confused with ultrasound pictures

[bunnymum]

Dear all,

I'm new to this forum and now expecting my first child :)
I just had my 19th week mid pregnancy ultrasound today and decided to find out the sex of the baby. I'm a bit confused looking at the picture of the ultrasound (too bad i don't have a printed copy here that i can scan and show you). WHen the sonographer got to the the legs/thigh parts, she pointed out to me the genitals of the baby and i immediately shouted "it's a boy" because i saw something like a bump in between the legs and the sonographer just simply said "yes", however after coming home i told myself that i'm not convinced whether it's a boy, because the genitals do not look like it's really showing boys genitals such as testicles and a penis (people say it should be showing like a turtle kind of shape), just because there is 'something' in between the legs, does it mean a 100% it's a boy?

I looked at some baby girls ultrasound pictures on the net and even girls could show some 'bump' as well. HOwever, people said with girls you'd see three lines there, whereas mine just showed a little bump in between - I did not recall i saw any lines that shows girls' labia.

Now i'm really confused. Up till this morning, hubby and me had high hopes it was going to be a girl (with all the gut feelings that we had, the talks that people had been talking and all the oldwives tales stories i've heard, i was so convinced it was going to be a girl! we even only chose girl's name and i've already got a present, a baby girl clothing!!), now after the scan we found out it could be a boy.......

Should I assume that my ultrasound is really accurate?

I'm due to see my ob/gyn in the next three weeks, so i hope i can find out the 'truth'

[River Song]

the sonographer would have corrected you if you were wrong....


congrats on having a boy...:yelclap:

[bunnymum]

Yes that's what my hubby told me. THe sonographer would have corrected me if i was wrong.

ANyway, i saw a 'hot dog' like bump, not like a 'hamburger' or 'open clam', now i'm so sure it's a boy.

Funny though how those oldwives tales and very strong gut feelings really did not match with the ultrasound results! Can't go against God's plan!

Now off to find some boys names and bye-bye our much beloved girls names.

oh and the girl clothes presents seem like have to wait till one day in the future i have a girl. :p

[1+1=5]

the sonographer would have corrected you if you were wrong....


congrats on having a boy...:yelclap:
:iagree::iagree:

[Monster & Boof]

Congrats onfinding out you are having a boy :D
They really are heaps of fun, im having my second boy in July and sooo excited... like you i kinda hoped girl but as soon as i found out boy i was pretty bloody excited that DS1 was going to have a brother to grow up with and i could have another little man!!

GREAT NEWS - have fun finding a name and going BOY shopping

[MissWinter]

http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/picture.php?albumid=2030&pictureid=10488

Here is the picture of my little girl :) Just to compare for you...

[bunnymum]

Thanks for the replies and assurance everyone :) I was feeling kinda down when things turned out not to be expected.

I'm very happy to be having a boy. Funny though, i guess the sonographer knows i was kinda sad, although i tried to laugh and giggle when i found out.

Sarah Kristine, my baby has a tiny bump in between his thighs (i'd say more like a hot dog shape if my memory serves me right), unlike yours that clearly has no bumps and i can see some 'three lines' on it.

Nearly everyone in the family says i am carrying a girl and i am very sure myself too .... and i constantly kept asking hubby before we found out and he kept saying with proud "i know it's going to be a girl" and not to mention that a family member bought us some girls clothings! I'm kinda embarassed (and perhaps still shocked) now! :cool:

[iMischa]

*hugs* its ok to feel shocked and even dissapointed and even grieve the loss of the little girl you thought u were having. give urself a bit of time, and im sure u will bond with the idea of having a wonderful little boy in your life.

i have two, and they are amazing and so much fun.
best of luck and congrats :)

[bunnymum]

I dont mean to come back to this forum for a while until i've settled down, however my feelings got disturbed again today and was hoping someone would put their hands up and say that ultrasound pictures could probably be wrong :p. Seriously, until now i'm not that convinced that the bit that i saw was the boy bit as it wasn't quite as obvious as a scrotum and penis, but not as round as a labia. It was a potty shot view of the ultrasound, so i'm not sure if it's a 100% accurate way to confirm. I'll confirm it again in the next couple of weeks when i'm due to see my Obstetrician. I am already prepared if it's a boy this time :)

Oh.. also the sonographer who did my scan seemed a bit uncalmed (although she seemed to be doing well), and had to ask me 2x in the beginning "did you say you want to find out the sex of the baby?" or "what did you say again, yes or no?", not only that it took me a whole 2 hrs to do my mid pregnancy scan, she was having a hard time finding certain positions so that she could take the screen shots.. guess what in the very end after two hours lying down and feeling so sore and tired, she had to do a vaginal scan on me because she couldn't locate my cervix!:banghead:

I've calmed down a lot in the past few days and starting to accept i could be having a baby boy and start imagining what it feels like having a boy (it's not too bad actually). I caught up with my cousin and her little girls on the other day and immediately thought that there wouldn't be much difference between having a boy or a girl, they all require same care and attention anyway. BUt i've begun having nightmares that what if i won't be able to have a girl at all in the future (hubby has no sisters and hubby's cousins are all boys! :crying:, so his grans never got a chance to have a granddaughter!). So, the main point is, i want to have a daughter so at least i know i already have a girl and not to worry about it later 5 yrs down the road trying to conceive a girl like mad!! I'm not that really convinced with alternative methods such as specific diet, TTC techniques, douches, etc i'm just afraid what if after i tried all those, i would still end up with boys? I can see these days many new parents are blessed with baby boys, maybe it's the diets these days that makes it easier for boy sperm to survive and swim faster? I don't know how my grandparents from maternal side did 8 girls and 2 boys as people always seem to think conceiving boys are easiler, but not for my nan!


I've done a lot of research lately and there is no exact answer whether i can control of what i'd like trying to conceive. i'd love to try IVF (perhaps find a doctor overseas because they don't allow gender selection here in Australia?) if i'm really desperate, but i still don't dare enough to confess to hubby that i was very upset on the other day, let alone so desperate to have a girl -otherwise this is something we can plan soon in the next couple of years. I cried for the whole day when the sonographer told me it was a boy :crying: I knew hubby was kinda upset too, but he knew that this is not something that humans could decide alone.

[muls]

I'm sure that you are right and that the U/S person would be correct.:-(

I have 2 boys and would really really want a girl this time. It really is hard coming to terms with the fact that I may not get a girl. There are so many aspects as to why a girl would be perfect but in saying that my boys are my world!
There are books you can buy that have a 95-97% accuracy of getting a girl so maybe that's worth a try for you next time. I didn't get that far as surprise I'm already pregnant LOL!

Just remember that with boys there are plenty of positives like you can get cute clothes from cotton on & best and less, you can still get him a funky haircut, he will play lots of fun sports on the weekends. He will also love his mum more than anything - boys are usually mummies boys!!

Hope your ok! Thinking of you x

[bunnymum]

oh muls, thank you.... i agree that having boys can be really fun too, i still have a few more chances to try to conceive a girl, so i shouldn't see it as the end of the world. Many, many people that i know also have boys as their first kids, but when it comes to second, third or fourth, they are successfully able to get a girl (or vice versa with people trying to have a boy as well).

It's just that i'm afraid my nightmares of not being able to have a daughter will really come true. Days and months before my 19th week U/S, i was really in great fear that the ultrasound person would say "it's a boy" and DANG! my nightmare really did come true. and i keep asking God why is this happening and i keep telling myself that it's a punishment that i cannot accept.:crying:

I've compared hundreds of ultrasound pictures on the net and funnily, i found a few that resembles what i saw in my baby's u/s pic, and the ones on the net clearly said girls... so i suspect because i did my u/s really at the end of my 18th week, i was thinking the baby genitals were not fully developed, ie, girl's labias have not really formed yet and it may become 'flatter' later because the 'bit' that i saw at the ultrasound screen wasn't big enough to justify it's a scrotum and penis. Anyway.. i might be daydreaming now.....those are just my hopes that may never come true.......and i was trying to make myself feel better.

[muls]

Yep I know that fear bunnymum - I really desperatly want a girl but I have this niggling feeling that I will be told again that "it's a boy". I will be really upset this time for sure! I have those thoughts of what if I never have a daughter only a daughter in law, what if I never get to take a girl to dance lessons, what if I never get to braid her hair, buy her a deb dress, help her pick her wedding dress, be the first to know that my daughter is having a baby... It is hard

We can't change the way we feel as that's honestly how we feel, we can just get reassurance from others that it will get easier and we will find a happy place when we're ready.
I really do hope for you sake that the U/S person was incorrect and that you get a girl but if not time will help heal this feeling.

:hugs:

[Orris Apjoko]

Hey, it is probably a boy because although you said its a boy from seeing the outter genitalia, the u/s person is trained in knowing what every single bump is and wouldnt go off just seing a "hot dog" they are trained to see the urethra which would also help define the babies gender. Maybe have a read around the Gender dissapointment area. What your feeling is completely normal and you need to go through that phase to get to when you will be soo excited about having a boy. Normally the genitials are formed by 16 weeks unless you baby's chromosones arent
'correct' and you child is a hermaphrodite (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intersex). Congratulations you have a healthy male infant growing inside you!!

[knowtoomuch]

songraphers' point of view:

if I am not very confident of the baby's gender i will not tell the parents. I usually try and say i am 95% + sure it is a boy or girl.

not all boys have a very obvious penis & scrotum, sometimes the scrotum is obvious but the penis less so. We do not say it is a girl just because we cant see a penis. Girls generally look a lot flatter between the legs and have 3 echogenic (bright white) lines that are the labia - they generally are not rounded and do not protrude.

if the sonographer let you think it was a boy then you should feel confident that it is, we know how important is it to get it right and hate to get it wrong (although i'm sure sometimes we do)

hope this helps :)

[RHJ]

I know how you feel. I have been there, and have lived the "nightmare" of realising i will never have a daughter. My DH's side of the family is all boys, with only a rare girl thrown in. However, my BIL has 2 girls now.
I have 3 boys, and although i wish i had a daughter, would never swap my little men for one.
It is really a hard thing to explain Gender disapointment, and a hard thing to accept unless you have felt it. I just wanted to send you big Hugs, and let you know that what you are feeling is normal, is ok, and it is important for you to be able to express and feel the emotions.
xoxo

[3hmom]

I can relate to how you are feeling. I have 2 boys. My first with severe behavioral issues. When I was told my second was a boy I cried so hard and prayed that this could be wrong. I realized I wanted a girl so bad to fill this empty void I have always had. My mother deglected me and I never really felt loved by her. My whole life I have been trying to fill this void. I keep thinking that if I have a girl, I can almost change what had happened to me.

Currently, I am pregnant with my third baby, 20 weeks. I went for my ultrasound about 2 weeks ago. The tech first said girl and even wrote "It's a Girl" on the pic. Then she announced she saw something, she was mistaken by the umbilical cord. Again, she announced she saw something peeking around the corner. She concluded that she thought he was a boy. I have to back for several other ultrasounds due to a virus my first son contracted and passed to me. I know I should be more concerned about the well-being of my unborn baby, but the the thought of having 3 boys starts to put me in a deep depression. I go next Thursday for another ultrasound and have been saying prayers that this one is a girl. I feel so guilty saying that.

[muls]

3hmom - fingers crossed you get your girl :fingerscrossed:

[MummyStar]

They have been wrong before.
If you can afford to I would go & have a 3D ultrasound done to find out bub's gender & ask them what to look for & to show you exactly what they find until you can see it for yourself. All the best.
I Love having Two Boys, they are so Gorgeous & Cuddly...We all have our reasons for what we desire. We don't have any Boys in our Family, I have one older sister & our father died when I was 3 so I had a desire to have a Mother/Son relationship since I missed out on having a relationship with my Dad & My Sister has 2 daughters.

[bunnymum]

Hello Ladies,

I'm back! So i had my 22 wk scan yesterday and my OB pointed out it was a BOY because i was shown a scrotum and a 'penis'! I think I'm over my gender disappointment already, maybe i'm just having prenatal stress at the moment being overwhelmed by so much pressure and expectations from my surrounding from the beginning that i forgot how important it is to have a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby.

I've attached the potty shot from my OB. I've shown this around to some of my girlfriends but they said the pic is too blurry and cannot justify if it's a boy or not, as much as i'd like to hope for it to be a girl, but i clearly saw some portruding bits that scream out boy. You can see in the pic that the scrotum is the round thing between the thighs and the penis tip is floating there (does not look like it's attached!). However, i trust my OB with my whole heart because she's a very exp OB and those boy bits appeared right before my eyes when i saw it on the screen. Please have a look and let me know what you think. I'm happy with a boy, but a girl would be a very big surprise!

I find it really funny (and strange), that every fibre in me is still screaming for a girl, including that of OWTs and gender prediction things that indicate all GIRL, only u/s that screams BOY. Even last night i had another girl dream. Strange, i thought i had let go my gender disappointment!

Pic:
http://s67.photobucket.com/albums/h285/choccyb/?action=view&current=IMG_0446.jpg (http://s67.photobucket.com/albums/h285/choccyb/?action=view&current=IMG_0446.jpg)

some poeple have commented how blurry it is, but i swear these are boy bits, now i cannot go against scientific proof as much as i'd like to deny it!