stillborn :(

[soon to be mum of 4]

Just found out my very good friends twin sister had to deliver her stillborn baby today she was 7.5months pregnant...not sure what i can do, feeling awful, and scared it could happen to me too!!! How does any lady get thru that, its my very worst fear and now its happened to someone close....

[MissWinter]

I'm so sorry for your friend :( I can't imagine how hard that would be to go through... I'm so paranoid about it :| I hope she's as ok as she can be...and I hope you're ok too :(

[Misschief]

Awwwwww Im so so sorry to hear about your friend's loss :( :hugs:Cheer up hun, its not likely it would happen to you too. Just make sure you get yourself checked if you have even the smallest suspicion something's not right.:hugs:

P.S. I almost had a stillborn. Thats why my little one was forced to be delivered premature :(

[SCORPIOGEMINI]

There are no words that could describe the pain that your friend would be in.
Be there for her:hugs::hugs:thats the best thing you can do.

Me:valentine:Hubby
DD1-7yrs:cloud9: DD2-5yrs:smiliedance: Blessed Twice:yes:
TTC#3

[Bellini]

That is so tragic :( It was one of my biggest fears when I was pregnant with DS, as it happened to my friend. But it's very rare, so try not to stress ladies (easier said than done, I know).

[iizman]

Im sorry to hear that about your friend.

Do you know what happened if there was something wrong or it just kinda happened?

[tired*mummy]

Poor love :hugs::hugs: I have been thru that experience. My son was stillborn 36 weeks & i still have my days where i'm upset. Not a day goes by that i dont think of him. We just found out today that we are expecting a boy this time & i feel a little worried but also very happy & excited after having 3 girls.
There isnt much that you can do really, except be there for her & her family. Let them know how sorry you are for them etc. Send a card or flowers. I found the worst & hardest part for me was the funeral because all my friends & family were there and i just couldn't face them or the whole thing. I wanted to grieve but felt i needed to be strong for all of them & my DH, so i never got the chance too until i was alone or with DH. It is something she will never get over & her family & her need time alone.

Oh & BTW its not rare... not to scare anyone but it happens alot more than you think! Where my DS is buried there are far too many others there with him. Its extremely sad & every time we go to visit him there is at least one or two more there.

[moonbeams]

hi,i am so sorry to hear your friends news,i know how you feel my brother&sister in law lost there son in january during the birth cord went above his head cut off blood which freaked me out,to put my mind at reast docs will monitor me&baby during labour but io am still worryed even if it was rear event with only 10 weeks to go i am started to feel carmer i just have to go in with positive thoughts.

[soon to be mum of 4]

Thanks ladies, my friend is going to send her bub for a post mortem on monday, but so far all they know is part of the umbilical was very thin?? she is just spending a little time with him, before she has to say goodbye for good. Her twin sister is presently on a flight back from the UK to be with her :(

[2fatbubbas]

Our thoughts are will you all

[Josh]

My 4th child was stillborn 12yrs ago and the painfull memory is still there, and the thing is it just happens. my bub was ok at every scan even the 20 wk scan and a few wks later I just felt like I was dying inside and knew she had gone:( I was too scared to go to hospital cause I knew what they were going to say and the experience of them trying for literally hrs to find a heartbeat is devestating:(, I can understand your friends pain :hugs:

[SpecialPatrolGroup]

So sorry to hear that sad news. I think that is every pregnant womans fear (I know it was mine, along side dying in childbirth). If you feel you want to do something, you could make a donation to a foundation that researches neonatal death and supports people in her situation, such as Bonnie Babes. All you can do is be a friend and let her know if she needs anything to call on you.

[Pinkzy]

:hugs: to yourself, your friend, tiredmummy, Josh and to anyone who's been through this.

I can't even imagine the heartbreak, I really can't :(