Do you get along with your partners/DH ex?

[Fuchsia!]

I often see that a lot of step parents don't get along with their partners or DH ex (biological mother of the kids)

Do you get along? If so was it rocky at the start?

What were your reasons why?

Did it get easier or worse?

What would have made it easier?

Poll to come

Thanks

[JiminyCricket]

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[Fuchsia!]

Bump :)

Thanks for that JC

[JiminyCricket]

Bump

[faroutbrusselsprout]

CAN.NOT.STAND.HER

I don't think I can actually express how much I dislike the woman without my post looking like this ******* ******* ******* ********** **** ************* ********
Haven't laid eyes on her in almost 3 years and we have ZERO contact.
DH lets me listen in on some of their calls so I can have a good laugh.
We couldn't be more different.

[TurnedBatty]

Do you get along? If so was it rocky at the start?
As well as we can I guess. Its not overly bad. We can chat about babies and such, and have actually had some good conversations. I do think she trys to hard though
What were your reasons why?
I suppose we have similar personalities, which helps.
Did it get easier or worse?
I think in certain ways its going to get worse, like with Child support and family tax, once DP is able to claim family tax he will be doing so, and she wont like it. Not one little bit. :) And child support will drop when our baby is born, and boy I would love to be there to see her face.
What would have made it easier?
We are still working on that. I like not having to see her, even if we are fairly amicable, its clear she does not like DP at all, and frankly, why ***** about him to me? I am his partner!!! I am on his side!!!

[~isis~]

Do you get along? If so was it rocky at the start?
we get along great, at the start it was a little bit more uncomfitable, but we both became pregnant within 6 months of eachother and that gave us alot to talk about. plus dss loves me and i think that helped. i never tried to force a friendship or treat dss like he is my son, i listen to what she has to say about his behaviour and shre thouhts about how we all can work togther to fix it.

What were your reasons why?
i just made sure she knew id never try to replace her, but work with her. its all about the care for the boy. nothing else is important.

Did it get easier or worse?
much easier. i find her a nice person, she isnt someone i would normally hang out with, but she is really nice. to me anyway

What would have made it easier?
i dont think there is anything, you just have to be who you are and respect each others roles in parenting the child, after that it all fell into place for us.