Holidays

[robsgirl]

My ex and i have a parenting agreement that says that if we take dd1 on holidays up the coast or down the coast or interstate that we need to let the other parent know that they are not in Brisbane.

The ex has asked for to have holidays with dd1 in June which is fine and i asked if they were going away or staying in Brisbane as dd1 will have swimming lessons .

I haven't heard any reply for about a month and thought oh well maybe just staying in Brisbane. Today i get an email organizing about drop off/pick up this weekend as its a long weekend and i sent one back and asked about the holidays i got a quick reply back that said they were going away but did not say where. So i sent an email back reminding him about parenting agreement, but i am quite suspicious that it was dd1's step mother using ex's email address as it didn't have who it was from usually he says his name at the end of each email and it was in the middle of the day when he is usually to busy to reply to me for anything.

It also has been weird that ex says he sent me an email about something and i say i haven't got it or i say i sent an email and he said he hasn't got it. SO im just a bit suspicious that dd1 step mother is mucking around with the emails as sometimes she will let me know about some things using ex's email address and signs with her name.

So just wondering do other people know if their kids are taken interstate or up or down the coast when on holidays with the ex.

[RmumR]

I like DD's dad to let me know where she is going to be when she is staying with him. Its every parents right to know where their child is especially if they are going away.

Seeing as it is in the parenting agreement its a requirement that he has to meet. if you don't hear back from him via email, call him and ask whats going on.

You can't really stop his partner from accessing his email as that side is not your business really....am sure he'll find out about all that eventually.

[liesel]

I am a step mum.

I expect and would not question that I have to let biomum know when we are leaving town even if its a couple of hours drive... it a common courtesy.

I am very disapointed in your ex's DP if thats the game she is playing... she gives us all a bad name.

My step kids biomum is not so forth coming which does mine and DP's head in, but sometimes its easier not to argue about silly stuff like pick up and drop off times.

My step kids are Euro citizens. Mum is English and Dad is Scottish because his mum was born their, both are Aussie citizens. His ex is taking the kids to NZ,( so we have been told, but we are terrified that she ias actaully leaving the country, which she has threatened before) but we dont want to stop the kids going to NZ "skiing" if thats thew real reason because what an oportunity for them. Something we cant afford.

As step mum,. I do 99.9% of communciations with the kids mum because we can communicate without yelling... DP and Biomum can't. and it ticks me off no end when step mums make it difficult.

No advice only goodluck.. :hugs::hugs::hugs:

[HowCrazyCool]

In this house Dp and ex make the decisions then i come in and orgainse it all. Because they are hopeless and never actually have "set times/plans" annoys me no end.
I would tell her that if she wants to send you emails that is fine but it has to be on her OWN account not his. There is no accountability in her doing it on his account. He contacts you on his or she on hers. And he should just take the time to do it himself.

We usually tell Ex what we are doing when she drops dsd off. After Xmas ex went away for about a week with her new partner and his kid, we couldn't contact her at all. She didn't even ring to say we were having dsd for the 2 times were spose to that week. Ex's mum had to tell us she had gone to the mountains. :no:

[Benji]

Maybe try calling him to confirm if you get emails from him just to make sure he gets the message and it's actually him replying.

I usually call my ex if there is to be any changes in plans, and I actually have to ask him 3 + times to make sure he's got the right dates/times etc :rolleyes:

[someday]

Yes of cause he should tell you what his plans are!

Perhaps try calling him before making assumtions.