so alone

[kittykat82]

i had prenatal with my daughter and im started to feel it again with this one on the way, whats wrong with me i just feel so alone and finding things harder to cope with....i cant stop crying, i should be happy but im not....whats wrong with me, i have a partner but i feel i cant talk to him i tried the other night and it was like he didnt care...im at a lose, i want to run away....
i had it bad with my first as i was with a very violent abusive partner, i left him through the pregnancy but i still suffered after him, is it just my hormones playing up on me again remembering everything he did,
i get no help from anyone ever with my daughter n my mum lives 5 mins away, she cares about her bf more than her daughter n grand daughter, i hate it
i have no friends and noone to talk to, im just over it all.....dont wanna try anymore....:no:

[Pax]

During my last pregnancy I had the option through our local public hospital to be part of a mental wellness group. Could I suggest you call your hospital and ask if they have support in this area for you. Which hospital you attending?

[WorkingClassMum]

** bump **

[cwsmum]

aww! don't be sad! you have us :D you know where i live, if you need anything just ask! silly billy!

[Jen3910]

Hey, don't forget there's always people on here who care.
And it may not be your other half "not caring", from my experience it's a guy thing.
Unless you walk up to them and say "I'm upset because.....", they don't even notice!

Go to your local hospital or doctor, and talk to them. There's plenty of support groups out there.

[Amstine]

Kitty kat I am in a great relationship - I have a wonderful family and some great friends.

However, I know just how you feel! I feel like all my fears, anxieties and trauma from my past is hitting me like a brick. I couldn't stop crying the other day, I cried until I threw up and physically could not keep crying. I felt like the world was ending - I thought I was feeling better- but I spat the dummy again today and got angry this time.

I think it's a good time to realise that this is okay - we feel like this - we are NORMAL! Just not everybody has the same experience - however, from what I have read - alot of women do go through this.

I am trying to pull back my commitments, reduce stress, and communicate my feelings to people I trust. It's scary to be so vulnerable - but I need to if I am going to be mentally prepared to love my baby and my husband.

Don't worry about your partner seeming like he doesn't care - my husband finds it so hard as he doesn't know what to say or do and feels the need to withdraw or even ignore my emotions.

I managed to calm down enough tonight to talk it through with him and he's just being a man, he can't fix it and he feels upset and hurt that I feel upset and I realised that he doesn't want to hurt me - he's just not a trained counsellour! My emotions affect him deeply and he can;t cope any more than I can!

Don't shut yourself away - unless you need to for a time - don't let the emotions beat you - you are going through a major life event that takes a lot of guts.

You need support and that's okay and normal - it's a big deal. I am trying to face up to being weak and needing to just be pregnant at the moment. I need to reply on the very people I am letting down, that sucks to me but is necessary.

I really pray and hope that you find a good friend/counsellour/support group - people will care more than you think they will. :hugs:

( I recommend relationships Australia if you do decide to go to a counsellour).

[3'llhavetodo]

I feel your pain.

My little piece of advice go to your local health clinic and see if you can join a post natal depression group. Or at the very least get some help from some kind of social worker. Over the past year I have done it all; Councellors, pshychologists, psychiatrists, social worker coming to my house, PND group

Try anything everything :hugs::hugs: