Mixed emotions :(

[Sarak7]

Hey

I just found out from my sister that my ex (baby's dad) got fired..

I was so happy when i first found out mainly because he deserves it and Karma is a good thing. :thumbsup:

But when i start to really think about it.. i'm never gonna see him again:(

I don't know how to feel, should i be happy that he got what he deserved or be sad that this is it, it's over.. i'm never gonna see him again.

I may see him in a couple of years when visitation starts but even then who knows what will happen..

He'll probably use the excuse baby isn't his once again to try get out of the responsiblility..

until i have to spend my money to get him to have a paternity test.

I'm trying to move on with my life and concentrate on myself and bub

but in the back of my mind i'm thinking "What if he calls me?" and "Maybe i'll see him at work?"

How can i get over him and what grief he has caused me?



Sorry for going on, but didn't know who to talk to:(


:crying:

[SamanthaJane]

Just wanna send you a great big hug! :hugs:

Did you work with him... ? Sorry im confused lol.

[LilShenanigans]

I'm a lil confused too, but I'm used to it...
....

Keep moving on with your life, that's the way to get over it. You may not think it, but one day you'll wake up and go "Oh, Ok, right... I'm over it now"

And I think most single mothers would worry about THAT phone call, but if he's denied paternity, why would he bother?

And lastly, I live by "No Regrets", I'm allowed to grieve, I'm allowed to be angry etc... But I've got to remember the important lessons I learnt from each situation - I'm sure you have some of those! And just build on them, remind yourself that you don't deserve ****, be quick to notice little signs in everyone you meet.
Ok, so it's a pain in the backside being reminded all the time, but with time it lessens, and you become stronger for it.

And I hope you understand that because I've just rambled a bit, sorry lol

[nursenat79]

hello
i work with the father of my baby (am 10 wks preg) and he is one of the bosses. i have taken emergency annual leave and going to discuss options with a dr to apply for some kind of centrelink as i simply CANNOT see him at work. i was going there, crying, and forcing myself not to grab something and smack him over the head with it.
he has ignored me (in the hope i will go away and the baby will miscarry and he can pretend i never existed) and acts like i dont exist at work yet still tells me what to do as a boss. everyone at work was talking about it and gossiping and the constant questions cut like a knife. yet no one was asking him anything and he just walked around looking smug while i made his baby and was in a living nightmare.
i can understand if i dont c him at work i wont c him anymore like yourself and thats a bit sad. but he left me...he left his unborn child. seeing us at work was not his choice. i say he shouldnt have the right to see me and my growing belly. if he wants to, he can make the effort to be a dad to this one (he already has one which he is a great dad to but he "doesnt want mine"). I cant be near him. I will kill him. i am that hurt and in shock that he planned a baby with me months ago and just dumped me like used toilet paper when i said "i'm pregnant" that i cant be near him unless he is going to be nice. so maybe its for the best...maybe by him not seeing u at all he will contact u and try....then again....maybe not...at least space lets u move on. i have been off work almost a week and am feeling a bit better not being exposed to him so much.
take care :hugs:

[~Alicia]

:hugs: 's to u Sarak7




and nursenat I had know idea it was like that :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: