DP wants to circ - I'm against it

[Tieko]

I have to say, this is the only parenting issue that me and DP don't agree on...and unfortunately it's an important one! I'm aware this can be a hot topic but I would really appreciate advice, particularly from those who have found themselves in a similar situation. I'm am currently pregnant with my third bub (DP's first) and we aren't finding out the sex till birth...so it's really something we need to discuss and get sorted now 'just in case' it's a boy! I am hoping for a girl just to avoid the topic to be honest! :o If we have a boy, Dp has said that he would like him to be circed for the usual reasons - to be like dad, all his family are done, hygiene, and he also thinks its the cause of his great sexual performance and 'lasting longer' :D I on the other hand don't believe in circing boys, mainly because it is an unneccessary surgery, it doens't give the child choice, and also because my two boys from a previous marriage aren't circed...which I think may be stange for a little boy to see his brothers are different to him! We've both really just stated our preferences and left it at that. I've considered just not mentioning it or bringing it up again if bub is born and is a boy...and hope he forgets about it, as there is less chance he'd want to get it done once bub is past the newborn stage, but on the other hand I think maybe we should discuss it. I'm very against circing, but I don't know how to let DP know that I REALLY dont' want to get bub done...without insulting him or offending him (being circed himself!) So far I
ve only really used the "it costs a lot of money" and "harldy any doctors will do it these days" cards. Just wondering if anyone has been in a similar position - how do you resolve it?

[Nowhere]

if you cant agree its the perfect oputunity to tell your DH ok, lets give ds the deciding vote when he is old enough :)

[susieq1969]

if you cant agree its the perfect oputunity to tell your DH ok, lets give ds the deciding vote when he is old enough :)

Just what I was going to say :yes:

[Guest1234]

if you cant agree its the perfect oputunity to tell your DH ok, lets give ds the deciding vote when he is old enough :)

:iagree: Its the perfect decision maker :D

[Bnbub]

I had exactly the same problem!! My points were hygiene has nothing to do with it in this day and age. Girls are just as likely to get an infection as much as boys.
And the other point was it's giving ur child unnecessary truama and I would physically try not to let my husband let my son be hurt. Ur baby has a raw sore on his penis that has to sit in urine until it heals....

I have to admit I told my husband if for some reason he got Our son done I would leave the house and not have anything to do with it until it was fixed becuase I wanted no part in it. If our son wanted to get it done he could when he was 18.

Thankgoodness myhusband saw how much it upset me to even think about getting our boy done so he gave in.

Thankgoodness we're pretty sure we're having a girl!!

Goodluck to u!!

[MothersMilk]

I had the same problem (and started a thread just like this one - maybe search it as it had some good replies. the thread is in this section and is called When a couple don't agree - sorry i don't know how to link it).
In the end we researched together - both pros and cons, so i wasn't just dismissing DH's views, and discussed at great length why i didn't want it and why DH did. In the end we could not agree so made the choice to not do it.
As it turned we had a little girl :laughing:

[Bellini]

Yep, i'm with Amy - if you can't agree then let your darling boy decide for himself.

I'm interested by the 'lasting longer' comment though - are you or your partner aware of why that is the case?

[Tieko]

thanks for the great advice girls, I will definatley bring up those points with DP...and mothers milk I'm off ot take a look at your thread now if I can find it!

[mordygordy]

I always think of it as you are not going to remove his tonsils or appendix incase they get infected so why do that to him. I didn't have the problem myself we both agreed or we never really discussed it and it never got bought up.

[xkwzit]

Here is a link (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=330256) to MM's thread. Enjoy :)

[Roopee]

Show him some youtube video's of it being done- that ought to sway his opinion your way....:D