Its Just Not Working!

[Jem]

Hi Guys...

Just need to Off load...

This co-sleeping/BF is getting worse, not better!!

My 14 and a half month Old Seems to want boob all the time, I feel like im waking atleast 12 times a night...
He cant be thirsty... Only wants it for comfort???

Ive tried to offer him bottle instead.. but he pushes it away and screams, until i give in,..
Im completely at wits end here!!! Is it possible to wean whilst continuing to co-sleep, or would i be better off putting him in his own bed?

DD was FF, and DS1 self weaned at 11 months.....

Help Pleaseeee...

Thanks in advance ;)

[Karizma]

Oh Hun... you sound exsausted and stressed you poor thing :hugs:
Has he got a favorite teddy that he can put in bad with him, or a special blanket. Does he have a colourful blanket on his bed??
Thats all I can suggest sorry, but I hope someone has the answer that works for you :fingerscrossed:

[Rainbowbrite]

Jem, we stopped bf through the night about 2 months ago, & we still co-sleep. So yes, it can be done, but it was hard i wont lie. I'll pm you :hugs:

[Fitmumma]

My son was exactly the same we co-slept & B/F & he was waking me about a dozen times a night also-just to use ME as a dummy, when he was 9months old I had had enough so I decided one day that I was not offering the breast again so he would have to have the bottle, weaning him just wouldnt have worked as he used me as a dummy all the time, so I stopped B/F all together & he took to the bottle straight away, we continued co-sleeping until he was two with no problems.
I just felt I had to give up B/F with my DS as he was hanging off me all the time & I wasnt enjoying B/F anymore at all, I felt like a DUMMY!!!
Good luck, i'm sure no matterwhat you decide to do it will be the best thing for you both.:)

[Jem]

Thanks Girls, and thanks for the PM RB :hugs:

He has No problem with having a bottle During the day... Night time is a completely different story!

He now has me BF and after he has had enough i have to move around in bed so that the motion sends him back to sleep... Boy does he have me figured out!

[meme]

i weaned my second dd off night feeds and continued to co sleep. she would cry at first but i would offer her a drink, yes she sometimes just screamed and didn't want it and then i would cuddle her if she would let me and after a little while she just realised that i would only bfd her in the daytime.

i also prepared her by explaining that it had to be morning time and then she could feed and we talked about things that you do in the daytime and that night times are for sleeping.

i had also just reached a point where i had had enough, she was over 12mths but less than 16mths (can't remember exactly anymore...:( )

i will be trying the same thing again soon with my current LO.....:fingerscrossed:

[Jem]

i had also just reached a point where i had had enough, she was over 12mths but less than 16mths (can't remember exactly anymore...:( )



:yes: I have definitley reached that point!! Seems To be the more i give in the harder im making it for bub and myself..

[Desertress]

Hey Hun, i dont really have any helpful advice but i wanted to let you know that im going through the same sort of thing with chase to. I dont co-sleep.... he was never interested but he does wake me up 4-5 times a night to have a quick feed then go back to sleep. The only thing with him is because he isnt eating a decent dinner i dont know if he's actually hungry or not.

Goodluck i hope you work it out soon and are able to get a decent nights sleep.:fingerscrossed:

[meme]

the good thing i found about reducing feeds overnight (and i later began to reduce feeds during the day while i was pregnant) was that i felt so much happier to feed her the rest of the time, when i did.
i really wanted the remaining feeds to be enjoyable and not me resenting her. and it allowed me to continue to feed her until 24mths wich was my *goal* time, even though i was gradually reducing feeds.

it can be really hard at first. i liked to reassure myself that i was still providing the option of a drink if she was thirsty and cuddles if she needed security. i would also get through any crying by going a minute at a time, and sometimes just when i felt i was about to give in she would suddenly settle and go back to sleep:rolleyes:

good luck with it.

[Jem]

YAY!

Last Night, DS2 went the whole night with no boob!

I offered him a bottle each time he was unsettled.. i had to wake about 3-4 times, But that was ok with me, it was worth it!!!

Im proud of my little guy, and proud of myself :thumbsup:

[meme]

yay:smiliedance: .

i am being inspired. very soon it will be our turn i think.....:fingerscrossed: .

[Rainbowbrite]

Thats great Jem :thumbsup: