giving up work...or at least reducing hours

[new_mummy82]

yep its me again.....god i feel like all i do on here is whinge :o sorry but i just need a little advice.

i'm 15 weeks pg and i have this terrible pain in my groin and am getting extremely tired, really easily.......i really think i need to either give up work all together or reduce my hours, i'm not sure how to approach my boss or db about this subject. just yesterday db was talking about how much he wants us to have saved up and i was just thinking to myself "yes its all good and well to have plenty of money but what about the way i feel "physically and emotionally", i just get so exhausted at work about 3pm, it doesn't help that quite often i have nothing and i mean nothing to do at work, i go and ask if there's anything that needs to be done and they just say no so i pretty much sit there and twiddle my thumbs and i can't help thinking when that i happens, i could be at home getting some much need rest! just wondering if anyone has been through the same thing and has any suggestions on how i should go about approaching this with the boss and db:confused:

sorry again for all my whinging

[dragonflyblu]

Hi,

I decided to give up work. My decision was a little different because I had a choice to stay in sydney and work until I was 7 months along while my DH was in Brisbane, or give up work and be broke! (but at least I would be with my DH). I was at work for the first couple of months having random teary episodes and feeling exhausted. I am glad I gave up work and moved up to Brisbane early on in the pregnancy. Our money is really tight and sometimes I get stressed about it. Expecially when the bl*%dy hospital wants us to pay $75 for our antenatal classess within 5 days and we are down to our last $150 until next Friday - sorry a bit of a side winge!

Anyway, I looked at our money and looked at my stress levels at work and decided that this is our first and possibly only baby and I wanted to be as fit and healthy as I can be. Money is nice and it would be nice to be able to buy all the cute things rather than have to beg and borrow, but I know that in the long term I will go back to work and then I can buy our girl all the things she needs when she is older. So I am biased but I would err on the side of cutting down hours if you have a choice because to be truthful I feel great, I can sleep when I want but I am bored bored bored. So I would love to have a part time job right now just to keep me sane.:)

[Soontobe]

Hi, I quit work when I was around 14 weeks pregnant, because of tiredness and Morning sickness, it was easy just went into my boss and said "Im not coping with work because of my morning sickness, and I want to resign", she was fine with it.

Saying all that, after I left my morning sickness and tiredness stopped around 17/18 weeks, and I felt fine. So I regret not staying at work as I was just sitting around home alone bored, with less income, and I felt fine.

I just thought Id let you know this as the tiredness, ms and soreness goes, so you may want to wait it out a bit longer.

[*Sparkles*]

I am also 15 weeks and I work from home but I can choose my own hours. There is no way I would be able to hold down a job at a workplace. I have trouble getting out of bed in the morning and most arvo's I need a nap. I am soooo looking forward to having more energy again (I hope!).

The downside is that you do miss the income, my DH earns ok money but the business I do is only pocket money and I would earn more in a normal job. We only just make ends meet on one wage. I have decided that if I feel better when I get to the halfway mark, I might do a bit of office temping work for the last few months. Is this an option for you?

[HelloKitty]

I have just been through a similar decision and decided to quit. I work as a speech pathologist with lots of children in primary schools. Everyday many sick kids would come in and i have been getting cold after cold after cold. My GP said to take care of myself and the baby. So now i am doing paperwork for my husbands business 2 days a week. Its much better. Good luck, and do what your heart tells you to do.:yelclap:

[Cian's Mum]

Hi everyone.

I decided to stop working at 12 weeks ... I bled twice , nearly lost my BB the first time , so I mad up my mind ... it was not worth it ... I'm a nurse and I don't think it's the right job when you are PG !!!!

I think when it comes to pregnancy , what ever happens and what you are not comfortable with , pushing yourself does not worth it ...
We drop from 2 full time salary to one , big choc all the sudden , but we don't regret it ...
My Little Boy is still hanging on , he is tough so I need to do everything that I can to keep it this way ...

[newmum2one]

I worked right up until the day before DS was born, but had planned to leave about a month before he was due (he came early otherwise (30 weeks) that's what would have happened lol).
I wish I had left earlier, I was so sick, and I had 2 scares with him. DH and I are convinced that the stress of working in a legal office contributed to the problems with the pregnancy. My employers were very understanding with morning sickness and time off for ultrasounds etc but still I wish I had left sooner and not had so much emotional agony thinking I was losing the baby. The money came in handy but it would never have replaced DS.
Maybe if you talk to your boss and explain what's happening, they may adjust your hours or duties to help you cope.

[ourfirstbubba]

hello

can you try and reduce your hours at work? Considering that you have another 25 weeks until bub arrives, you might get bored at home for so long. I am due in eight weeks and work as a primary school teacher and I am just cutting back my hours now.....

At the end of the day its a decision that you have to make, but personally, I would get very bored at home all day every day, and being on one income makes things harder...also, if you stick it out a bit longer you will have something to look forward to...

good luck with your decision

[JoJoMart]

:yes: I know exactly what you mean. I've been really tired at work and by 3pm feel like going to sleep. I usually crash in front of the t.v. around 9pm each night too! But, I have to say at nearly 13 weeks I actually feel a bit more energetic so I feel I can keep working no problem. Just take it easy.

If you have a good boss then maybe you should reduce your hours or take a few days off? Even go and lie down in the sick room or something for a while when you are at work.

Good luck! Do what is right for you!!

Me (Joanne) 35
DH 38
1 fur baby
EDD 20th February 2007