Aaaaahhhhhhh

[Veritas]

I love the deep feeling of relief you get when you come to a point where you know what you want, and it just feels right in your core......

I have finally reached a peace with my inner turmoil and realised just how gloriously happy my one and only darling makes me, and how I have absolutely no desire to add to that......

My life is so very complete with my one and only child..... I feel no guilt, no remorse, no anguish, in saying I do not want any more children..... there is no longer any yearning within me, no desire, no cluckiness.... just joy and appreciation of what I have....

Just had to get that out there!

[Leisa21]

That's awesome :) I'm jealous. I really hope I can get to where you are one day. Enjoy your new found happiness.

[Veritas]

That's awesome :) I'm jealous. I really hope I can get to where you are one day. Enjoy your new found happiness.

Thanks.... It's taken a while to get there, and kind of caught me by surprise at first..... But I am just so excited by what the future has to offer, that I know it simply couldn't be any other way..... and it's just "right"!

[the girls mum]

Congrats :D So happy you have come to this point of being happy with that decission.

I am very jealous.

Right now me and DH are doing the "inner turmoil" guilt battle....

We have one beautiful DD who is our life and we love dearly.

I think DH is maybe 80% sure he doesnt need to have another child and is more then happy to enjoy life with DD.

I am 50 / 50 and keep going back and forth and it is doing my head in!! :confused:

On the one hand I would love to have only DD - we would have more time for just her and also she could do lots of things growing up that she may not be able to do if we have another (financially).

Also I found the first 6 months very hard and am ebarrassed to say I didnt really enjoy the "baby" phase :o oh dear that sounds awful. She is at an age now that we LOVE and we are so enjoying it.

THEN i do the whole, but what if I regret it down the track thing, and maybe she should have a sibling (I am very close to my sister and cant think of life without her) and I do get clucky and basically I have always thought I would have 2 - ahhhh sorry I am rambling - but you see our delemia haha.

So it must be awesome to come to the point you are at and just know you have done the right thing for you. :thumbsup: :hugs:

Any advise on how you got to that point?????

[spagbog]

It comes with time. And looking after sisters 5 boys. .... Haha. Have a great day.

[Happy2be3]

Also I found the first 6 months very hard and am ebarrassed to say I didnt really enjoy the "baby" phase :o oh dear that sounds awful. She is at an age now that we LOVE and we are so enjoying it.




Dont feel embarrassed.. I felt that way too.. only I would go as far to say that not only did I not 'really enjoy' the baby phase as you put it.. I tell people that I hated it and they couldnt pay me a million dollers to go back to that first 6 months! :yes:
Some babies are a joy.. some are just grizzly and make their parents lives a living nightmare for a few months.. dont feel embarrassed, at least you have developed a great bond and LOVE the time you have with your child now, as do I.. we all get there eventually:goodvibes:

P.s I am very similar to you on the 'only child' issue.. I always thought I'd have two, but THAT was before I experienced Pregnancy then labor/birth, then post labor care at the hospital, then PND and all that stuff.. and then to top it all off a child with some special needs.. that has just put me right off ever having another one. Doesnt ease that feeling of not wanting DS to be on his own for ever though:gloomy:

[Veritas]

Any advise on how you got to that point?????

I just realised as much as I love motherhood and my little darling.... there are SOOOOOOO many other things I want as part of my life's acheivements, and they will be a darn lot easier with one in toe than more.....

She will have cousins, there's no doubt about that.... and they will be close.... I have a close friend with a baby daughter whom she adores, so she will have children to share her life and grow with, just not in this household....

[naiwen]

I am so happy for you, it's lovely when you know your family is complete.

DS is wonderfull and I love being able to focus on him and his needs, we are so lucky to have him as well.

Only children are awesome!

[Happy2be3]

Veritas - Im sorry.. I was so busy typing to the other mum who commented on your post I forgot to say Congratulations!!

So Congrats for finding your happy place:goodvibes:

[nugglyboysmum]

Isnt it the greatest feeling in the whole wide world!!!

I have recently come to the same realisation. DS is at kindy now, school next year. I am absolutely thoroughly enjoying him now that he is older and more grown up. No nappies, no duimmies, no rocking to sleep etc.

Like you, I have realised that there are just so many other thing I want to do in this lifetime and having more children will really slow me downa nd prevent some of my dream from coming true.

With my one and only, I feel like I have the best of moth worlds. I am a mummy my most treasured job, and I also get to have regular me time, extra disposeable income, dont have to deal with sibling fights and stuff, more room int he house, just so many positives you know.

Great to hear you are in your happy place :)