View Full Version : Anyone work, study, learn to drive and be mum with anxiety
Hi there I totally understand how you feel, I just quit a pre-nursing course because my social anxiety was so bad, it was making me sick.
I really don't have any advice to give you I'm sorry.
But I just wanted to let you know you are not alone.
It's a really horrible thing how our minds control us.
Good Luck with everything. Let us know how you are going.
I am rather anti-medication but I have found being on fluoxetine (auscap/ prozac) has made a world of difference to me. I used to suffer from full blown panic attacks and although some situations still make me anxious it is definitely down to a controllable level.
Some advice I can offer you is to let your potential employers know that you suffer from anxiety. My past 4 employers have all been aware of my anxiety/depression and have been really supportive and understanding in helping me settle in to the job.
Regarding driving, only do what you are comfortable with. When I was learning I would ONLY drive on quiet suburban/country roads. Even once I was on my P's in was a few years before I would drive alone in heavy traffic. If I had to drive somewhere ie into the city, I would make mum or bf come in the car with me to help keep me calm. I can handle it now as long as I know where I am going but still start to panic if I get lost (getting lost/feeling helpless is a huge trigger for me).
Speaking of triggers, one thing that will really help is for you to identify specific triggers so you can prepare yourself for them, or avoid them ie some of my triggers are: getting lost, large crowds, new job... Something like big crowds I can avoid, or only go near one with my DF (I feel safe as long as I am with someone else). For situations like the new job, I just talk myself through it " This is easy, you are capable, you have done it before. Worst case, you leave and go home where it is safe. There will always be other jobs but you CAN do this..."
Anyway enough :ecomcity: from me. Hope something I have said is useful!!!
Oh you poor thing :(
I know just how you feel. 9 days out of 10 I feel like im locked in a cage! If my MIL isnt causing issues I feel guilty because im yet to get my license (im 23, and live in a rural area with no public transport except a VLINE train thats 45 mins walk with snakes on the way), and i cant work because 1. im anxious 2. i cant afford CC 3. im anxious 4. im studying PT 5. im anxious LOL
I know its hard, but have you considered taking a course? my mum drives up to take me to the station and takes the girls until hubby finishes work (he works near her). I only study PT but god has my anxiety improved, still far from perfect socially speaking but im fine in a professional setting.
Have you considered doing AVON? You can make some money, dont have to drive anywhere and improve your anxiety!
Just a thought :)
Yes (I have bipolar and anxiety) but not all at once. I did however work full-tim+study+learn to drive when we were planning our wedding and it was very, very hard. I had panic attacks, got sick a lot and it was awful.
If you must work, take it slowly and if you can't do it, you haven't failed and at least you tried. You can only do your best. Can you defer your studies for a little while perhaps?
I REALLY feel for you.
I have a relative in a similar situation bt worse as they dont have a partner.
and i personally faced the stress of trying to raise kids and trying to work and the toll it takes.
I really feel for you.
I know how you feel, I suffer from anxiety panic disorder and I don't feel that I can work.
We also could do with extra money but when I just think of working I have a panic attack.
Hope you can find a way of working through it :)
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