anyone have a child with odd?

[mum of 3]

my ds(4yo) is going to be assessed for odd as well as other behavior desorders he is very violent and there is no talking to him ever. We have tried behavior reward charts time out time in sending him to his room taking things away talking through what is upseting him we have tried everything we can think of the ONLY thing that works is restraining him in our arms till the anger goes without talking . Im really out of ideas on how to help him and my younger dd's are copping the brunt of it by him hurting them . Anyone have any tips advice or ways to deal with a very violent 4yo

[Sheer Bliss]

I don't have any advice on how to deal with the behaviour sorry, but I was wondering if you have tried a diet change to see if that makes a difference to his behaviour? DS (now 3) is on the failsafe diet. We have eliminated as many artificial colours/flavours and preservatives from his diet that we can. He is a different boy, completely. He still has his moments like any kid, but the hitting and craziness that used to happen regularly is now only occassionaly, and I can talk to him now whereas I couldn't before.

There is a boy in DD's kindergarten class who has recently had a diet change, he had been diagnosed with ADHD, and since the diet change he has been a different boy, and got an award at assembly first week back for good behaviour.

Google fed up with additives - lots of great information on the failsafe diet there.

[mum of 3]

yes we have prety strict diets hear my dd's are alergic to most foods so we dont have many packaged foods hear and the ones we do dont have any nasty additives we make everything fron scratch so i nkow what goes into it . He does have treats etc but only when we go to parts and to my mums on the odd occasion but they dont seem to make him any worse

[Mum2MarNell]

My dd was initially diagnosed as having ODD but now is diagnosed as having Aspergers (I believe that the ODD was a manifestation of her anxiety and frustration from the Aspergers).
I do feel for you it is very hard having an oppositional child. I would recommend reading 'the explosive child'

http://www.amazon.com/Explosive-Child-Understanding-Frustrated-Chronically/dp/0060931027

This book was one of the few that actually spoke to me as a parent - and I have lent it to teachers in the past who have commented after reading it that it had totally changed their perspective on dd's behaviour.

Happy for you to message me if you need to chat.