I can't be the only one. Right?

[mum2bubba]

Who else here is a lazy sahm at times? Days where you don't start doing housework until 4 in the afternoon, you only get the kids dressed if its absolutely necassary (sp), only do one load of washing and then leave the basket full of clean clothes in the laundry for 2 days before folding them and putting them away, making beds half ar$ed (not even fixing the sheets underneath), having a quick and easy dinner cos you don't feel like cooking?

Surely it's not just me.

I have days where I can be lazy and hardly do anything (though even on my lazy days I still do things) and other days where I can spend a whole day off and on cleaning everything. Some days I like cleaning other days I can't be f@cked.

You?

[kribby]

I won't be a sahm for much longer but yep your not alone!! I was only thinking this today when DH and I were doing the major clean of the house thinking I really should be the one doing this because I'm home all day (I think he was thinking it a bit too) but he and I soon realised how impossible it would be because as soon as DD woke up she wanted one of us around the whole time (the new phase she's going through) so it made me feel a lot better when DH said man I don't know how you do this everyday :)
I mean I still do the bottles and get dinner ready 99% of the time and make the bed etc and keep the place in order but to do the massive clean on my own would be near impossible and I totally have a CBF attitude some days :)

[bunkx]

i have them days at least twice i week:p, i never used to but lately i have been i think its normal and helps us recharge :D

the only problem is on the days im lazy everyone seem to pop in for a visit :hair:

[crazymuma]

I'm in between.

Every day I get up and clean the house roughly - everything in its place, washing on, beds made and floors done. I can't handle not having these things done.

I am terrible at folding and ironing clothes. They can honestly sit in a pile for a week (or more) and then I have a day of energy and do them all.

My gardens are constantly overrun with weeds - again I have a day of getting it perfect then couldn't be bothered for the next month.

I have many lazy nights where I couldn't be bothered cooking - thank god for frozen food :laughing:

I wasn't designed to be a housewife at all :D

I have a friend who spends a minimum of 3 hours cleaning/folding and ironing daily. On top of that she has a set job every day - eg clean wall, dust whole house, clean bathroom etc etc.
She cooks her partner a hot breakfast every morning. She cooks the kids dinner and has it on the table by 6 then cooks a full meal for her husband to have on the table by 8pm. She then cleans the kitchen while he rests :rolleyes:
Her gardens are absolutly perfect and I swear she never gets tired.
She is a strange species that one :D

[D&M]

Me! Some days I just do bare minimum LOL

[WotWillBWillB]

That would be me! I am really bad at it sometimes. I really need motivation some days. I wish i was better at making everything clean and spotless allllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll the time Like mil (as dh wishes i was) but don't know how to do it.

I feel when ever the twin's are awake i am being pulled bewteen them.

It gets me down and makes things hard some days between dh and i. :crying:

[peanutbutter&jelly]

Def not the only one. DD wore her wondersuit all day today, DS wore whatever DF put him in when he got up with him at 6 (before he left to go away with work at 9.00, waking me at 8.45 :D)
And I *wish* I had energy like crazymuma's friend. But I'm just so not that person!!! I'm a crafty, disorganised mess :D

[mum2bubba]

I'm in between.

Every day I get up and clean the house roughly - everything in its place, washing on, beds made and floors done. I can't handle not having these things done.

I am terrible at folding and ironing clothes. They can honestly sit in a pile for a week (or more) and then I have a day of energy and do them all.

My gardens are constantly overrun with weeds - again I have a day of getting it perfect then couldn't be bothered for the next month.

I have many lazy nights where I couldn't be bothered cooking - thank god for frozen food :laughing:

I wasn't designed to be a housewife at all :D



haha, this is me pretty much. I am not one to cook meals from scratch (Grant does sometimes though) so I just get a frozen lasange or whatever, whack it in the oven with some vegies and that's dinner (though we have recently got a slow cooker so have been having a few meals from that) I can also leave piles and piles of washing (clean clothes) in the laundry until I have enough energy to fold them and put them away. I make beds every day, do dishes every day and vaccuum every day (even though some days I don't do these things til late afternoon)

[Pinkzy]

I definitely have at least 2-3 days like this during the week. On those days the bed doesn't get made, the washing doesn't get hung out until the next morning and I usually end up making a quick and easy (usually frozen) dinner :D

[Leisa21]

I'm a SAHM not a house keeper. I care for our son so As long as he's fed, clothed and happy I've done my job. The rest DH And I get done while Aidan sleeps or DH does it with DS while I rest.

[crazymuma]

Can I ask those of you who are partnered (just out of curiosity) how your patners react to the house not being perfect or dinner not being a huge deal. Do they expect you to do everything??

[WotWillBWillB]

mine yes. He expects me to be exactly like his mother.

I have slowly gotten him used to dinner not being ready all the time and will now sometimes call to ask is there anything i need for dinner on his way home from work.

[Leisa21]

My husband doesn't expect anything from me. If he comes home and the house is a mess he assumes we've had too much fun, been too busy or too overwhelmed. Either way he suggests take away or going out and then cleans the house.

[MermaidSister]

I really had to bite my tongue when at my sister's recently to see her darling husband doing sweet f* all while she ran around trying to keep the entire house together and look after the kids at the same time, although it was his day off. He has this "Why should i help" attitude, and apparently said to someone else that since he works so hard (4 days a week) he is really tired when at home so can't possibly help with the housework.

She works casually as well but apparently that doesn't count.

This kind of attitude in some partners with SAH or semi-SAH wives really ****es me off i have to say.

[mum2bubba]

Can I ask those of you who are partnered (just out of curiosity) how your patners react to the house not being perfect or dinner not being a huge deal. Do they expect you to do everything??

Grant doesn't say anything about the housework but he does joke about dinner not being made or me doing a "lazy dinner" some nights. Some times he has rolled his eyes at not having dinner ready but then he'll just make himself some cheese on toast or we'll have take away.

If he came home and started going at me for not cleaning the house then I'd yell at him and tell him to get off his bum and help me (actually I have said this to him on a weekend when we've both been home)

[Blueberry Crumble]

I am shocking when it comes to putting a load of washing on, then cbf/forget to hang it out, and have to re-wash it the next day. I have occasionally done this two times in a row with the same load! Eeeek.

The women of 1950's would look down on me with disgust. I have a machine that does it all and I still cant seem to get it righT!

[peanutbutter&jelly]

Can I ask those of you who are partnered (just out of curiosity) how your patners react to the house not being perfect or dinner not being a huge deal. Do they expect you to do everything??

He doesn't expect it, he just doesn't realise :o :laughing:
Like if I wasn't there, he'd figure out eventually that DS needed dinner (probably an hour late and it would be toast or scrambled eggs, but it would get done) because he never does dinner.
He doesn't expect me to do lunch or dinner, because when I started feeling like he was, I stopped doing it. Then he started appreciating what I was doing and *suddenly* dinner reappeared in the fridge for him every night (he works afternoon/evening shift).
As for the cleaning... he's shocking at doing it, but helps where he can. He has no motivation, but doesn't expect me to do it either.
He's pretty good, I think anyway

[delirium]

I have to say I rarely have lazy days. But that's only bc when I do, I have double the work the next day and it's just not worth it.

[crazymuma]

I am shocking when it comes to putting a load of washing on, then cbf/forget to hang it out, and have to re-wash it the next day. I have occasionally done this two times in a row with the same load! Eeeek.

The women of 1950's would look down on me with disgust. I have a machine that does it all and I still cant seem to get it righT!


:laughing::laughing: I washed the same load 3 times this weekend!!

[Bellini]

I'm in between.

Every day I get up and clean the house roughly - everything in its place, washing on, beds made and floors done. I can't handle not having these things done.

I am terrible at folding and ironing clothes. They can honestly sit in a pile for a week (or more) and then I have a day of energy and do them all.

My gardens are constantly overrun with weeds - again I have a day of getting it perfect then couldn't be bothered for the next month.

I have many lazy nights where I couldn't be bothered cooking - thank god for frozen food :laughing:

I wasn't designed to be a housewife at all :D

I have a friend who spends a minimum of 3 hours cleaning/folding and ironing daily. On top of that she has a set job every day - eg clean wall, dust whole house, clean bathroom etc etc.
She cooks her partner a hot breakfast every morning. She cooks the kids dinner and has it on the table by 6 then cooks a full meal for her husband to have on the table by 8pm. She then cleans the kitchen while he rests :rolleyes:
Her gardens are absolutly perfect and I swear she never gets tired.
She is a strange species that one :D

Erm, WOW. Your friend makes me feel slightly unproductive :laughing:

I have my days. Some days I am pretty energetic and will get a lot done. The other days I won't do much at all. It doesn't help that DH gets up me for cleaning and cooking, he thinks that because I have to look after DS all day I should just use any spare time for myself. Sometimes I take him up on that :D

[Bellini]

I am shocking when it comes to putting a load of washing on, then cbf/forget to hang it out, and have to re-wash it the next day. I have occasionally done this two times in a row with the same load! Eeeek.

The women of 1950's would look down on me with disgust. I have a machine that does it all and I still cant seem to get it righT!

:laughing: I am SO glad i'm not the only one who does that!!!! I often forget to hang clothes out and then have to re-wash them :o It's such as waste of water but I truly just forget about it. I often think of my great-grandmother who had to wash everything by hand...she would be rolling in her grave if she knew!

[Mrs Molly Coddle]

Yep I have lots of days like that!! If I have too many in a row though I start to feel really, really seedy because DH is just as lazy as I am and he won't pick up the slack, so have to DO something about it all before i start getting depressed.



Can I ask those of you who are partnered (just out of curiosity) how your patners react to the house not being perfect or dinner not being a huge deal. Do they expect you to do everything??


No he doesn't expect me to do everything, but he doesn't want to do it either (lazy) so it's always a bit of a battle. He would never, ever, ever say anything about the house being untidy, dinner not cooked etc. :no:
He has his job. He is a health care worker.
I have my job. I'm a SAHM.
As far as I'm concerned, we should share the housework, but it all depends how we are feeling. If he has a crappo day at work, I won't bug him to wash up. If I've had a crappo day at home, I excuse myself to lay down with my book while HE does the washing up.

[Thermolicious]

:wave: yep over here! When DF is away I swing between being really tidy and a bit more slobbish depending on if I have been woken up 2 or 10 times a night. I generally spend the day that DF is home on a cleaning-tidying frenzie to distract myself from clock watching.


Can I ask those of you who are partnered (just out of curiosity) how your patners react to the house not being perfect or dinner not being a huge deal. Do they expect you to do everything??

DF doesn't care when he is not here he does a 9 days on 5 days off roster FIFO, it's not really his problem if I can't be arsed doing anything, it does upset him if I am having a hard time with the boys and can't get the basics done because he is not here to help. He doesn't expect me to serve him when he is home :no: well he wouldn't want too :shame:

[NonnyMouse]

I could be considered lazy... I do what I want, when I want, and as long as there's dinner on the table and DS is fed and happy, then DP doesn't care if I spend all day on my bum doing nothingn much.

I tend to have a lot of lazy days where the laundry builds up, the lounge gets messy etc... but after a week or thereabouts I'll have a day where I do nothing all day but clean, tidy, and fix stuff around the house.

I'd probably be better off if I did it in dribs and drabs, but it's just not the way I do things.

[kribby]

Can I ask those of you who are partnered (just out of curiosity) how your patners react to the house not being perfect or dinner not being a huge deal. Do they expect you to do everything??

Hell no! :) he is more of a house wife than me! I think the dinner thing annoys him if it's really late but only because he's hungry but he doesn't expect me to cook either he'll sometimes get home and cook dinner if I've had a big day etc but let's face it I'm definitely the better cook :laughing: if it's left overs he'll chuck the veges on to steam and heat it up but if it needs cooking he'll help if it's not done already! As I said in my initial reply we do the major clean of the house together and we take turns doing the washing! I'll do the days dishes and he'll do the dinner dishes most of the time. I must say I'm pretty damn lucky! A lot of my friends partners aren't like him! I found my needle in the haystack!

[Thermolicious]

:wave: yep over here! When DF is away I swing between being really tidy and a bit more slobbish depending on if I have been woken up 2 or 10 times a night. I generally spend the day that DF is heading home on a cleaning-tidying frenzie to distract myself from clock watching.


Can I ask those of you who are partnered (just out of curiosity) how your patners react to the house not being perfect or dinner not being a huge deal. Do they expect you to do everything??

DF doesn't care when he is not here he does a 9 days on 5 days off roster FIFO, it's not really his problem if I can't be arsed doing anything, it does upset him if I am having a hard time with the boys and can't get the basics done because he is not here to help. He doesn't expect me to serve him when he is home :no: well he wouldn't want too :shame: and it always turns out our house is messier with him here :confused:

[Bellini]

Can I ask those of you who are partnered (just out of curiosity) how your patners react to the house not being perfect or dinner not being a huge deal. Do they expect you to do everything??

DH really encourages me not to clean or cook. He sees the SAHM role as a challenging and time consuming job in itself, so he doesn’t believe I should be doing house chores on top of it during the day. I still clean regardless, but it certainly isn't expected.

[moozle]

Df is really understanding. I do most thongs for ds and myself and df often does his own washing etc. We both take responsibility for the housework but I probably do a lot more because I'm generally home more and it bothers me more too!

[Lily of the Nile]

I'm thinking tomorrow will be one of those days! It's after midnight already and I'm still up and ds has been up twice already. I have so much to do tomorrow, but can't be ****ed:sleeping:
Dh can expect me to be like his mum, but I'm pretty sure he doesn't remember what she was like when he was a baby, only when all her kids were at school and she had 8 hours a day to herself! When that day comes and I'm still getting nothing done, I'll admit I'm lazy:D

[Mathermy]

Generally things are tidy and clean because i can't relax otherwise. I think being at home if i was to do nothing around the house i would feel overwhelmed and depressed, cause it's me that has to be in a dirty house all day long! I don't see it as "my job" though, :rolleyes: and TBh DH is a far more tidier person than I am.


When i have an assignment due though I basically go on strike! I will sit there and work in the one place for like 5 hours straight and when dh is home he will deal with the house chores and bring me cuppas and snacks, bless.

[~Candy~]

Yes, I have my lazy days where I have no motivation untill the afternoon, then I'll get into it and clean up. I can't start dinner in a messy kitchen..lol!

[Mum2MarNell]

Yes - I can be a lazy SAHM - but then I could be a lazy working mum too when I was working...
So I try not to feel guilty about it... Although I must do some housework today :o

[Mum2Mimi]

I always do atleast one load of washing a day but then it generally sits in the basket for 2-3days before being folded

somdays i dont make the beds either but thats about the extent of my lazyness lol

every morning we get up have breaky then we water the garden

come back inside turn cartoons on and ill do the dishes,wipe benches & do a general tidy up of toys or watever laying around put them back in their places while DD watches telly

[Eco Goddess]

I'm only new to this whole SAHM thing, but I do tend to have my lazy days. Having said that I am a bit of a neat/organisation freak so by the end of the day the house is always clean and tidy.

DP definitely doesnt expect it though! We both share the housework... he does the yards (mowing, weeding etc) and has done stacks of renovations, plus we usually cook dinner together (he's a better cook!) and while I wash up/stack dishwasher, he clears the table and feeds the dog.

I *try* to do all the stuff around the house before I get lazy and fiddle around on here or watch telly! But it just depends on what DS is up to!

[justmum]

I must be a freak :o we never have PJ days here and I do at least 4 hours of housework (incl cooking, cleaning, gardening and laundry) in a 24 period every day (well except weekends when we just do less and DH chips in too so maybe an hour - 2 hours in 24 hours then).

Shopping is on top of this!

I never really thought this was excessive and I am really careful not to use the tv too much (these days :D) or do too much when the children are needing attention / structure.

Maybe I should scale it back a bit. No wonder I am always on the move - I never sit down or relax!

[mum2bubba]

justmum: I def have days when I can clean and clean all day but some days I can't be stuffed. ;)

[missmilliesmum]

I can definately be a lazy SAHM! Especially since being pregnant again! It's like this baby has sucked all the 'get up and go' out of me! :laughing:

I have days where I don't do much, but then I have motivated days where I get alot done!

I had OCD when DD was a wee baby! I used to keep such a clean house, bake, cook and still have energy! This is no longer the case!

It doesn't help that I now have a 20 Month old DD that is like a tornado!!! I used to tidy the whole house while she slept, only for her to trash it again when she woke up! Now I just leave it until she goes to bed and DH and I do it together

I should point out that I was also working 4 days a fortnight (4 in a row too) until last week as a nurse, so on my feet and very busy for those 4 days!

I am VERY lucky that my DH is fantastic! Like Bellini's DH, he thinks I do enough just running after DD! He constantly tells me to take it easy and tells me off if I do too much! Bare in mind that I am 7 1/2 Months pregnant though!
But seriously he is amazing. he works a full day, comes home, feeds DD dinner, baths her and puts her to bed. He will then tidy the house, go to the shops if necessary, all whilst insisting that I put my feet up!

I do cook dinner every night, but only because I CAN cook! DH regularly offers, but he's not much chop in the kitchen, so I prefer to anyway.

Yes, I realise how lucky I am :D! Don't know where DH gets it from though! He comes from a very traditional family and MIL is disgusted at the amount that he does to help around the house, but meh, that's just her :p!

[lemongrass]

nope. absolutely not.

i am worse..:o

our spare room is a pile of mountain of unfolded clothes of seven days...:o

some days i just cooked noddle soup ( i boiled noodle, put half seasoning, put veggies; well carrots and celeries) and cooked them and give to ds with some steam rice:o.

then i eat apple and banana to survive the day, then sms DH telling him i am not cooking so he'll be prepared to look after himself:D

there are days when me and ds spend time watching dvds back to back then out to food court then go home watch tv again. (without doing housework; only bath, brush teeth and change clothes:o)

i could go on and on..

[Mum2MarNell]

Well I must be really bad reading that some of you ladies think it is lazy when you don't make the beds 'properly' - I have a confession I rarely make the kids beds, only when putting on fresh linen, as if they can't pull a doona up themselves then I am not doing it (although my kids are 9 and 11 so they well should be able to do that).
I had also trained both to use the top loading washing machine, but now we have a twin tub I just find it easier to do it myself... :ecomcity:

Yes our house is less than pristine, but I figure at least my kids will grow up knowing that it doesn't just 'stay that way' IYKWIM.

[aquaserene80]

Who else here is a lazy sahm at times? Days where you don't start doing housework until 4 in the afternoon, you only get the kids dressed if its absolutely necassary (sp), only do one load of washing and then leave the basket full of clean clothes in the laundry for 2 days before folding them and putting them away, making beds half ar$ed (not even fixing the sheets underneath), having a quick and easy dinner cos you don't feel like cooking?

Surely it's not just me.

I have days where I can be lazy and hardly do anything (though even on my lazy days I still do things) and other days where I can spend a whole day off and on cleaning everything. Some days I like cleaning other days I can't be f@cked.

You?

Hi,

Yeh! Some days are sooo fulfilling as i get sooo many chores done, but then there are those days when i cant even be bothered to comb my hair. But, yeh i drag myself thru the day to get the kids fed and taken care of ofcourse.. and have to cook and do basic cleaning. Thought i was the only one ... i feel u... i do.. :)

[zombiekitty]

I have days like that. Hell, I have weeks like that!!

[MamaC]

I'm definately going through a low energy cycle atm, so instead of washing/drying/putting away the usual 2-3 loads of dishes per day, I'm managing just one. And don't get me started on the washing! :freakingout: DH finally hung out a load that had been washed four times :o
Even during low energy cycles I still do about an hour a day of tidying and cleaning otherwise it builds up too much and becomes even more of pain in the ar$e.

As for what DH expects...sadly I have gotten him used to a pretty tidy standard of living, so he notices the mess when he gets home from work if I haven't cleared it up and it does make him grumpy. Thank goodness these low energy cycles don't last too long!

And, just for the record. Thanks for this thread! Made me feel so much better about my lazy couple of days :hugs:

[trishalishous]

not just you!
DD spent two days in pjs, as it was FREEZING here, and we were moving house so she was filthy anyways, no point ruinng a nice outfit!

[bumMum]

ba ha well i am new to this but i can tell i will be lazy. as i already loathed housework before. i make up for it with love though :laughing: I have never seen the job of a stay at home mum as a housekeeper. but I do beleive whoever is home should try to get stuff done when they have time.. thats just a leftover rule from when we were both working. whose home does chores, because otherwise.. well.. they would never get done. dp works long days and it wouldnt be fair if i expected him to come home and scrub the toilet. considering im home with one kid.. who to be fair.. isnt really hard work.. and he does know this so i cant get away with using ds as an excuse! damn it. but im more a clean as you go type gal anyway. i hate to make a big job of housework as it kills me. so i do a small load of washing each day, put away some washing each day.. do the dishes as we eat.. sweep if necessary etc.. I NEVER EVER IRON, but am beginning to think i might take it up. as all our clothes look like they could do with it.
but yeah, im not gonna be one of the stay at home mums with a tidy house. im gonna be one of the mums who likes to go OUT for play dates. :yes:

[Tam-I-Am]

Nup. Never.


But that's because I'm not a SAHM :p When I was, I had plenty of lazy days. Nothin' better than a jammie day!

[BabelFish]

Jeepers Cass your lazy days sound like my busy ones! :laughing:

I think I must be the worst housewife ever.

[Myztiks#1Fan]

right now, my house is sparkling clean literally. i clean from top to bottom today and finished not long ago. i dont clean often. my house is very very very lived in. sometimes i dont do the dishes for 3 days depending on how many i have used for cooking. i dont care if they sit there. same with washing, i will do a load in the machine but too lazy to hang it out so it sits in the machine for a day so i have to rewash it and the cycle goes on with that lol.

i dont care though, we arent unhygenic so meh to people who dont like my lived in mess. plus to get me to do a really super dooper good clean, i have to be in the mood.

my house shall remain clean and very tidy for the next few days but after that once my parents leave, its back to being lazy. i would rather play with coop, sleep and go out than do house work

[HarvestMoon]

When i was a SAHM i had plenty of lazy days. My house was a mess more often then not. I think i just found being at home all the time so boring and demotivating. It was so hard to keep on top of anything.
Now i work 50+ hours a week but seem to do a better job of keeping it clean.

[DailyDiversion]

I work part-time and I still have one lazy day a week.

I actually think it's a sanity saver to have at least one day where I do nothing other than potter around with DD.

I love having a clean house with all the washing up to date but I don't always feel like doing it that's for sure.

DH doesn't care what stage our housework is at, or at least he's never said anything and he chips in when he gets home.

[CrackleNPop]

Don't really have lazy days, when I try too I get bored. I like everything clean and organized all the time. Dh works 6 days a week long hours, but he helps with dinner and dd when he gets home.

[bellalika]

I'm almost exactly the same and thought it was just me. Everyone I've mentioned it to makes me feel like crap and I end up an emotional teary mess. Thank you OP, thank you.


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