Co-sleeping - single parent vs couple

[Mum2Bug]

Im sorry but I really just need to vent about this.

I've been reading some of the other threads about people who co-sleep with their children and I think that it is great. I co-sleep with DD who is 17 months old. The majority of people I have mentioned this to have been either supportive or indifferent in their opinions. A small handful of people have continually asked me when am i putting her back in her cot. Um hello...none of your business! My life and the way I choose to raise my daughter does not concern you. I don't ask when are you kicking the cat off the end of your bed do I?

Whilst chatting to a few friends regarding all of this I gathered from them that they didn't have a problem with me co-sleeping with DD as I am a single mum. But the next minute they were talking about how they think couples shouldn't be co-sleeping with their children. What the...? I dont personally see any difference so where did they come up with that one? And do they not realise its none of their business what goes on in our own homes?

I would be interested to hear from others on the subject...venting or opinions!

[LilShenanigans]

I'll reply to the first one (At 10 minutes earlier lol).

I think people are concerned about having two people in bed compared to one, as in men are 'usually' the heavy sleepers - a stereotypical point of view but it's there.
And that worry comes from fathers 'don't' have such a bond with children as mothers and are then more likely to roll over and cause harm...

But, it IS an old fashioned view and like all old fashioned stuff (old wives tales), they are hard to knock.

That's the only reason I can think of..

Meanwhile I'm still dealing with people saying I should put DD in her own room - I only just got her into a cot, I'm not ready!! lol

[Jenko]

Before i had DD i never thought we would co-sleep. She has just turned 2 and while she starts off in her own bed she ends up in ours every night. Do your friends have kids? I really think your opinions change when you have them....i know mine did! My friends without kids are the first to say "oh, when are you going to get her in her own bed?" Really! Why do they even care?? :rolleyes:

As you said it's none of their business, who cares if they agree with you or not. People always seem to have an opinon about co-sleeping. It could be what MumForOne said....about men being heavier sleepers and the possibility of rolling on the child....who knows?

[Mum2Bug]

Ok thanks for that!