The Final Straw

[Chanelc]

:gloomy: I can't believe that I am even having to do this. Last night my ex confessed he has being using drugs! I showed him the door and said he will never see Chanel again! How can anyone pick drugs over their daughter? I am in shock ad all trust that was been built has gone. Although we were separated we had a good arrangement of him having Chanel once a week and every second fortnight. But how can I trust him to take care of Chanel when he is abusing his body with drugs? I am in shock and just when I thought things may resolve out peacefully he has totally blown any future he has with his daughter...Am I being too harsh?

[V8]

I don't think you are being too harsh at all. Drugs are not something your daughter who is so young needs to be around. I hope he wakes up and realises what he's lost and maybe takes some steps to get help. Till then i'd stay strong willed and not let him see your daughter till he is off the drugs or can only see her when she's with you or someone else. Sorry to hear you are going through this though, it must be so horrible.

[Karizma]

I would have done the same thing. Good on you hun. I know it might be hard, But you need to stick up for you and your daughter. I wouldnt accept it either :hugs:

[Sarak7]

I don't think your being too harsh :no:

I would do the same... your daughter comes first it's your job to protect her and keep her away from danger.

[cjb/jbvd]

it's going to be ok!!:hugs:

and you did the right thing. your daughter deserves the best love and care, and she can't get that from a drug f***ed idiot.

it's going to be tough sticking to that, but until he cleans up, he doesn't deserve his daughter in is life.

who knows, that might be enough motivation for him to get clean................

[4tiggers]

Your goregous angel deffiantly deserves the best and may only be able to see her daddy while you are around until he gets help. You aren't being to harsh and the possibilities of what could happen to Channel while he is using..................well it is just not worth taking the risk.

[MeeG]

thats disgusting! and i know how you feel, at my 19wk u/s my ex came along and told me had taken XTc the night b4 he had never taken drugs before and said he never would and i believed him, what hurt me the most was he had a daughter on the way and didnt give a stuff the selfish *sensored* anyways i hope for all the best for u and bubs:hugs: , as long as shes got u she'll b safe and loved

[ashleerose]

I know how you feel i just read another post (i think by paris mum) in here and left a long post about my ex and his drugs. He chose drugs over the kids and i.

To make it worse he got with another girl the week i left ( i gave him the ultimatium) she is a druggie and has another child to another guy.

They are still together and have had a baby just recently (and its only through the childsupport letter that i know), and to make it worse we are still legally married he had nine months in which to sort that out.
I tried previously to sort a divorce out but he wanted a thousand dollars from me or threatened to kill me if i did so i gave up and am leaving it up to him to sort out.

It hurts the hell out of me knowing that my kids will never have the father that they deserve to have but at the end of the day in the long run your kids like mine will be better of.

[4tiggers]

ashleerose,

I am sorry to hear your story but that man is not the father that your children deserve and there is no reason why they still cant have the kind of father that any child deserves. A good father does not need to have the same genetic makeup as their child and the future can hold many possibilities for you and your precious family.

Good Luck, you are doing the best for your family and should be proud of yourself.

[SamanthaJane]

Your not being too harsh at all!

Trust me, you are doing the BEST thing possible for Chanel. She doesn't deserve cr@p like that. He needs to sort himself out before he even attempts to be a part of your daughter's life.

Sorry, if i sound rude... im just really against drugs, especially around children :no:

[ashleerose]

Thanks Fourboys....

[Chanelc]

Thank you for your responses and glad I am not over reacting - he thinks I am and he started crapping on and doesn't went me to deny access. I said he can see her only under supervision and he got angry. I can safely conclude he is scum and not worth my energy or time. I rather stand my ground and protection my daughter than ever trust him again! Thanks for listening