MIL Advice Please

[Melissa1983]

I am confused...

As you know i have had problems with my inlaws, anyway a few weeks ago they rang DH and said that i don't make a effort and that i only ring them when i need something and that i have to make the first move to make the mends.. So i did, i rang her to see if she wanted to come out with me and the girls, and she accepted, we had a good time.

When i droped her home she said that she was going to have the girls for me the follow Sunday, and i said great as i had to work. She had them for 3 hours thats it. That whole time i was at work...

She hasn't rang me or invited me out or anything. I feel that i have made the effort and they aint returning the effort.. :banghead:

What should i do now?

[Briswegian]

how long ago was it that she looked after the girls?

[Melissa1983]

Last weekend. But now they have gone away, and they said to DH that they were going to ring me to let me know, and they haven't. They left yesterday.

[Desertress]

IM not really sure what you should do in this situation. Seems to me like they arnt just wanting you to make and effort... they are wanting you to make ALL the effort. Maybe give it another try and see how it goes .... ortherwise leave the ball in their court.

[Briswegian]

I agree....ring when they get back and enquire about how they are and thank them again for caring for the girls. It's worth another shot to check your own feelings at the door and give it a big try so you can at least satisfy yourself that you've taken the higher road and it's their issue not yours. :hugs:

[~Chick79~]

Sis, do you really think this is going to work out??? I don't.... In the whole time you and DH have been together she has done nothing but put you down and make you feel like sh!t.

Unfortunately I can't see her attitude changing no matter how much effort you make... I suppose if it were me (and I am so grateful it is not!!) I would just be adult about it and be polite at family functions (that is when you are invited!) and when she asks to see the girls by all means let her - but don't let her dictate to you the conditions!

:kiss:

[spiritedfamily]

I don't know the full history but just wanted to say...I understand struggles with in-laws.

I have had alot of opposition over the years and it came to head where hubby & I confronted the issues...all promises were made to improve but slowly my mother-in-law is slipping back into her old attitudes towards us both. I've resorted to making an effort within our means...if I can't visit, too tired, too busy or whatever then I don't do so and when I/we can I/we do. It is under our terms now though...not so much hers and that has made the difference.

good luck:hugs: