I have a cling-on

[FourAngelKisses]

My 2yr old is a total cling-on and has been for about 12mths now and I can't see him changing any time soon. He has a girlfriend that he sees every week, he used to be fine, but now when we go there, he will cling to me for dear life and will scream if I put him down.
What am I supposed to do with him when I go into labour? If DH has him, he will mope around until I get home. He wont eat or drink or sleep unless I am around. I am hoping to get early discharge from hospital (not sure if it exists here though) so that I can be home for my other kids, but if I can't and have to stay overnight, I will be so worried about him.

Has anyone else ever given birth while having a cling-on??

[Jodiee]

First of all, Jeanette,

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! AND WELCOME TO THE APRIL THREAD, NICE TO MEET YOU!

I cant really say much, all of my other children have been great with seperation, but my cousin has a clingon, and she started by putting her into occasional care once a week, my niece (well, sort of...lol) used to scream and cry, but the kindy used to basically ask us to leave, and she would be fine after about 5 minutes (we used to sneak peeks around the corner), another thing is, that he is only 2, hopefully he will go out of that baby stage, and into the little boy stage before April, for some unusual reason, boys are shocking Mummy's boys, mine is the biggest sook out of all 4, and he is the only boy, you would think that he would be the manly one, but not so!! lol....

Anyway, Im off, so cya!
Jo

[nuddle]

oh, my first was like that, however, she was 3 and a half before my son was born, and we had practiced for her to stay the night at my friends place, who also had a girl her age, so that worked well. I tried the daycare thing, and found it made no difference. Maybe as it gets closer to april, practice having sleepovers at grandparents house?

[FourAngelKisses]

Staying at the grandparents house isn't possible....it never ever happens for any of my kids. I thought of daycare but I know that Brooke went through separation anxiety at daycare for 8mths after Jacob started school and left her on her lonesome, lol, so I ended up pulling her out of there.

We were at mum and dads yesterday and he would not leave my side for about 2.5hrs. If I tried to put him down his arms and legs would be wrapped around me like vines. My sister said I should just put him down, but no way in hell will I ever make one of my kids cry on purpose. He wouldn't even look at anyone without crying.

It is the same if I go to a friends place.....he has been going there every week since birth and used to love it, but now he just clings to me the entire time.

I know I have 8mths to try and sort this out, but because he has been this way for about 12mths, it seems like it will never end.

[nuddle]

whats the plan for when you are in labour, where will he go? Wherever that is, closer to the time, have some practice runs... he will be fine. Do you think that the pg has something to do with him acting like this now?

[FourAngelKisses]

Not too sure yet really, the inlaws will probably have them for a couple of hours. Their daughter (25) has down syndrome and autism, so will most likely throw Matthew at a wall if he cries or gets too happy, so I don't want to leave them there for too long. But at the same time, I have no one else to take them and I can't take them with me, sooooooooo....................

[FourAngelKisses]

Do you think that the pg has something to do with him acting like this now?

No, he's been like this since he turned 1, I have no idea what triggered it, but it seems to be getting worse. :(