pink for you!!!!

Are you having 4d, soooo amazing, the bub was there touching the placenta and rolling and sucking the hands - loved it!!

You will be fine with whateva you get as you know it'll just take some time to process never having a girl. Remeber we will get grandaughters!! Anyway it might not even be the case for you so YAY!!!!

I just got told yesterday that my chances are high of bleeding again after delivery so that I need to remember that if it gets severe I may have a hysterectomy so I'm scary about going into labour now and secretly hoping that my 20wk U/S shows me that bub is really a girl so I'm not going to miss out completely.

Anyway good luck!!!!:goodvibes:

muls

29-07-2010, 11:12

Ohhh so excited for you Darrietta!!!
Do you know yet.....I wanna know LOL!

Darrietta

29-07-2010, 20:57

Oh my goodness. Somehow we've pulled a rabbit out of the hat and it's a girl! I can't believe it! They did say they were 80-90% sure, so if it comes out a boy, it'll just have to wear girls clothes. :D

So happy! Thanks for the pink vibes! I hope everything goes well with your pregnancy and that the delivery goes fine. It's a bit scary the finality of the "last" baby. The sonographer told me that sometimes if the umbilical cord is between the legs, they can get the gender mixed up, so I"m assuming that's why there's a 10% chance that it's incorrect. Wouldn't that be a shock?

Are you getting a 20 week scan? Will it be 4D? I didnt do 4D. I didn't realise how amazing it must be. I'd love to see one, though. Did you get a dvd of it?

muls

29-07-2010, 22:00

CONGRATS!!!! YAY SOME PINK!!!

Yep 20wks scan will hopefully be Friday the 13th LOL! and then we will know for sure pretty much. Well it's more than likely a boy anyway but there's always a chance!

I didn't get a dvd just a A4 page of photo's that are in a frame so can't upload. It's worth it though, they're beautiful!!

Congrats again!!

Darrietta

30-07-2010, 08:16

Oh wow. I feel like I should be doing more to treasure this pregnancy, being the DEFINITE last. It has been a bit of a breeze really. Maybe I should organise a 4D scan. Are they really expensive?

And you never know with next scan! Stranger things have happened, right? And we both know how adorable boys are, so if it's still a boy, you'll know you're getting something special! :)

muls

30-07-2010, 09:08

I got a 4d scan it says for 15mins but they did the scan for 1/2 hour and it was $150 and you can purchase the cd for $35 but you get an A4 page of shots for free and can purchase more pages of shots for about $15 a page I think. You should definetely get one it'll amaze you!!

I'm thinking I will have to try for #4 but I'm still clinging to that small hope that they were wrong - as if but still we don't know till a few weeks god I wish they were wrong :no:. Yep I'll love another little man they are amazing but with the bleeding issue it would be a whole lot easier to know that I was getting a girl so I wouldn't have to risk it again.

Anyway congrats congrats congrats!!!

Darrietta

30-07-2010, 10:47

Oh, I know how you feel! I know if mine turned out to be a boy I would still be wishing they'd gotten it wrong and there was a SLIGHT chance it might be a girl. I DO know that once you're holding your little baby in your arms, it won't matter at all. It's just the expectations and the hopes during pregnancy that make it difficult.

I really hope that your labour goes smoothly so that you'll be able to try for a girl next time. I take my hat off to you for having the courage to go for a 4th! I'd love 4 children, but I know myself and I don't think I'd survive 4 kids without a live-in nanny!!!!

Is your due date the 30th? It's funny, mine's the 29th! At first they gave me a due date of 1.1.11 and I was paranoid the midwives would be hungover if it decided that New Years Day was the perfect day to arrive.

muls

30-07-2010, 11:24

Do you work? If you do 1.1.11 would mean paid mat leave LOL!

Yeh I will always love this bub regardless and I still do but that feeling of knowing you will never have something would kill me, so if it's a boy then so be it and I'll keep everything crossed for a safe and non bleeding labour!!

Yep due date the 30th - first guess was Christmas day and no way, that's so unfair for the child so fingers crossed I make it or go over to the 1st of 2011!!!

muls

30-07-2010, 16:19

Well U/S is booked for FRIDAY THE 13TH!!! so YAY!!!
DH said 'you really think that's a good day' LOL!
I said well it's meant to be bad luck so maybe they'll say the sex is something other than what we thought and it would actually turn into good luck he he...

Anyway not long till I know for sure

Darrietta

31-07-2010, 08:09

I don't work!! I completely miss out on paid maternity leave! In saying that, it's not that I wouldn't go back to work if I could, but I'm studying and my husband says if we're going to get childcare he'd rather I do an accelerated version of my course. I'll have to settle for baby bonus. Someone told us, just after we fell pregnant, that the baby bonus was finishing which threw us into a MASSIVE panic, but luckily that's not true! Aren't people lovely just mentioning bad things at inappropriate times?

That's good we're due around the same time! We can keep track of everything then! And Friday the 13th - I don't think you could pick a better date to get informed that they made a mistake! I've got my fingers crossed for you :)

muls

31-07-2010, 08:37

I'm studying too but just my diploma in childrens services. I'm working but only 3 days and then will drop to 2 and return to 2 after bub's a bit bigger. I'm lucky though as my mum looks after the kids while I work even though I work in a childcare centre LOL!
I will either get baby bonus or paid mat leave so they're both good!!

I'm taking your good luck and putting it in my pocket for the 13th. Don't tell Friday the 13th though he thinks he's going to screw me over but it'll be a nice surprise LOL! Still wishful thinking at least for another 2wks hehe

Yep definetely keep track. Hey do you feel bigger this time, my bump is huge already!!

muls

31-07-2010, 13:00

13sleeps till the 13th he he

Darrietta

31-07-2010, 20:49

Isn't it nice just having another ultrasound! It's like having another catchup with baby :)

Do you find that when you're working you've got that little bit extra energy and enthusiasm for your kids when you get home? I always did when I worked, so I kind of miss it!! I think in some way it kept me a little bit more sane. Are you enjoying study as well? Will you take some time off for #3? I'm studying primary teaching, but only part time and by correspondance till the kids are a bit older. I am loving it, but I'm not loving dividing my time. Sometimes I feel like I'm not getting either right.

This pregnancy is different to the last lot. I put it down to my body being used to being up the duff, though, but now I'm wondering if there is some truth to boy vs. girl pregnancies. I hardly had any morning sickness, maybe once or twice a week and only felt vaguely nauseous. Then I had MASSIVE cravings that I would overdose on, then couldn't stand the sight of. With the boys I ate EVERYTHING in sight. I've gone off chocolate. Weird. And I really don't feel very big this time. I was pretty small with the first two (I did put on 20kgs though) but this time I feel smaller but a lot softer and podgy. And the weight gain isn't happening as fast as last two times. Have your pregnancies been similar or different?

muls

01-08-2010, 08:36

Yep U/S's keep you cheering for the next fews days!! Love them

Yeh work sux sometimes but other times it definetely keeps me sane. I want to study teaching later but will do my diploma to take some extra load off for when I start. I also think about doing photography, something I can do to fit into school hours later!!

My pregnancies were so different with both the boys that I couldn't tell a difference this time LOL! My DS1 was a 8lb baby and I gained 11kgs and was huge out front. DS2 was only 6lb and I only looked round our front not huge. My labours are short though so that's a bonus LOL! 1st was 10hrs 2nd 5hrs so down to 2.5hrs hopefully hehe

I wish I didn't have this last bit of hope that they were wrong so I just knew for sure as I had another dream last night about them telling me it was a girl and mum was there and was so happy. I don't want to ask her to come though because it will be more than likely it'll be another boy - silly thoughts go away!!

Darrietta

03-08-2010, 08:54

Oh, I wish I could offer some words of comfort, but I know I'd be doing the exact same thing. The only thing that made me feel better was knowing I wouldn't care at all once my little baby arrived.

A 2.5 hr labour sounds heavenly!!! My friend had a 1/2 hour labour for her second and I was COMPLETELY jealous! Mine were both aroundthe 3 hour mark, although that was of full labour. The first one started up two days before I had my first, so i'm not sure that I can call that a 3 hour labour. My second was induced (my obstetrician had to fit it into his hectic schedule, so it wasn't so much needed by myself or my baby. It was a bit sneaky in my opinion.) and that was full on labour for 3 hours where the contraction started at 60 seconds apart all the way through. That sucked! Next one will be the way I want it. I'm trying a water birth, I think. Have you done one of these before?

muls

08-08-2010, 09:28

Oh no haven't tried a water birth, had to have forceps and an episotomy with DS1, and then nice labour with DS2 just the bleeding after was slightly scary :(.
Are you finding out about your next bub?
I have 5 more sleeps till I find out for sure and although I know it's more than likely a boy that niggly feeling will still be there until they confirm. I feel so bad for wanting them to be wrong as I would be more than happy to have another healthy baby boy but with the talk of an emergency hysterectomy I'm wishing this one was a girl so if we did have that issue after birth I could still experience a daughter and it wouldn't be that heartbreaking.

muls

11-08-2010, 21:04

Well 2 more sleeps till we know for sure.....
Silly to even think but it would be nice to hear that a mistake was made even though I know I won't hear them say that it's nice to think it till Friday.
I had to buy my friends daughter a birthday present today and she wanted clothes, oh over an 1hr spent just browsing before I even picked anything, ahh the joys of a girl. Boys are great too but some pink would be pretty maybe next time.
Anyway will update on Friday at how the little fella is!

uptheduff

12-08-2010, 13:56

Muls, i kept thinking that maybe they were wrong with DS3 & 4......despite having the most perfect, and pronounced willy picture with DS4 LOL. I had to keep looking at the pic every so often to remind myself that he was DEFINITELY a boy.

muls

13-08-2010, 15:39

No mistaking this baby boy LOL! He is healthy and happy and beautiful so very happy!!!
Now to work out his name because it won't be long before he's here. Being due at this time of year will make the time fly - love my little man #3 xx

MummaFug

13-08-2010, 15:43

CONGRATS on the news !!!

ceciliab01

13-08-2010, 16:37

There are a lot of women who have responded to this post who are experiencing or have experienced gender disappointment...

I was wondering if anyone had tried natural gender swaying techniques when you were trying to conceive in an effort to better your chances of having the baby boy or girl you wanted?

If so, I'm curious to learn which techniques you tried that were ineffective for you?

uptheduff

13-08-2010, 16:57

Cecilia - There is another post in here about the 0+12 method, which is used to TTC a girl. We used this method to concieve this baby, but i don't know if we succeeded yet (will find out, hopefully, on the 18th September).

We haven't tried gender swaying before, this was our first attempt. I got a HUGE amount of information from the in-gender (http://www.in-gender.com/cs/forums/) website and forums.

Darrietta

14-08-2010, 08:10

Oh congratulations!!! A beautiful bouncing baby boy to snuggle! (And aren't they just the snuggliest?!) What names are you going with at the moment? We're struggling BIG time.

deux bleus

14-08-2010, 10:54

CONGRATS on the confirmation of your special little guy!! :yelclap:

Did you get any 3d pics of him?

We are stuck on names 2. I like some and DH doesn't and vice versa.

What have you guys come up with so far?

muls

14-08-2010, 13:17

Thanks everyone!!

Celiciab - I have look at the in-gender site as well and it's pretty good. I'll be purchasing a book from this list next time this little man was a surprise pregnancy..
book called - Prince or Princess
book and program - natural gender selection
book - how to pick your baby's gender
book - how to choose the gender of your baby
These books are all availble for purchase off the net so just googles them. They're not expensive really so it's worth a shot.

Jenka + Darrietta - yep names are sooo hard, we like Nate and Cohen but then DH wants all the boys names to have a 'e' sound at the end like Locke and Bayley. I like Jesse of course he hates it arhhhh LOL! He likes Jonte which I do to but don't want it to be shortened to John which it will. So yeh struggling maybe we could help each other I need 'e' at the end sounding names please help....

Other nice boy names I like are..
Zander
Jett
Chaz
Jace
Josh
Jose
Seth
Nash

Darrietta

15-08-2010, 07:27

Ooh! I love your name choices!!! I was having so much trouble but those names are fantastic! (having a Seth myself, I am partial to that one). I wouldn't be much help with the names ending in "ee" sounds. I went a bit 'old world' with my name choices and ended up with a list sounding like characters from Twilight. If I think of any I'll put them up!

deux bleus

28-08-2010, 10:05

How you and your little man going?? Any further w/ the name situation?

CLW

28-08-2010, 14:32

I know how you feel. I have three boys already and I really would like to have a girl :(. I held it all in with my third boy but deep down I was sad. I love my son regardless but there is a sense of loss there. You do get through it though and you sort of forget about it. Well meaning family and friends don't help though with statements like this may be your little girl.

muls

28-08-2010, 16:42

deux bleus

13-09-2010, 17:40

We havent really discussed names all that much, or rather, in great detail but Nate was on the top of my list too.. how funny!!

I like a few names but DH doesnt so not sure.

I like Eli, but dont like its popularity??:rolleyes:

Darrietta

14-09-2010, 07:50

I'm thinking Nate!! It means 'gift from god' and he was a surprise bubby so it fits perfect!! I still like Jesse too though LOL!

I'm already planning #4 hoping for a girl but whateva will be will be...hehe

Nate is beautiful! And so is Jesse!! I say you have to do all the hard work so you should get double the votes for names :).

How are you feeling at this point in pregnancy?

muls

15-09-2010, 19:49

Yeh I'll probably win the name vote in the end anyway but it would be nice to just both agree and fall in love with a name before bub is born, ehhh it'll never happen LOL!

I'm feeling pretty fat actually and I know I shouldn't but I just keep worrying about my weight and wishing I hadn't put on so much so soon as now I'll have to really watch it - ahh the joys!

How about you? How are you feeling? Did you find out what your having or are you?

NibbleCurlynBub

15-09-2010, 19:55

When I was pregnant with DS1, I desperately wanted a girl. I found out that I was having a boy. I was a bit sad about it, but having the extra 6 months of pregnancy to get used to it helped a lot.
Once he was born I still had no idea what to do with a boy, but he wasn't just 'a boy'. He was my BABY, my squishy, loving newborn. He became so much more than just 'a boy' and I wanted him near me ALL of the time. I was constantly topless and snuggling with him, it was perfect.

That baby is now 4.5 years old and is SO INCREDIBLE and so much more than just 'a boy'.

Point being: It is okay to be a little let-down when you find out that the belly fruit you have is not what you were hoping. But don't let it detract from the fact that you are growing a tiny human being and that to that little person, you are the whole world and your love and presence is all that this little baby wants.

You will be okay, but recognise the disappointment for what it is. It won't make your baby love or need you any less.

You have time on your side. :hugs:

Chickenlicken79

01-10-2010, 12:37

:hugs: for you. I can totally relate to how you are feeling. i also bought the prediction off ebay and was extremely upset when she said boy. She was right, we found out last night we are expecting our fourth boy. I'm still adjusting and trying not to show how upset I am to everyone else. :fingerscrossed: you get a girl

muls

02-10-2010, 19:31

Chicken little :hugs:

I am thrilled to be having number 3 and number 3 little man. Names are still hard though!
I still dream of one day having a girl but will treasure this next little man!

1+1=5

02-10-2010, 19:48

Chicken little :hugs:

I am thrilled to be having number 3 and number 3 little man. Names are still hard though!
I still dream of one day having a girl but will treasure this next little man!

:highfive: I had my 3rd little man a month ago and I'm so in love with him, more than I thought i could be after having really bad gender dissapointment. You have so much to look forward to :hugs:. I would still love to have a little girl one day but what we have now is so perfect, I hope you can feel this way too...and I'm sure you will!

muls

10-10-2010, 11:12

Thanks 1+1!!
I am already thinking of all the fun times the 3 boys will have being so close and playing sports etc. Just wish it wasn't so hard to pick names LOL!
I too would love a girl next time but we'll see what happens. I'll give the sway thing a try and what will be will be. Can't believe I'm not quite a mum of 3 and already planning no.4 LOL! I always wanted 4 so I'm pretty excited!

I can't wait to use DS1's summer clothes on the new bub as DS2 didn't get to wear them. All the memories will come flooding back of what it was like to be a mum for the first time, ahh tears are welling up in my eyes I love my kids :-)!!

Darrietta

19-10-2010, 08:30

Hi muls - how are you going? :wave: How many weeks to go now?

muls

28-10-2010, 12:39

Hey!!

I'm ok had some low blood pressure issues but all good apart from that. 9 wks to go now....

I'm happy with bub being another little man but in saying that I still wouldn't be disappointed if they said 'she' when bub decides to arrive LOL!

Darrietta

29-10-2010, 06:54

The time's really flown!! I was talking to my hubby yesterday, (because people keep mentioning to me that ultrasounds get it wrong all the time, and because we're EXPECTING a girl), I was wondering what my reaction would be if our little 'girl' turns out to be a little boy. I think I'll laugh hysterically. And then he'll wear pink for the first year of his life because that's what I've bought :)

I hope you're feeling better. Rest up! I'm due in 9 weeks too, so I'll keep in touch! X

Sammie1986

01-11-2010, 13:04

I am pregnant with #3 and have 2 boys already. I can see how you feel that way but at the end of the day we cant choose what we want unless we are willing to pay big bucks. Its the luck of the draw.
I wouldnt go on believing someone who is going off a few questions you answered though. I did an online gender prediction questionaire, the cabbage test and a few others but that was just for s&g.
My theory with #3 is that this is our last and no matter what it is, we will love it just as much as our first 2. It may be a bit of a dissapointment at first if it does turn out to be another boy but im sure you will get use to the idea :)

muls

19-11-2010, 13:26

Darrietta - how long for you now?
That's so funny the whole 'pink for a year thing'. I'm sure your little girl will be a girl!!

I've got 6wks based on the 30th due date but the 1.1.11 just like you sounds good for paid mat leave!!

I'm still struggling for names and have really given up for the next few weeks until I have the room set up fully etc I have a short list so that's ok.
I bought a new pram and got some news clothes for bub hoping that would inspire a name but still no luck.. have you named your little girl?

Darrietta

20-11-2010, 08:01

I've got around the 6 week mark too. Couldn't go fast enough, I reckon! I'm getting a bit hormonal and emotional lately and my poor family is walking on eggshells a bit. I'll just be glad to have this little baby in my arms, nice and healthy!!

Names are such a struggle for us too!! If she does decided to remain a girl, then we've settled for Isobel, but if she decides she's a boy, we're stuck. It may be one of those situations where it's called 'The Baby' for a week or so. We were kind of tossing up with names like Jacob (definitely not from Twilight!), Jak, Charlie and Robbie, but like you, we're sort of out of inspiration and we haven't spent much time thinking about it. Maybe you'll know what name's best when you meet your little man? Then you can try out a few and see which fits best! What pram did you end up going with? Ours is on it's last legs and it's only 4 years old. What a pain. How are you feeling, pregnancy-wise?

muls

20-11-2010, 15:17

So the countdown is on for us both..
I'm not that emotional all the time but do snap occasionally LOL!
I'm heading to the movies tonight for a well earned relax :yes:

We went with the valco rebel q with the siesta toddler seat as DS2 will be 20mths and still needing sleeps. I couldn't find the perfect pram but this one will suit us ok. It's so hard to get everything you want on one pram and be able to afford it LOL! I looked at the baby jogger city select but it's so heavy and ends up too long with the second seat attached, so we comprimised with an affordable pram that still does what we want and is able to reverse the seat to face mum so YAY!

jennababe

23-11-2010, 00:00

goodluck hun:goodvibes: not long to go now!!!

muls

16-12-2010, 21:15

Oh thanks Jenna!!

Sorry haven't been on this post for a while. 2wks to go and hoping to last till the 1st so I can get paid mat leave and spend longer off with bub.

How are you going?

uptheduff

17-12-2010, 00:34

And because you'll have a 1/1/11 baby :D

BabelFish

17-12-2010, 00:39

Isobel is beautiful. That was an early choice for us if DS was a girl. With that spelling. So simple and classic. Lovely!

muls

21-12-2010, 10:22

Up the duff - yep 1/1/11 would be perfect hehe

jennababe

21-12-2010, 11:28

Oh thanks Jenna!!

Sorry haven't been on this post for a while. 2wks to go and hoping to last till the 1st so I can get paid mat leave and spend longer off with bub.

How are you going?

wow not long to go :D Very exciting. Goodluck! Yeah going well we are ttc number 3 again. But wasnt succesful this month. But hopefully in the next few ;-) cant really gender sway, because my cycles are all over the place. So just going to have to be luck of the draw.

muls

22-12-2010, 20:04

Good luck then Jenna and go to the chemist and get vitex as it will help to regulate your cycle, I went on it when I lost our first baby and it regulated my period in the 2nd cycle - worth a try.

Yep not long so just the waiting and naming game now LOL! Still a mystery what bub's name will be but I'm sure he'll look like something on the list :freakingout:

muls

01-01-2011, 16:59

Well I'm back from welcoming NATE JESSE MULQUINEY into the world and I couldn't love him any more and neither could his brothers!! He was easy to name he just looked like a Nate and it felt so right to use the name that we had originally planned to use for DS1 and then DS2 - he was meant to be!!!

Loving all my little men and my big one hehe!!

Hope everyone had a gr8 Chrissie and NY's!!!

Nuckysmum

01-01-2011, 20:37

Congratulations!!!! Hope everything went well. He has a beautiful name too.

Justinie

01-01-2011, 22:22

:smiliedance:Welcome to the world Nate!:smiliedance:

Congratulations. Hope all went well and you are home enjoying your new little bundle :D

Blairysmum

01-01-2011, 22:35

Congratulations!!
I was just reading through the thread!!
Did you get your 1-1-11 baby??? :laughing:
Congrats again!

uptheduff

02-01-2011, 01:24

Congratulations Muls!!!!

Darrietta

02-01-2011, 10:07

:smiliedance:Woohoo!! Congratulations!!!!! Welcome to the world Nate! How are you going muls? Baby Isobel arrived a week early and gave us all a bit of a Christmas suprise. Did Nate arrive on his due date? Congratulations again!!! X

muls

02-01-2011, 12:07

Thanks everyone!

Nate arrived on boxing day so we made it past Christmas which was perfect. No 1.1.11 baby but we got to enjoy him as the new year ticked over.

Darrietta - how lovely!! and her name is just gorgeous. Nate had 2 due dates and Christmas day was my period date so pretty close!

I nearly thought I'd finished having kids but the more I think about it I already wanna plan to have one but not for another 2.5yrs this time :Cloud9Blue: