Thinking of TTC number 3 .....

[mytwolilprinces]

Should I go for it or not? My husband and I both want 4 children. Just not sure when to expand our little clan?

I have two boys the eldest is just over 2yrs and the youngest is almost 8 months. They are both the sweetest little angels and on good days I think "ok, I'm ready now for number 3 ) but then I have days like the last couple.

DS2 has had Bronchiolitis and has been terribly sick. He is not feeding, not breathing to well and is on medication. Of course DS1 is horribly jealous so has been acting up to get my attention. It's times like this that I think "what if I was pregnant now, how could I cope?" With both pregnancies I had hypermesis ( extreme morning sickness ) and was hospitalised with both at some stage.

Perhaps the "smart" thing to do would be to wait until the boys are a little older - my heart says just do it and worry about the potential problems later, my brain says "are you nuts!"

My mum is constantly telling me "don't you dare have anymore" which I hate hearing because what is she going to say when I do eventually have more - I would hope she would be happy for me!

Would love to hear from anyone who had 3 kids under the age of 5 - how scary is it really:D

[Smitten]

Hi. I only have one child at the moment and my mum is saying "dont dare have another!!!!"

Youre young, your babies are still young, wait a bit...

[bronny-jane]

i'll have 3 in september:D
my youngest is 2 and my oldest is 3 1/2 nearly:D
to be honest im not sure how much more work it will be, but i cant see much difference between 2 and 3:D
my dd's are excited about another baby coming:yes:

[meshan]

I am going through exactly the same dilema as you at the moment. I think the decison to have a 3rd is just as hard as the decision to have number 1. Here are some things I have been mulling over

Can you afford it - not just now but when they are teenagers, feeding 3 teenage boys? School fees, excursions, sports, uni fees etc

What if the 3rd child has special needs? What if they have a disability? How will this affect your family?

Are you deep down hoping for a girl and if that doesn't happen how will you feel?

Have you got the support you need to cope with an extra child from your partner, family, friends etc?

As I said it is a huge decison and one I am having trouble making myself. I will be interested to hear what other people think.

[bronny-jane]

dont do it just in case you get a baby of the opposite sex.....im going to have 3 daughters, now this one isnt even here and dh is talking about trying for a son:eek:

i told him yeah no worries, i hope his mums nice:D

[Lozie]

Me too! My youngest is now 6 months and has just finished up with boobie! :crying:
And now i am starting to miss the little baby things! he is already soo idenpendant so is my 19 mnth old! i love being pregnant and giving birth! and that new baby smell! we arnt ttc, but hey we're just doing what nature intended and if it happens it happens! We will be blessed again. Maybe u should look at it that way? :thumbsup:

[Funkychicken]

Hi JR'SMUM,
My big two are that bit older and were 5 and 7 when Hamsih arrived but I still had all the concerns about how I would cope etc... What I didn't expect was that powerful fulfilling impact that having another baby can create. I jsut felt so much more of a woman and mum when he arrived.
I honestly don't think there is a right time or wrong time. It really just comes down to taking a leap of faith. My recommendation-if you feel ready for another one, then you probably are.:thumbsup:

[Maybe3]

Jr's mum - reading your post made me feel like I was reading my own thoughts!

DS 1 is nearly 2 and a half and DS 2 is nearly 5 months. I have been desperate to start TTC for no 3 since he was 6 weeks old!

I am struggling with these feelings so much as I had quite a negative experience (the birth and first few months) with no 1, but then No 2 was the complete opposite. I loved being pregnant, I loved giving birth (I can't believe I actually think that, but I do) and I have really enjoyed 95% of his first 5 months!

I feel like I was ripped off the first time and so I want to do it again!

My head tells me to wait especially when we have weeks like we have just had where both of them have been waking through the night every hour, but my heart just says what the hell just go for it!

I went back onto the pill after nearly 4 years off it and it seriously played up with everything, so I have now stopped taking it and am very tempted to just let fate decide!

[mytwolilprinces]

Thanks everyone for your input! We have pretty much decided we will definatley have another - the catalyst was a recent death of a friends son from SIDS (he was 20 months which is rare but it can happen ) it made us realise that there is nothing more important then having children - we cherish our sons so much and I have been in tears since hearing the news a week ago and can not forget the devastation of the parents at the funeral :crying:

DH has basically decided he wants 4 - so I guess I better start thinking about number 3.

I know it will be a lot more expensive having another but at the end of the day as long as the children get a tonne of love, having a little less money isn't going to matter to them.

In saying all that, I will wait until early next year before letting nature take it's course (unless there is an "accident" :laughing: )

Thanks again everyone.