i cant cope anymore

[MeeG]

I hate hearing people say how much they enjoyed there pregnancy, im so bitter, my ex has made it hell for me ive done it all by myslef and paid for every last thing myself, he didnt help with names but didnt mind bagging them out, he always has to start fights and brag that oh u better not have the baby this week end me and my mates are going to the gold coast again, its been so hard for me and he gets all the benefits at the end and he hasnt done anything its not fair, why does he have to ruin it i hate him and i get so depressed cause i know he gonna try and make me miserable for the rest of my life:crying: i cant do this anymore, i jus feel so depressed and cant stop crying and its not fair for my kid

[Mum2Bug]

Oh sweetie.:hugs: :hugs: In some ways I know how you feel. Although my ex wasn't a P***k about things during my pregnancy, he didn't help with choosing a name, then in front of everyone tells me he hated the middle name I had picked, didn't contribute towards the cost of anything and when I asked him to, he offered to get stuff second hand or told me to use his older daughters stuff (i dont think so mate).

His bragging is just his way of annoying you as he knows you will react and he loves what he gets from that. Dont worry, those trips will soon stop when he starts having to pay his share. The best thing you can do for yourself and your that little one at the moment is ignore your ex as he is only stressing you out. He seems to have made it quite obvious where his priorities are at the moment.

I know its hard but you need to relax and start enjoying your pregnancy. Dont let him bully you and make it hard for you. Carrying your child and bringing it into the world is the most amazing feeling anyone can have. And I want that for you.

Feel free to pm/msn me is you would like to chat more! And dont forget we are all here for you.

[Sarak7]

Hey MeeG. :wave:

:( That just broke my heart!! :(

I know you are hurting... i can relate with everything you just mentioned in your post.
He is a very selfish guy who is only thinking about 1 person, *HIMSELF*

Have you thought about what you are going to do in regards to child support, visitation and stuff like that?

I know it doesn't seem like much when your feeling down right sh*t
but i fink your gonna be a great mumma...

You don't need, and definately don't deserve someone as immature as him stuffing you around and playing with your emotions especially not when your so close to delivering Chelsea.

Stuff him when he tells you not to deliver this week because he'll be at the coast.
You have bubba when you and bub are ready not when sperm donor tells you to. (sorry, no offence!!)

It's gonna be alright :yes: You are a great gal, you'll be an awesome single mummy.. and your gonna meet a great guy that makes you very happy.

I hope you don't mind me asking but do you still love him?


"Anyone can be a father, but it takes a man to be dad."

[MeeG]

You have bubba when you and bub are ready not when sperm donor tells you to. (sorry, no offence!!)

lol yep definatly i hope it does come this weekend atleast then i wont have to put up with him, i jus get depressed cause i know hes gon be around for a while anyways, i seeing legal aid tonight about what goes on about his visits and stuff and no i definatly dont love him it took me awhile to get over him but i jus realised how could i love someone who can treat me like that?

[SamanthaJane]

i jus realised how could i love someone who can treat me like that?

Hmm... who knows really :(

Sorry his being such a jerk... :hugs: But dont be nice to him just because you want to try and "make peace" or something. Don't think that you "have" to be nice to him because you've got a child with him IYKWIM?

If he treats you like sh!t, treat him like sh!t back. You's aren't together anymore, so there is nothing to lose really. If he doesnt want to play a part then that is HIS problem, not yours. It may be hard now, but he is the one that is going to wake up one day and realise what he *could* have had.

From the outside, to me it sounds like he obviously has it in his head that no matter how badly he treats you, it doesnt really matter, because at the end of the day your still going to keep in contact with him.

Well, give him a wake up call, just tell him to get stuffed. And DONT let him back unless he really is sorry and really does want to play a part. Remember, you know him better than any of us!

Your daughter is your priority now, not this twit :hugs:

[Sarak7]

I hope she comes this weekend 2. :)

You'll see just how beautifull YOUR baby girl is, and when she's in your arms you'll forget about the grief he's been causing you throughout your pregnancy.

yeh he'll prob be around for a while... so tell him straight out to stop treating you like cr*p and start respecting you as a person and as a mother.

Stand up to him girl, don't let him pull you down.
(Perhaps note down things he says to you and the way he treats you) these notes could become very handy in the future.


It's great you don't still love him, and your so right about you loving
someone that treats you bad.

Goodluck with Legal Aid tonight:fingerscrossed:

Let us know how it goes:thumbsup:

[munchkin05]

good luck with everything

just want to give you lots and lots :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

i know they have helped me out

[moomoosmummy]

hey just wanted to say:hugs:

[me&mine]

Love to ya :hugs: Concerntrate on yourself, dont worry about him. He might grow up one day, he might not. So you just gotta enjoys yourself as much as you can, you cant change someone else but you can change yourself!

Anyway, just wanted to add, there is free Womens legal advise that you can get, just google womens legal services. because you can actually seek financial aid from him for your 'maternity costs' being clothes for yourself, an amout of utility bills, costs for baby etc. that he is required to pay should you seek it. So if he is refusing to offer help, you can demand it from him. And this is an issue to do yourself, go stratight to child support agency who'll collect it on your behalf.

Good luck.