I cant Decided, HELP!!!!

[viperpt]

Hi all,

I cant decide if I want to have another child,
We have 2 children already that are 5 and 4, I finally got the go ahead with my husband to try and conceive number 3. However I came off the pill at the end of june and have had a fake period and a real period. (which means Im ovualting) we have been trying acorrding to my chart and have baby danced on fertile days. I recently started having second thoughts. I really would love to have another baby but Im scared to be giving up my freedom. Having two teenage pregnancy's. I havnt really lived my life and have grown up really fast now that my kids are older I can do alot more things with them than when they were baby's,Im also able to let them stay at my parents house while my hubby and I spend time together.
we have recently stopped trying while I decide what it is that I want to do. I am affraid however that we have had unprotected sex on fertile days and Im concerned that I might become pregnant and decide that I dont want to. ( will never have an abortion). also Im affraid that I will decide no and go back on the pill, then 3 months later I might feel is the right time and have to go through coming off the pill again.
What should I do? am I just affraid ? would love to hear everyones thoughts.:confused:

[limlib]

In my opinion you have done the right thing - if you are having second thoughts then stop trying to conceive. You say your other two children were teenage pregnancies which I guess still makes you only in your early twenties - so don't feel bad or a sense of urgency to get pregnant - you still have heaps of time to have another baby later. Or even another couple later close together like your first two.....

You don't want to go through with having a baby then later on always feel like you missed out on "living" your life as you put it in your post. No matter how much you love your children - it seems your intuition is telling you to wait and now is time for you. Besides the stronger your relationship with your husband and the happier you are in yourself the better you are as a parent to all your children ( I think so anyway).

The only person who really knows what is right for you is yourself so I say listen to lots of advice but ultimately go with your gut feeling. Good luck with your decision.

[moonblossom]

If in doubt DONT

[spiritedfamily]

Yes taking a pause to think about it a little more is wise. I am having my fifth baby and it has been tricky to make this decision for many reasons, finance, freedom, personal issues but when we took time out to listen to what our hearts wanted...then we were able to hear what was the right decision.

I didn't want to have regrets about whether I should have had another baby and I have always felt 5 was the right amount for us...I do believe that if your hearts are true and open, if God blesses you with a new life, he will provide for you too...it rests on a little faith.
I have not regretted any of my children and each one has come at trying times. I mean raising a family is challenging but I believe worth it!!! Our fourth has been a very happy baby and she brings me alot of joy, she is a contented soul.

good luck!!

[blessedmummy]

yeah.. i know the feeling.. im in two minds about having number three. my husband and i already have two beautiful girls, who are 3 and 22months, and im glad ive got two girls, i know that my husband would like another baby someday, (he would love a boy!) but not sure when??? should i wait a while? i was thinking maybe when the girls start school? is that too late? if we do have another baby then i would like to have it before im 30 ( my mum had me when she was 29) im 25 now, so would 3yrs be long enough? im unsure.. i know that deep down id love another baby... but unsure cause of the financial side and everything else...sigh...any advice?? :confused: