Number 4 baby or not??

[onelasttime]

I have three gorgeous kids now, DS4, DD2 and DD1..and its come to a point to decide to have one more or not.
Ive always wanted 4 kids close together and I'm quite happy to fall pregnant today. I won't continue after 4 it would be to hard for me and I would feel my family is complete.:D

However my DH doesnt want 4, he is happy with 3. He did admit he would like another boy but that may not happen LOL.
I've told him the days I'm ovulating so he knows and he wants to get the snip but he won't cause he knows I would be mad - so he does respect me and my feelings.

So not sure what to do?? I'm ovulating at the end of month so I really want to try but we both have to be happy about it.

So advice pls, how did you both agree to stop having children etc....

[muls]

Hi,

It's so hard to know when to stop as having kids is the best LOL!
My husband and I have decided that if we have a girl this time round we will stop at 3 (never in concrete though) but if we get another boy we will try one more time for a girl. I think it's all about sitting down and working out whether you will need to purchase anything expensive like a car or whether you house will accomodate another. Once you sit down and have a chat over dinner (get someone to watch the kids) you can both talk about the why and why not's to having another baby.

I hope your hubby takes in all your hints and concedes!!

Good luck :goodvibes:

[onelasttime]

yes good point about house/car.. We already have 7 seater, our house is a 5 bedroom, and we have a ton of baby stuff so no added expense.

Hubby is just concerned the financial aspect over a period of time. Which I do understand but I feel at the end of the day when the kids are all grown up and working in good jobs it would be all worth it being broke for at least 20 years :laughing:

I think we would be ok financially...just think he is scared to make that plunge IYKWIM

[jess_live_die]

its a hard choice i was happy with 3 i didnt want anymore i was a single mum when i had my 3rd and i was happy wen i met my dp he had has no kids and said he would like kids but his happy to share mine well that got me thinking anyway we have decided to try for a baby *fingers crossed*
i guess talking bout each others feeling comes in handy and seeing things for each others side mayb he'll chance his mind :D
sorry not much help but i wish you all the best

[lambjam]

I'm no help at all, I've just started my own thread about my angst over baby #4! :laughing:

I just wanted to come and give you some of these :hugs::hugs:, it's such a hard decision. I think in your case you at least know what you want, it's a case of convincing DH... I don't even know my own mind on the matter :rolleyes:.

[Aquamarine]

I was pregnant with #4 and sadly it didn't work out and I lost the baby. My DH and I had mixed feelings about having #4 but decided we would take the plunge and leave it up to the Universe. Anyway once I was pregnant I started to panic about having four children and felt very nervous. It seems so different talking about having another one to actually expecting another.
I still feel sad thinking about what happened but I know now that I am 100% happy with three and we are both at peace knowing our family is complete.
I would just make sure you discuss it properly and make sure you are sure you want another before you decide to take the plunge.

Good luck. :)

[Froggiesmum]

Don't count the days ... be passionate, loving... show him how much you love him and your family... make love... and if you find out that number 4 is on the way then its meant to be. We spend to much time worrying about 123 1234 $132123412 what does it all mean. What is the difference between 3 and 4 .... Really the difference is money.. how much does it cost to play in the park.... how much does it cost to watch your children smile....... does it really matter if you ovulate this month or next... have fun..and you will get your answer to whether or not you should have 3 or 4 kids.....

xx