Surname?

[Sarak7]

Hey guys...:wave:

I'm having a hard time trying to work out if i should give bub my surname or fathers surname...

Did you/will you give bub your surname or fathers surname?

Why did you choose to do so?

[AquaDevil78]

We decided (not married) that if a girl she will get my surname. If a boy he will get my DP's surname to continue the name. We decided if a girl she may get married in the future and change her name anway, so to us this seem logical.

There was a similar post to this somewhere else.. but another suggestion (depending on what your surnames are) is to use one of them as a middle name if it fits.

:thumbsup:

[LilShenanigans]

I gave DD my last name.

It wasn't the best choice because she'll never figure out how to spell it lol But I couldn't have my own child with a different name, it felt weird even considering it.

[princessbubba]

Hi, I am having a hard time figuring this one out as well. My babies father isn't around anymore and i don't think he ever will be. So because of this I think I will just go with my last name. thats just my reasoning for choosing my last name. I guess when they are older they can decide for themselves what last name they want. Good luck!! I know it's not an easy decision but whatever you do make it your choice and no one else's!

Take care

Jess

[maddysmama]

I gave my DD her fathers surname. We are planning on getting married eventually, so we would have had to change it anyway if she had mine. Having said that I do HATE having a different last name to her, makes me just want to head to the registry office!

[Tarnya]

I have a theory...males carry on a name and females change their name so my girl has my last name my boy has his fathers name. I will not take away the history of my son by not giving his father the opportunity to have his name carried on, but we do most of the hard yards and are entitled to the same I think so since girls change their names (most of the time) I gave her mine.

[ashleerose]

I was married so unfortunately my kids and i now have my exes surname.
Id love to change mine and theirs to my maiden name but unfortunately will not be able to do so unless he agrees (and hell would freeze over before that happens).

Has anyone got any ideas on ways i can go about changing their name to mine.
Or am i simply going to have to wait until they are 18...

[SamanthaJane]

Mine will have my partner's surname.

Even if we weren't together (as a couple) i'd still use his surname. In my opinion, thats just the way it goes...

In my situation its obvious that he'll be a father figure forever (whether or not me and him stay together as a couple)

BUT, if he had just ran off and not wanted anything to do with the baby, she would definitley be getting my last name :yes:

[MeeG]

shes having my last name, it was my descision and him and his family werent to impressed, but i wasnt impressed with his attitude towards me, why make it harder for myself and give it his last name it will have mine, and its jus TS for him, i will be the one caring for her in the majority of the time anyways

[Niki]

ds has my last name since me and df arnt maried it was just easier

[Chanelc]

My bub has my ex's last name now I wish she had mine... as well it is hard when you go to the doctor and everything as we have different last names... oh wellbad choice back then

[Gumby]

My 2 older children have my ex's last name which is fine with me as he is the father of them. My son will have his fathers sir name and hopefully in the not too distant future I will too. It can sometimes be confusing but hopefully my children will understand...

[Tisme]

my children have both our names hyphenated

[Mum2Bug]

I gave Bug her fathers surname. Although we dont see much of him, he is still her father and is still in her life. If he wasnt in her life though I would've given her my surname.

[~EmsMum~]

My DD has both names

[Mum2Lucas]

DS has my surname because we dont speak to his father but even if he saw him and was a part of his life id still have given him my last name. i feel as a single parent that it's better for him to have my last name. another option is maybe hyphenating your last name with the fathers.

[meme]

my first i made the mistke of giving her her fathers nAme, i hate it as most of the time i have been a single mum and it would upset mwe having to explaain it always at the gps etc, as her file was in a different part of the alphabet and everyone would assume we had the same last name.

my otherdds have my last name, even though they very much have a father figure and he would have liked them to have his name. i told him they can have his last name when i have it too.....

[mz sv6]

My DD has both names


jus like to no whos surname did u put first yours or his ? and do u use both surnames all the time ? cause im thinkin of puttin both but not sure

[Sarak7]

jus like to no whos surname did u put first yours or his ? and do u use both surnames all the time ? cause im thinkin of puttin both but not sure

Hey if it was me i would put my last name first and his second because
i will be the main parent/provider.

[~EmsMum~]

jus like to no whos surname did u put first yours or his ? and do u use both surnames all the time ? cause im thinkin of puttin both but not sure

mine is first his is last and its hypenated

[proud_mum2b]

although im not technically a single parent as im partnered anyway we decided when we first found out we were pregnant the first time (lost twins m/c) that they would take on my dp last name.

now this time around, we are having a boy and is definately taking on dp's last name, although my dad isnt quite happy about it he just has to accept the fact that me and my dp will get married and would rather not have to bother changing names over when we do.

[♥My Innocent Angel♥]

jus like to no whos surname did u put first yours or his ? and do u use both surnames all the time ? cause im thinkin of puttin both but not sure

my DD is the same she has mine then his and is hyphenated

now someone correct me if im wrong but i think you can just drop the second name in everyday use etc but on all legal documents you have to put the full name but i think at school/kindy you can request that they only use your last name in the class rooms etc so long as the legal forms have the childs full name

hope this helps you :fingerscrossed:

[SimplyMum]

I gave my DS my last name and have decided that if I ever meet a nice guy and get married, he will have to take my name as I am not having a different name to my son. A friend of mine had a son, her son had her last name and she found someone and got married. She changed her sons name to the new husbands name and then they got divorced so her and her son changed their names back. To me, that's just too much for a child to handle. I figure if the guy accepts Bailey and I then he should respect the decision to change his name or maybe even keep our names and hyphenate (SP?) our kids surnames.

[oleander]

My daughter will have my surname. I wasnt married for long enough to change mine which is good as it saves me the time and money of changing it back. The way I see it is that he abandoned us so we will abandon his surname.

[bearsmummy]

when i had my eldest boy i was a single mum and i gave him my surname but when i met my DF and we knew we were together for the long haul and had more kids, we changed his to be the same as his brothers. just saved on confusion and he didnt feel left out anymore :D good luck...

[Femme-Fetale]

I was with the father whilst preg and up untill DS was 10 weeks old. I was adament about giving DS my last name. Things were on rocky ground and i felt more secure having DS named after me.
I have given DS, his fathers last name as a nick name, and my surname is DS's last name.
Daddy hated it at 1st and it was cause for alot of arguements, but once bubs was born he didnt care about names, he only cared about his little man :thumbsup:

[Deity]

This topic is in the single parents section. I think if a man puts a woman in a situation where she is a single parent what right does he have to have his name associated with that child? ESPECIALLY if he has no involvement and refuses to pay CSA? :shame:

My 2 cents: If you are a single mum, save yourself the future hassles and just put your own name. If/when you meet someone else you may want to get married, do you really want to ask your ex if you can change your child's name? or ask if you can get a passport for your child? MANY problems with putting the father's name on the certificate. :no:

Putting his name does not tell the child the story about their father, YOU do; their name is a technicality.

[nursenat79]

i agree with the last post. My ex already had a child with a girl. They gave him his last name at the time because they were 'getting' married in the future. that never happened and now she has a son who has a different name to hers. the father visits a couple of times a week but i dont think that gives him the right to have the sons name. he abandoned the family. the son lives with his mum and her family (parents etc) so why should his fathers name be his "family" name. I am pregnant to him now and he left me so i am giving bub my last name which he is very happy with cause he wants the bub dead basically (lovely fellow). if i ever get married again (was married once) i will change his/her name when i change mine so we can always share the same 'family' name because we are 'family'.
:)