can any young mums help?

[Niki]

hi all young mums, my sister is doing a project for skool on teen pregnancys (the class picked it for her because of me and my other preg sis :laughing: )would any of you mind answering these questions for her..

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant?
what was the fathers reaction?
what was your parents reaction?
how was seeing the first scan?
how was seeing your baby for the first time?
would u say its harder being a young mother?
if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child?

you can post the answers here or pm me with them :D

[MissSparkle]

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant? SHOCKED! I always thought "that'd never happen to me!" plus I was on the pill!

what was the fathers reaction? He was so calm. He told me everything would be alright and he'd be there for me.

what was your parents reaction? ABSOLUTE SHOCK! They were speechless for days then they were excited.

how was seeing the first scan? I cried and carried the photo around till DS was born. I was so attached instantly

how was seeing your baby for the first time? It was surreal. I felt like I knew him so well from the moment he was born

would u say its harder being a young mother? Personally I don't thik it's harder being a young mother, I think its harder to be perceived as a young person with a baby. People dettach from you abit because you aren't readily available all the time.

if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child? NO WAY! I love my DS and I wouldnt change this for the world.

[MeeG]

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant? completely shocked never ever even crossed my mind it could possibly happen to me
what was the fathers reaction? he guessed before i did but he jus kept making jokes about it his way of dealing i guess
what was your parents reaction? shcck absolute shock
how was seeing the first scan? very emotional i had mine at 6wks i could make out what anything was but i could hear the heartbeat and i cried
how was seeing your baby for the first time? TAB lol
would u say its harder being a young mother? my opinion so far is yes
if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child? this has been hard for me, me and the father spilt 3 months into my pregancy but i believe its helped me define myself and made me realise how strong i can be ( sorry if that sounds lame lol)


hope that helped a little


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[~EmsMum~]

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant? I was very shocked and in denial
what was the fathers reaction? he thought I was joking
what was your parents reaction? my mum was very happy for me
how was seeing the first scan? was amazing, i couldn't believe I had a tiny human inside of me
how was seeing your baby for the first time? fantastic, I didn't know my body was capable of such a thing
would u say its harder being a young mother? for me yes because i am raising my DD on my on
if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child? no way it was hard at the start but its been worth it

[Jem]

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant? found out when i was 17 weeks, i was completely shocked!!!!

what was the fathers reaction? He told me to get rid of it.. wasnt happy at all.

what was your parents reaction? told me i would ruin my life

how was seeing the first scan? i cried

how was seeing your baby for the first time? amazing

would u say its harder being a young mother? not at all.

if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child ?No

[Mum&bubs]

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant? shocked & in denial- didnt seem real. But after that wore off completely excited :D

what was the fathers reaction? over the moon. He said having a baby to me would make him the happiest man around.

what was your parents reaction? hmm..mum was angry at my DP at first. Dad gave the 'disappointed' look but once the shock wore off for them they were very supportive of myself & DP.

how was seeing the first scan? I cried. It actually made everything seem real, seeing my little bubba & seeing the heart beat. For the first time i felt like life was meaningful.

how was seeing your baby for the first time? Words cant really describe it. I felt love id never felt before and suddenly felt like i had to do everything i could possible to make my baby happy.

would u say its harder being a young mother? Its hard being a mother no matter what age but yes i would say its harder as you get the dirty looks...rude comments...people think you are trashy & 'poor' just because you are young.

if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child? Hell no! She made my life worth living.

[Niki]

thank you so much girls :hugs:

[neeky]

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant? i guess a cross between shock and excitement. i cried, wasnt sure if it was coz i was happy or terrified (i think it was a bit of both) lol. i already knew but getting the confirmation was a whole different story.
what was the fathers reaction? same as mine LOL!
what was your parents reaction? shock, slight dissappointment, (more that i didnt tell her right away!) but she soon warmed up to the idea. now she's over the moon about her 1st grandson!
how was seeing the first scan? words cant describe! it was amazing, it was at about 15weeks to try and see how far along i was, just cant descirbe how amazing it felt to hear his little heartbeat and see what i was told was him, not that i could see it lol. i cried on and off for the next 2 days.
how was seeing your baby for the first time? yet again words simply dont do it justice. you just get this amazing bond, and to finally see him in the flesh was the most incredible experience of my life! i couldnt stop crying! (with JOY!)
would u say its harder being a young mother? i dont think so, i think its hard for ALL mothers regardless of age. although a lot of people seem to believe that ur incompetent bcoz ur young. the hardest part was realising just how many friends i didnt have. only a special few still treat you the same, and understand that your family comes first.
if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child? NOT A CHANCE IN THE WORLD!!!! he is our little miracle and there is not a moment that i dont thank god he's here, not even when he pee's on me! :D

[SamanthaJane]

Im still pregnant... so i'll add my 2 cents from a pregnant young mummy....

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant?
Shocked, terrified, didn't know what to do. I had been on the pill for over 2 years and i just didn't understand why it had happened, how it could happen... i balled my eyes out for days and days... i was a wreck, seriously. But Now i am happy as larry and i can't wait to meet this little girl !!!!

what was the fathers reaction?
shocked, upset, angry, unsure, confused... every feeling under the sun. Didn't really want me to keep it (but i was the one who said i wanted an abortion first, so i dont know if that was just him agreeing, or whether thats actually what he wanted?) But now he is happy and excited! He loves kids, always has, i think he is going to be really proud when he meets her for the first time! I cant wait :)

what was your parents reaction?
Well when i told them, i was going to have an abortion, they were sad for me. They knew it was a tough choice and i was feeling very upset, so of course, they were upset coz their daughter was upset. But when i told them i would keep the baby instead, they were over the moon, especially my mum. They can't wait to be grandparents! Much to my surprise. They've been SO supportive and have given so much already. I'm so thankful and i can never repay them enough!

how was seeing the first scan?
First was at 11 weeks. Really amazing. Just to see that the baby was alive and growing, i felt so emotional (lol) Just knowing that someone is growing inside you, is just so so amazing. At my 20 week scan i had one of those 4d ones... and that made me even more emotional... its just the most amazing thing, seriously, i can't describe it... its just such a miracle.

how was seeing your baby for the first time? N/a

would u say its harder being a young mother?
Not that i know from experience (yet) but i think it is definitley harder in some aspects. More so because some young mums feel as though they have to work harder, to avoid the stereotypes. I've had to put up with a lot of sh!t from total strangers, and the baby hasn't even been born yet. But with that sad, it is hard to be a mother in general, its hard to be a parent at any age. No one says its easy! But i can't whinge and say "oh its so much harder for me for everything" in general... for example: both my siblings and myself will always be very financially stable for the rest of our lives (with thanks to my parents) so in that sense, it would be tougher for another mum, who may be like 10 years older than me, who has very little money, so she has it harder in another aspect.... if you know what i mean?

if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child?
Nope, my world is already centered around her. I'm a child care worker, so i want my life to be centered around children. Yes it will be bloody hard, but i would say the hard work pays off because at the end of the day you get to watch that little miracle "peanut" grow into a defined human being.

[Mum2Lucas]

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant? bit shocked but happy.

what was the fathers reaction? there were a few and none of them were good.

what was your parents reaction? mum was in denial for a week and then got very excited for me.

how was seeing the first scan? i almost cried. i was so happy.

how was seeing your baby for the first time? it was the happiest moment of my life. he was gorgeous and everything was in the right place

would u say its harder being a young mother? i wouldnt say its harder. It can be hard at any age.

if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child? I wouldnt change anything about the past 2 years. I love being a single mum and i love my son more than life itself.

[Sarak7]

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant?
Completely shocked!! (i broke down in tears) mainly because i wasn't expecting it at all.

what was the fathers reaction?
He didn't say much just smiled at me and gave me a big hug.

what was your parents reaction?
I told my mum over the phone, she went silent for about 5 minutes then proceeded to change the subject to "So.. how was your weekend away?" :laughing:

how was seeing the first scan?
Amazing! my eyes were glued to the screen the whole time.

how was seeing your baby for the first time?
Havn't seen her yet, but on screen she was just perfect!!:p

would u say its harder being a young mother?
Can't really say yet, but yes i think it is.

if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child?
Probably not, if i knew i was going to be a mum at the age of 20 i would have partied really hard when i was 18 :laughing:
Although if i had the opportunity to have this baby when i was a little older i would jump at the chance.

[meme]

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant?
embarressed that this had happenned to me for about a second, and then totally silly with happiness.

what was the fathers reaction?
supportive at first and then freaked out that it would wreck his life.

what was your parents reaction?
mum was supportive, dad just thought he was too youmg to be a grandpa and took months to talk to me again.

how was seeing the first scan?
totally magical and life altering, she was just a little heartbeat. but it was that spark of life inside me.

how was seeing your baby for the first time?
the best thing ever

would u say its harder being a young mother?
it's hard, but not necessarilly harder, just different challenges.

if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child?
if i had the opportunity to have this baby when i was a little older i would jump at the chance yep, i would never consider not having my dd, she made my life, i would not be who i am without her, but i agree that if i could go back knowing what i know now, i would want to have a life and get my life sorted before having her, not because of having her.

[SassyMummy]

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant?
I was kinda stunned for a while...and then I just let all my friends know. It hadn't sunken in that I was pregnant...it was just a really awkward feeling. I just couldn't believe it.

what was the fathers reaction?
He was shocked too. He wasn't very impressed either...we had a bit of trouble when I first found out...I think he was a bit disappointed.

what was your parents reaction?
They were really good about it. I thought they'd have been worse...I was actually afraid to let them know. But as soon as I let my mother know, she got into gear and started to make sure I was taken to every appointment and looked after me really well. I'm really grateful to her because of that.

how was seeing the first scan?
Seeing the actual scan was nice...I remember seeing DD's profile...she had a cute up-turned nose. I was over-the-moon.

how was seeing your baby for the first time?
Weird. I had a c-section...and I certainly didn't think I would have. I thought they were for older mums...not young mothers. I was a bit stressed out so I wasn't thinking very clearly. When they first showed her to me, I said, "Oh...cool." I didn't know how I was supposed to react...and I think again, it hadn't sunken in that I actually had a baby. When I got to see her later on though, it was better. I touched her and felt love.

would u say its harder being a young mother?
Harder than being an older mother? I'm not sure. I think each would come with their own pros and cons. I was lucky...I had finished high school and completed 2 certificate courses by the time she was born. I have a bit of education to back me up in life. Some people don't have that... I think that would have been a lot harder than how it has been for me.

if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child?
Do you mean abortion? No. I wouldn't have aborted my daughter at all. In hindsight, having a baby later in life would have been easier...but if I didn't have here THEN she wouldn't be hte person she is, and I wouldn't be the person I am today. She's beautiful...there's no way I'd change the fact that I gave her life. She's actually brought a bit of meaning to my life.

[Corie]

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant? Over the moon
what was the fathers reaction? he was more excited then me!
what was your parents reaction?everyone was happy for us, they knew its what we wanted
how was seeing the first scan? it made the pregnancy seem more real
how was seeing your baby for the first time? so overwhemling!
would u say its harder being a young mother? nope, not at all
if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child? noway! after all the TTC and miscasrriages we finally have our little maddy, we wouldnt change it for the world!

[Tan-mumof3]

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant?
Extremely Shocked, i cried from shock i think. I was 2 weeks late and didn't even think about being pg until my mum suggested it to me, i couldn't believe it when the 2 very dark pink lines came up.

what was the fathers reaction?
Also complete shock. He didn't speak for about 3 hours. We had been together for just over a year but there was no talk of kids yet.
what was your parents reaction?
Shock, anger, disapointment at first that there baby girl was going to have a baby but it didn't take them long to get used to it.

how was seeing the first scan?
Amazing, made it all feel so real i had tears in my eyes so did DH and my mum.

how was seeing your baby for the first time?
Also so amazing, i was in a bit of shock i think cos my labour was quite quick and intense and i think it took me abit to adjust and get used to the fact that the labour was over and my little girl was here. Also everyone kept telling me i was having a boy so i was delightfully suprised that she was a little girl. I was overjoyed, extremely happy and every other happy emotion you can think of.

would u say its harder being a young mother?
I don't necessarily think it is harder, i think you have to deal with alot more criticism and negative comments, but i think it is different for everyone it doesn't matter how old or young.

if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child?
Definately not, i would not have changed having her for anything.

[mandimoo123]

Howd i feel? I was sooo shocked as docter told me i couldnt get pregnate as ive had/have PCOS, and my plumbing has been scard.

How did the father feel? He was excited nd couldnt wait till baby was born, even though we were togethr for a month max.

Howd my parents react? My dad died so i had to fess up to my mother and my older sister and brother who are 18yrs and 19yrs older than me, they were all shocked but mum knew her motherly instinct kicked in LOL

1st scan? I was amazed that somthing that tiny was inside me, and felt like a cry.

Seeing baby for 1st time? Cried and thought wow my life is about to change, sooo beautiful

Is it hard being young? No not really ive had plenty of practise with my neices and nephews

If i had to relive life would i take child out? Noway, but if you asked me b4 i got pregnate if i got pregnate at a young age i probley would of said yes, but NOOOOWAY i love her to death and she is my life now, id rather be at home with her rather than been out on tha town!

[BOSS302WMOM]

How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?
Happy but extreamly scared to tell my mom, I wasnt living at home but she hated my boyfriend/hubby.

What was the fathers reaction?
Always wanted kids, but wasnt expecting one this soon in our relationship but was exicted. At first he didnt believe me because I had been teasing him about getting married and having a family, to see if he would run:p than, when I said I was he thought it was a joke till he saw the test.

What was your parents reaction?
Angry and mad as they didnt approve of my partner and that I hadnt started any real careea........but they came around and love her to bits(my mom and S/Dad) and my dad and S/Mom where extreamly excited and happy my dad was over the moon he was going to a grandad the first out of his brothers and sisters to have a grandchild.

How was seeing the first scan?
Amazing, dh cried and he was a huge ball of muscle so it was kinda funny too.

How was seeing your baby for the first time?
Honestly..........dh was attached, I needed a shower than I fell in love with her again being in my arms, it was amazing.

Is it hard being young?
No the only time its hard is when you have snotty nose comments directed at your age.

If could redo your life would you have taken the child out?
NO, not a chance she is my everything and makes my life complete.

[LilShenanigans]

How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?
I sh*t myself lol Very early on in relationship and I was planning on dumping him just after Christmas -didn't feel dumping him before hand was very nice lol

What was the fathers reaction?
He was excited, wanted kids - couldn't wait to tell his mother!

What was your parents reaction?
I told my dad first-well actually my step mother. I had a trust coming through and dad was asking for a loan.I asked my SM how do I tell him I need money to buy a cot?? She got excited then had to calm down as dad walked in the door lol I finally said to my dad, look the money is important right now, but I'm willing to pay you for babysitting duties ... took him a while before he realised I meant HE babysit MY kids lol
I was scared to tell my mother because of her famous sex talk "Don't turn up 4 months later pregnant!!" ... it was a little sooner then 4 months. I eventually said to her I'm sorry if you feel older, but you will be a grandmother. She jumped on the phone and called my grandmother straight away! lol
Wasn't that bad after all.

How was seeing the first scan?
Scary. It really sunk in that it was in there! And scary because they took a face shot that looked like the skull and bones flag lol

How was seeing your baby for the first time?
lol Strange. I knew she'd be icky, but she was purple and small. I think I felt every emotion known! I was playing with her hand before someone asked "So what is it??" lmao

Is it hard being young?
No, I feel older (always have), I think the hardest time was when my friends were sending me messages during their wild nights out... I soon told them off for that and have stopped.

If could redo your life would you have taken the child out?
Not at all! I knew I had the option to begin with, but I couldn't put my body through that - so I went through child birth, duh lol
There's nothing I'd change, I love having her even at this age...

[MummyCharmzy]

how did u feel wen u found out u were pregnant? shocked, scared and excited

what was the fathers reaction? -

what was your parents reaction? shocked, disappointed but supportive
how was seeing the first scan? one of the best moments of my life, very emotional but so so special

how was seeing your baby for the first time? I was 17 when my first child was born and he was 9 weeks premature, the first time I properly saw him he was 2 days old, hooked up to a tonne of machines in a humidicrib and had lost 150grams off his 1.2kg birth weight already..... it was INCREDIBLY SCARY and it felt like I was seeing someone elses baby as he hadnt been inside of me for 48 hours.

would u say its harder being a young mother? no its not 'harder' than any other age. Its all a learning journey, every age has different pro's and con's

if u could redo your life would u have taken out the child? no way... I had my 3rd child at 20... I wouldnt the 2nd or 3rd or a stepson if it werent for the first I don't think.... DS coming into my life started it on the fantastic path its on now :)

[Niki]

thankyou girls for all the replies it helped my sis out heaps :hugs: